Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I have two questions, but first about graves.

I'm talking about “graves,” Sometimes, “Why don't you buy a grave?” I'm getting a phone call saying. Every time I did that, I refused, saying, “It's there, so it's fine.” However, the person at the company says, “Wouldn't it be better to keep your ancestors' graves nearby from now on? As you...

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Can't you be recognized if you haven't had a hard time

Since I was single, my relationships and work often didn't go well, and I was struggling without knowing anyone. I was finally able to meet a good person, so I had a happy time for a while after getting married, but my relatives and people around me also told me behind the scenes that I hadn't...

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The meaning of living

My husband and I were widowed 13 years ago and have no children. It's a qualified job, so I managed not to have trouble with work even after my bereavement I'm 50 years old, and in my future where I'm only getting old I don't have any hope. Even if I get a job, it's still 10 more years. I...

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What is the Tokyo Temple Festival “Mukogen”

2013/4/29 (Monday/holiday) at 3 temples and 4 Shinagawa shrines in Shinagawa, Tokyo What is the biggest event called Mukogen that takes place? http://www.kohgen.org/ There are many fascinating hands-on workshops, but more than monks Please tell us your enthusiasm and thoughts * This is...

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Daughter's death

I have a family with a husband, eldest daughter 15 years old, and second daughter 10 years old. The day before the junior high school graduation ceremony two months ago, my eldest daughter collapsed in the morning and passed away half a day after being carried away. It was caused by a malignant...

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What is Shingi no worship

I am a disciple of the Honganji school. In the Shinshu sect, from the standpoint of devotion to Mida Ichibutsu, it seems like a rule not to enshrine a kamidana or receive prayers, fortune telling, etc. However, I cooperate with local shrine festivals as a parishioner, and on New Year's, I go to...

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Invisible forces work

The customer store I'm in charge of often closes, The person in charge is transferred, the person in charge stops, and people often leave There are times when a machine does not move, or it may malfunction by mistake. My everyday mind is hurt, and when I get home I'm centered and have no...

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I can't sleep at night because I'm worried when I'm in a relationship

I have a lover I'm in a relationship with, and I can't help but be worried that just emails and phone calls are a little slow will cool down my feelings or that they're being cheated on. If I keep saying to my lover that I want them to email me more, I can't say it because they seem to dislike...

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I'm in a hurry to look for a job and regret it.

I quit my previous job and received the IT company of my first choice to learn from scratch, but the results were disappointing. After that, I found a job thinking about which path I should go, and I had to work for the time being, but I got sick and retired due to nothing but negative things...

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I feel embarrassed to be alive

I'm posting a question for the first time. My grandmother passed away 4 years ago, and as a grandmother, I was very sad at the time. But at the same time, around that time, I began to feel ashamed that I was alive. In the few years since my grandmother passed away, not only the person herself...

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It's Hard to Raise Children Just Because They Get Angry at Kids

I have a 2 year old boy. Recently, I've had a habit of saying “I don't like it,” and I'm not calm. The number of scenes where people get angry because they don't listen to what they say has increased quite a bit. I'm so angry myself that I've never seen anyone this angry outside. Of course,...

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What does it mean to suffer at the end

My biological father died of cancer last year. When my father dies, it's common for terminal cancer patients to die (?) He died in a state where he “had no place to put his place.” At the funeral, my father's friend said, “My face has changed.” I cannot help but regret not being able to pass...

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I don't have room in my mind and can't even think about others

Do your best for yourself. I'm busy every day because I have a lot of work to remember. People tell me to be kind to others, but I really can't even care about people. I'm important to myself.

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I'm suffering from infertility

Nice to meet you. It's been 8 years since I got married, and I'm still worried because I haven't been blessed with children. Although they were pregnant several times at the beginning of their marriage, they had repeated miscarriages, and recently they are in a situation where even signs of...

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Will you keep getting lost for the rest of your life

I've been using this service for a few years. The child that was in my wife's stomach at the time of the latest question is now cheerfully crawling under my feet. Well, now I'm in the position of a father, but my personality doesn't change for better or worse, does it? I still make a lot of...

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Is the effort worth it?

There's no point in just making an effort. If there are no results, then the way you put in the effort is wrong. There is no point in a wrong effort. I think this is correct. Between childhood and student life, I think we should praise the effort itself and the process. This is because it is...

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Jealousy of people who can do things I can't

Recently, I sometimes feel “jealous of people who can do things I can't do.” For example, it's about pianos. When I was a kid, I told my parents that I wanted to learn piano, but for financial reasons, I had no choice but to give up. Therefore, until I became an adult, I always organized...

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What is the probability of going to humanity out of the six roads

(Written by my 5 year old son. (I'm sorry for the kid's question, but the person himself is very serious.) I've heard that people go somewhere out of the six roads when they die. I want to be reborn as a human again. ・How many people can go to the humanitarian community? ・How can I...

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Disappearing mountain villages and myself unable to do anything are empty

Nice to meet you, please forgive me for making this a bit long. After I graduated from college, I worked as a white-collar worker in an urban area. I myself was born in a rural area on a flatland, but my parents are from an abandoned village deep in the mountains, and I was often taken from an...

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About Kouten's new banknote

Thank you for always taking the time to consult with us. I posted it because I wanted to get your opinions on the new Kosen bill. As described in previous consultations, my sister died 20 days after it was discovered too late when she was found to have terminal cancer. That was February of this...

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