Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Tomb ginseng

Is Grandma who left for heaven on Eve watching me? I want to meet Grandma. I want to talk to Grandma. I'm lonely. I want to have Christmas with my grandma.

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I'm having trouble balancing nursing care and work.

Please show wisdom, monk. I have a father in his 80s who has cancer. I am recuperating at home with no chance of a complete cure. Make breakfast before going to work and dinner when you get home We make, prepare baths, etc., and provide nursing care. When I'm at work, I ask my wife and...

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What is lost thought or enlightenment?

Thank you for always learning about life. Thanks to that, I became interested in Buddhism, and little by little, I am reading books and learning. Among them, there are things I think about my ancestors and life, and I would like to ask you questions. I've heard that many of my ancestors during...

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About the hand memorial service for opening eyes

Hello. As for the question, I would like to split a small amount of bone from the grave and make a memorial service. At that time, is an eye opening memorial service necessary? I've heard that souls don't dwell in remains, so if you don't do an eye opening memorial service, the deceased's...

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Isn't it impossible to have a new relationship due to trauma

I had a boyfriend I was in a relationship with. I met him on a matching app, and he confessed that it was because he had a very type of face. However, when I met him one day when I was tired and lacked sleep, they complained that my skin was rough or that my face was different from the...

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why

Three years have passed since we became friends of 30 years into an adulterous relationship. I didn't want a divorce. But recently, I had a bad feeling, and when I did a lot of research, I found other affair partners. When I questioned my partner because it was vicious and pathetic, they said it...

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Trouble with colleagues

This is my first time consulting. My name is Kato. I contacted you to discuss my relationship with a colleague at work. I had a mental disorder in my first year as a member of society, decided on a day's work while consulting with my boss, and received consideration of leaving work on time...

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I don't want to watch the news

I don't want to watch the news. Recently I looked around and found a dead body. ○ days have passed since his death. It looks like murder. This kind of news has been circulating every day recently, and to be clear, I don't understand why they kill people so easily, but it makes me...

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Can't a person from an ordinary household become a temple wife?

The guy I'm in a relationship with is the successor to the temple, but people in the temple have married each other from generation to generation, and it is said that it is useless if they are from a normal household. ① Because it's a small temple, the number of parishioners won't increase...

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Ahead of disease treatment

I have lung cancer, and it has spread to lymph, and I have had three surgeries. There seems to be almost no five-year survival rate. Even so, I worked hard together with my family, lived up, and took the path of life. However, it has spread again, and now I am undergoing anticancer drug treatment...

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Is it bad to hold a memorial service for the 33rd anniversary?

I'm a housewife in my 50s. The 33rd death of my paternal grandmother at my parents' house and my older brother's wife is approaching. Instead of asking the family temple for the 33rd anniversary memorial service, isn't it a substitute for the 33rd anniversary memorial service in the Kyogi...

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Why do we believe in Kannon

I'm still immature, but I'm a monk of the Soto sect, and I'm studying a lot. Then I suddenly wondered why they enshrine and believe in things that don't exist (I don't know if they exist), such as Kannon, Amida Nyorai, and Daikokuten. Buddha looks at himself rather than praying to gods and...

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I'm going to tell a lie

I have an older sister who is 5 years older. A few years ago, when we were talking about whether my older sister is married at work, I lied about the fact that my older sister is married and that her husband is a good person. My sister is not married. At that time, there was frequent talk of...

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How to deal with a boyfriend while living together

I made an appointment yesterday to have a drink with my living partner However, when I got home earlier, I had already started drinking in the evening, and I got tired from working overtime every day and fell asleep, so I completely missed my promise The content below was sent on LINE after I...

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I can't verbalize what I felt

When I'm in a fight with my boyfriend, something inside of me gets caught up in what my boyfriend said, and the conversation often stops. “What did you think?” I can't answer that even when asked. When asked that, they always said “I don't know,” but when something similar happened recently, they...

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On religion...

I'm sorry for your busy schedule. My parents belong to a certain religion. Always before the Buddhist altar in the morning If something happens, I always report it to the Buddha. do you work for things that happen? I'm scolded for chanting. My grandmother and all the religious people...

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Until what age do Buddhists live

At about what age is it possible to enter the Buddhist priesthood?

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Anxious about the future and loneliness are painful

This is my first time consulting. I'm sorry if this is random. Currently, I have two problems. ① About work I've been working as a designer since this year. Thankfully, the work environment is very good, and I learn a lot every day. However, there are many applications for design...

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I don't like weak bodies that quickly get sick.

From around the time I was over 20, I often got sick quickly, and it often became a rare illness, and when I thought one illness got better, something went wrong again, and I spend my time feeling uneasy every day. I'm still sick right now. There is also a saying that sickness comes from...

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I want to start over with my boyfriend who was swamped

We were in a relationship for about 5 months, but I didn't appreciate his kindness or compassion, and I took it for granted, and by treating him selfishly due to my own stress, I made him angry when I met him about 3 days ago, and in the end, they unilaterally told me over the phone that we would...

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