Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Negative emotions that suddenly come to mind

When we're having a good time, there are times when we think about things that make us feel uneasy or uncomfortable. It's not that I'm worried or worried about anything. I've been working since spring of this year, and I've been able to get a job in the industry I wanted, the company...

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I can't go visit graves

They are people who are tired of life because so many things have overlapped. I'm looking for videos on YouTube and watching spiritual sites to see how to improve my life. Then, many people said, “It's important to go visit graves.” There were even people who said they would be unhappy if they...

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What is Let's take care of ourselves?

The phrase let's take care of ourselves is very popular these days, isn't it? So I decided to take good care of myself I praised myself I looked back on my everyday life, chewed on things I took for granted, and praised myself “well done” However, probably because I valued myself too much, I...

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Are the two sides of the Jodo Shinshu sect and the Soto sect bad

Hello, thank you for your support. I've been worried a lot about how to live, and recently I want to calm my raging heart somehow, I follow the Jodo Shinshu Monpo. That's because it reminded me of my grandmother, who was born in Meiji, who died a long time ago. She was a grandmother who...

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Retirement, running away from home, being isolated... there is no going back.

I'm a college student. I only thought about my immediate future and continued to take a break, and my retirement age was confirmed. After causing trouble to the family, teachers, and everyone else. I lied and betrayed them many times. Right now, I'm running away from home and staying at an...

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Tough parenting

I had a discussion about my husband's wife before. A cute child was born safely, and we feel alive when we are together. However, I'm still stressed about living with my husband. Despite having children, there are times when I get home late, and I can't help but answer when I hear the...

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About the courage to die

I've asked questions here a few times until now. I tried living by referring to the advice I received, but there are many big and small failures at work and at home, things I can't do, and I also make mistakes. Even if I talk to them, my family and colleagues don't get along properly. I'm tired...

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I can't wipe away my past regrets.

Nice to meet you. I'm a college girl in her 20s. I made money by selling my body a few times about 2 years ago. The reason for this is also a self-earned and stupid reason because I made too many deferred payments and couldn't repay the money in time. It's been a few years since I paid it...

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Relieving the pain of breaking up

I broke up with my girlfriend today. I was 28 and she was 23. They parted ways from me after being in a relationship for 8 months. Actually, from around March of this year, I gradually lost track of my feelings for my partner, and I repeatedly put in matching apps and erased them from...

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I made my friend angry

I made my friend angry; it's 100% me. A little while ago, I asked my friend if they could introduce me to my part-time job. After that, I contacted the store manager, and the interview schedule was decided. However, after that, as I identified various part-time jobs, I found a place that seemed...

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Can I change denominations without inheriting my parent's denomination?

Nice to meet you, I'm my 48-year-old eldest son living in Hyogo prefecture Thank you for your support. They are married, separated from their parents, and their wife and child are living in a detached house with a 13-year-old male. My parents are alive and well, and they have inherited the...

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About how to deal with a depressed mother

I'm in my 30s living in Kanto. My mother is in her 50s and is in Kansai. My mother underwent lower back surgery 2 years ago, but she became partially disabled due to sequelae, and she also suffered from depression due to shock. My body seems to be getting a little better now, but my mind is...

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Can Buddhists pray to the gods at the shrine?

　I'm always indebted to you. I've been in a relationship for close to 15 years There is a shrine. However, two years ago, I received the commandment and officially became a Buddhist disciple. I like this shrine, but is there no problem even if I pray? When Buddhists pray to gods of other...

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Life doesn't turn out the way I want

Looking back on my life, there were many times when things didn't turn out the way I wanted, even though I thought I was doing my best. Every time I do that, I feel worried, anxious, and impatient, and I think, “Why would this happen to me?” Recently, in particular, I feel that there are many...

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I'm troubled by my son's rants and violence.

My second-year middle school son's rants are sometimes troubled by violence. I'm told to die every day, and my heart seems to break. The other day, I had cancer surgery for the second time, and only terrible things were said before surgery, such as “I wish I didn't wake up from anesthesia” or...

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death

I envy the sunny Japan where they were not exposed to threats from foreign enemies, cultivated fields leisurely, children grew up, laughed and bartered with neighbors and family mates. I can't go back to the world that was made up only of goodwill, conscience, and warmth back then. How...

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I'm at a loss about how I should change myself

Since my husband started taking care of my parents-in-law, my “son/older brother” aspect has grown. Even though my LINE is unread, my siblings LINE are constantly communicating with each other. I was told that even if I talked to them to talk about the house, they couldn't do it before listening...

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About the mother who interferes too much during job hunting for a 21-year-old woman

I'm a 27 year old graduate and 21 years old. My mom is a single mother and is very overprotective and overly intrusive. I think so. I was a very troubled child when I was little, and I think it caused me a lot of trouble and worry. So until college graduates, they tried to put up with all of...

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I can't stand being at home

Thank you for taking the time to read it. First, please forgive me for writing a poor sentence. I've been living with my family, and it has become mentally painful. Now, I'll explain how that happened. First, we'll talk about family structure and job type. I will be the mother, eldest...

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Is pilgrimage and praying to other denominations an ego

Nice to meet you. This time, I have a problem with Sega demon and memorial services, so I would like to discuss it with you. My parents' house is the Jodo sect, and my mother's side is the Jodo Shinshu, and I grew up in a family where the Nembutsu of “Namu Amida Buddha” was valued. Currently,...

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