Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

My husband lies over and over again.

I have a husband who has been married for 3 years. There were so many lies from the beginning of our marriage that were discovered later, causing me and my family a lot of trouble. Mainly about money and work-related matters. It always makes me feel like I have to look at it with suspicion...

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Why do men give birth to women

Giving birth is life-threatening, isn't it? Both men and women should know this. It's sad when someone you love dies, isn't it? It's natural. Then why would a man risk the life of the woman he loves and even give birth to a child? If you really love them, would you go out of your...

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I hate myself more and more

I asked questions here several times, and each time I received an answer from the monk. Thank you very much. I'm sorry for asking these questions over and over again, even though I've received learned answers. I tried many things to prepare my mind, but I feel like my state of mind and my...

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Giving up and small desires

I often go to conveyor belt sushi to eat rice. For the most part, I go there about 1 day a week. This is a question in response to what I noticed there. Almost every time at conveyor belt sushi, my stomach feels empty after eating 22 plates (44 pieces) and 1 cup of blue miso soup. Today I...

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anxiety about the future and politics

Coupled with anxiety about my future There is so much anxiety about politics these days that nothing can be done. I'm often distracted only by that, and I don't think it should stay this way, and above all else, it's painful. I watched the hometown issue and how the number of immigrants...

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What do you think about gender equality?

Recently, due to influences from Europe and the United States, discussions have begun on the realization of gender equality, but what do monks think about that theme?

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I want to stop hating my parents

I still haven't forgiven my parents, and my grief continues. It's a January story of this year, and my mother said, “I want you to leave next year because nursing is difficult,” even though she knew I had fallen ill at work, went to a psychiatrist, and even though she knew she wanted to die. It...

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I want to hold a memorial service for the deceased that I wanted to be close to...

This is my first time consulting with you. Recently, someone I had been in a relationship with for about 27 years passed away due to illness. We had just talked on the phone 3 weeks before he passed away... I still can't believe that he passed away, there are no tears, and I'm in a state...

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The self that lives only in my head

　I'm a graduate student doing biological research. I live only in my head, probably because I've been studying Every day, about research, about the future, about relationships I'm tired of just thinking about things like that. It was as if I was in a prison called thinking, and I got out of...

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I want to be a stone without a grave

After my death, I want to be a stone without entering a grave. I love stones and crystals, and since I was a kid, I wanted to be a stone when I died. I began to think so after watching a TV program where a bereaved family member processed bones and kept them close to their skin. That person...

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I don't know what's good and what's bad

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/11695 The content is similar to the continuation of the question above. In my 30s, I began to have questions about “what is good and what is bad” about the above matters. You can't do it yourself, but it's no good if someone else does it. Things that were...

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How to reduce stress and pressure

My current job has a lot of work, and it's a job where failure is not allowed, and I'm doing it alone, so I can't quit. I know it's better to keep going for a long time, but that's the limit. How can I reduce stress and pressure?

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I want to lose weight but I overeat

Thank you for always being there. I'm 155 cm and my current weight is about 45 kg. I used to be very thin, but now I gained weight in the winter. I'm trying my best to lose weight, but I've overeaten and it's not going well. I can't vomit, so I'm getting fat. I don't have anything, I thought I...

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I want to get rid of this crime. I really regret it.

When I was in elementary school, I saw women's underwear on my smartphone, which triggered me to become a so-called panchilla fetishist. Also, there is that, Out of sheer luck, I took a voyeur of a woman's skirt, and I've photographed many women until now. It'll be fine if they don't find...

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I don't want anyone to interfere

I'm tired of relationships so much that I don't want to get involved with people Being involved with someone more than necessary is also heavy for me now However, there are times when I feel lonely, so what should I do in that case?

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Japanese attitudes towards religion and emerging religions

I think there is a trend in Japan where it is somehow difficult to talk about politics and religion even in close relationships. For example, even within my family, I feel somewhat stuck when the political parties I support are different. What do monks think about the Japanese trend where it's...

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I avoid socializing too much.

I'm a working woman in her 20s. I've been avoiding relationships for a long time. There are days when I only say hello at work. Our old friend relationships have also been interrupted since then, and all of them have been cut off. Everyone is kind and nice, yet for some reason it makes...

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I want to stop words and attitudes that hurt people at work

Nice to meet you. This is the person who became independent last year and started running a company. It has just been launched and the company is in an unstable situation, In order to provide services that are useful to more people, I work day and night (even on holidays, of...

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About the 48 wishes of Amida Nyorai

this is ○○wow. Nice to meet you. Thank you for your support. I heard it from a lucky person, and it came to me when there was something called Amida Buddha's 48 Wishes. It's a number like today's popular idol, so I was curious and looked it up, Should I call it the center's wish? It seems...

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I want to reflect on the actions that occurred

I want to reflect on the actions I have taken. I am a 39-year-old married man with a wife and a family of 4 children aged 5 and 1. Starting this year, we both quit the company we worked for for many years, and I worked as a freelancer, and my wife is also working at a new company. My wife is...

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