Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I was told again... (ToT)

Today, my mother came home from her morning work at the temple I was suddenly made to stand on the edge of a cliff, and mercifully told me that if I didn't pray at the temple, my whole body would hurt and I wouldn't be saved... Every time I listen to this, I think in my heart that it will...

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I want to end a life that isn't going well

I'm a female graduate graduate in her 30s. I don't have any friends, I'm not on good terms with my family, and it's hard to live. I wanted to have a family of my own, so I registered with a marriage agency, but even after meeting various people for close to a year, no one likes them. I think...

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Do children choose their parents to be born?

As for the baby, I saw that they chose that mother was good and that father was good However, since I was born, I am mildly intelligent, have ADHD, depression, got divorced during pregnancy, and am single If I were to choose, would they have come after knowing that too? Kids are so...

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What is a parent

As the title suggests, I'm worried about what parents should be like for children. A guide, someone who shows the right path, the person who understands the best, who gently watches... I don't think there's anything right. I wonder if all the answers are correct and they are all different. I think

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Please help.

I'm asking this question because I don't have anyone I can rely on anymore. As you read my profile, I'm aiming for medical school. Originally, I would have to play blackjack, but shamefully, I can't even cure my own mental illness. So I would like you to listen to your concerns in the hope that...

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I'm interested in Buddhism and monks!

I am currently These are autonomic nervous ataxia, panic disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. As a result, I started doing sutras, zazen sessions, and visiting shrines and temples. Apart from my obsession when I hear that monks do the first cleaning in the morning, I only clean my...

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Tips for not getting frustrated

I'm frustrated by raising children and selfish remarks made by others. I've always had a short temper, but when I'm frustrated, my husband says “books that don't irritate you” They recommended self-enlightenment books like that, so I read them. A rough explanation of the book is, “Life...

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rebellious period for middle school boys?

It's about the eldest son in middle 3. Until now, there have been no particular problems with raising children I've made it this far without scolding. I've been playing baseball since elementary school. After the summer when my club activities were over, I lost motivation at all When...

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The monk's

Hello. I have questions and consultations. I'm currently in a relationship with a monk, and I'm thinking about the future. However, there are times when people say “it's hard being a monk's wife” or “I know a monk, but the wife seems to be having a hard time.” Of course, he, and his family...

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Why are otaku discriminated against

The other day, my classmate made a statement that discriminated against otaku, so I asked this question. I'm an otaku myself, and I love anime, manga, and two-dimensional characters. I also talk about anime with my friends at school. The problem occurred during that school's lunch...

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Are kids good at bumping or snoring?

　When there's something I don't like, the switch suddenly turns on, and the person changes. Their facial expressions and wording have changed, and they look like yakuza. This is also true for my own children, and I usually say “Haru-chan, ehehehe.” I'm doting on it, but for example, if...

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I was told by a worshiper that my baby would be born with some kind of disability

Nice to meet you. I'm a stay-at-home mom living with my parents-in-law. On a daily basis, I was swayed by my mother-in-law's interference and disputes with my parents-in-law, and I was worried, so I decided to have a worship shop take a look at it at the suggestion of an acquaintance. As a...

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I'd like to do a memorial service without a Buddhist altar

This is my first time asking a question. I was widowed from my biological father when I was young, and now both mother and child are together I'm staying with my grandparents. At my current house, it's a Buddhist altar for my maternal ancestors It takes the form of offering incense...

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I don't know what to believe

I don't belong to any religion or denomination in particular, but for the first time, I go to shrines, my relatives' graves are at temples, and Christmas feels somehow special, so I buy cakes. It seems that people from overseas are surprised by this kind of situation, but even from a monk's...

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I want to abandon greed and expectations

I don't like continuing to live a life swayed by greed and expectations. I want to throw it away and become a person who doesn't want anything and doesn't expect anything. However, greed springs up without permission, and it is impossible not to have expectations or be intentional. How can we...

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Should I start an independent business

　I'm indebted to you. I am a dentist working at a dental clinic specializing in orthodontics. I've been working for 5 years and I'm not sure whether to start an independent business. When I first started working, I wanted to go back to my hometown, and I was conscious that I would...

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I want to stop being social

A few years have passed since I became addicted to idol training social games. Also, in a certain game, my recommended idol appeared in the so-called gacha, but no matter how much money I had accumulated, I couldn't scout that idol from the gacha. Honestly, it's so painful that I want to...

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What is a job

I've been in sales for about 8 years. At first, I did my favorite beauty job as a contract employee, took a promotion exam considering the salary aspect, and started working at household goods 3 years ago. I've been in charge of leadership since last year. Seeing people smile in customer...

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How far can a monk spend luxury and money for himself?

If there are any typographical errors, etc., please forgive us. This time, I wanted to hear the opinions of various monks about what I felt the other day, so I posted it. It's hard to ask, but I have the courage to ask. I would be happy if there was a monk I could go out with. The other...

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I did something I shouldn't have done

Nice to meet you, my name is Minato. Yesterday, I did something I shouldn't have done. I'm sorry for not being able to write in detail. If I had checked it properly, this wouldn't have happened. I couldn't sleep at night when I thought about why I had done this. When I thought about...

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