Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is suffering really an illusion

I've read many of your answers about suffering here. As for the answer that suffering is a delusion, an illusion created by the mind, I was quite right. But I just can't believe that this suffering is an illusion I created. It's too strong for an illusion, has substance, and far exceeds my...

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Is it OK to be alive

It makes me want to disappear, and I think it would be better if it disappeared. I don't feel like I'm going to be anything even if I'm alive. No matter where I am, this thought swirls around and it becomes painful. Self-injury also recurred, and when I noticed it, I cut my hands and wrists....

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What does it mean to get married to a divorced person

I'm married to a divorced man. Is that embarrassing? My real mother says it's a laughing matter for all my relatives, but is that laughing? Do people laugh at it? Today, 1 out of 3 couples in the world are divorced. Therefore, I think there is a high possibility that they will marry someone...

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I'm doing well even though it's still 1 year since I was widowed from my husband

Hello. I lost my beloved husband last year due to illness. I have 3 children. I can't talk to anyone, and it's painful, so I want them to listen to it. As the title suggests, I'm still doing very well even though it's only been 1 year since my husband passed away. I feel so disgusted with...

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I keep wishing for my husband to die every day

We are a family of four: a husband who is moraharu, an eldest son who is 21 years old and the eldest daughter is 19 years old. So much so that it's almost 365 days every day My husband keeps on cursing me. Not just about me, kids tidy up and other things When there's something you couldn't...

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Why are men so stupid

I would like to ask you a simple question. I often hear stories about the man having an affair or making his partner pregnant. Also, there are plenty of men who don't mind treating women as friends with benefits. I think humans are creatures that don't know what to do when they're stressed....

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About the lover who chose suicide

It may be difficult to see because empty lines cannot be inserted. I'm sorry. My lover committed suicide. I'm ashamed to say it myself, but there were no fights, they were really important to each other, and I felt loved every day. I haven't seen it when I heard it from my family, but the...

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What do you think about modern people who are swayed by SNS?

As is the case with me, there are more than a few people who get swayed by SNS. I feel pleasure in getting approval from others as “likes,” and I am immersed in a sense of superiority compared to those around me, and I lose my confidence and become depressed. It may seem ridiculous when you...

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Isn't it difficult to accept your concerns?

I'm indebted to you. I was able to use this consultation, and I am aware that I have come out of the worst time in my life thanks to you. I'm ruminating on the words I've received, and I'm supporting my heart. It's a valuable way to feel connected to the modern age where relationships tend to be...

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How should we deal with greed that makes us have high hopes?

Hello. I didn't know how to deal with my own desires, so I consulted. First of all, please allow me to include content that looks at yourself from above on the shelf. Recently, I had my first girlfriend. Luckily, they have good personality compatibility and enjoy being in a relationship...

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How to deal with trauma and emotional suffering

I'm indebted to you. I wanted to ask about ways to deal with emotional distress. After doing a quick investigation, I felt that there are two ways to deal with mental suffering. One is that mental suffering is created by one's own mental habits, so it's a way to change mental habits by...

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Does Buddhist practice train wisdom?

It's all of a sudden, but I'm in trouble because my head is too bad. Even when I think about things, it's hard to understand the answers, and it takes a tremendous amount of time until the answers come out. I always feel lost. I'm sure this is also due to my poor wisdom. If you practice...

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I'm afraid of loneliness and I'm going to live

I'm not good at dealing with people. This is because there are weaknesses in various places. (Good appearance, good intelligence, Growing up, etc.) I'm not good at it, and since I've avoided relationships, I haven't been recognized by anyone I don't have a shred of self-respect. Right now,...

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What should I work hard for first?

I don't know what or what to start with, even if I think for myself. The current situation is no good, so I just have a feeling that something must be changed, and I can't take action. I can't think of a clear goal for myself. I was bullied → truancy → high school dropout → withdrawal →...

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There is no hope

I've already continued to consult with places where I can consult (parents, psychiatry, counseling, school teachers, internet bulletin boards, etc.). But why do we feel that we are gradually becoming childish and that our range of thought is getting narrower? Even after experiencing bullying...

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After talking to people, I feel dark.

I always feel dark after talking to people. I'm worried about a lot of things, such as “I should have said that at that time” or “those words hurt people.” I want you to tell me words that will make you feel happy even after talking to people. Thank you for your support.

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How to prevent “arrogance” towards the father-in-law

My father began to place value on dying naturally from around the age of 60, distanced himself from medical treatment from around age 70, died with dignity due to terminal cancer of the digestive organs, and was cared for by his family at home before reaching the age of 80. They had conversations...

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Can ghosts be seen?

hello! My senior (male in his 50s) at work seems to have a strong sense of inspiration, and the spirits of my senior's dead father and mother often help me It tells me the story. Other than that, it seems that spirits from friends who have passed away are also coming to see Senpai! Because...

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I'm not afraid to die.

I graduated from college in March of this year and became a new member of society. However, due to the effects of the novel coronavirus, work hasn't started yet. When I was a student, I had goals of going on to college, graduating, and getting a job, and that was the meaning of my...

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Workplace harassment from married women

Thank you for your support, and thank you for taking the time to consult with us before. However, I am now being harassed by a married woman at work who asked me questions before. Next time If work is intentionally transferred here and you pretend not to notice it, In a personal chat used...

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