Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Marital wrestling issues and customs for women

Hello. They are married in their 40s and have 2 high school children. The family is on good terms, and although they are busy every day, I think they are living a happy life. Meanwhile, as the title suggests, I've been struggling with husband-derived wrestling issues since about 10 years ago....

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How to think it doesn't matter

I want to be able to think that everything “doesn't matter.” There are times when I am really concerned about the words and actions of others and how they are viewed by others. Every time I do that, it becomes painful, and I may not be able to touch anything else. However, there are some...

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My mind is not stable.

Since my marriage broke up 3 years ago, I have become a humble self and have lived unstable days suffering from depression. I've stopped taking medicine for depression now and my physical condition has stabilized, and my interpersonal skills have dropped quite a bit because it's hard to speak...

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[Urgent] Crossroads, tomorrow is the time to make a decision

I am currently working as a temporary employee. I am grateful for the calm and warm treatment at my place of work. On the other hand, I myself worked while worrying for a long period of time because I wanted to do a job that I felt was worth studying even more. The company I just happened to...

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Is the desire for knowledge an affliction

I'm a university student studying humanities disciplines. Since I woke up to the fun of studying when I was in high school, I have dedicated all my time to studying until now, leaving it up to my own desire for knowledge. Above all, I am devoting my time to Western philosophy, Islamic studies,...

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About the case where water accumulates in the urn

My father passed away, and it was decided that his ashes would be buried on the occasion of the first anniversary of his death. While doing a lot of research, I found many things with the content “when burial in a tomb, condensation forms inside the urn and water accumulates to the fullest”...

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I don't understand the meaning of being alive

Nice to meet you. My life was already coming to an end, and I couldn't find any hope in my current life where there were no happy times, and I often thought about self-exhaustion. I have many illnesses and live in hell every day, and my life with my husband, who has been very violent for many...

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Religion and dangerous goods are similar. Where are you going, religion?

　I'm always indebted to you. The other day, here, “At the temple, to me I had a discussion about “The Scary Wife Who Just Says This and That.” The continuation of it It's going to be like this, but recently, I've been thinking about it. “Religion and dangerous goods are similar” Observing...

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Even though I'm a Buddhist, I like bizarre things. Stress doesn't go away even with Nembutsu

I'm always indebted to you. Titlin is a punishment Sorry about that. Go to the temple, dedicate 100 flavors, protect the monks... I was saved by a smile. ✳ ︎ Nembutsu when I'm angry or when I'm in self-loathing I can't. The reason is because it's embarrassing. But I like drawing...

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From Teba Tadahin. About the idea that “Buddha is a man.”

I'm always indebted to you. There is a Nichiren sect temple near the hospital I go to It's there. I was curious, I took the plunge. Teraba-san and the chief priest were all friendly, The hall was also neatly maintained. Let me read the Kankyo Sutra that was there I received it,...

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The work of the Jodo sect. What about wooden fish during the time of Dharani?

I'm always indebted to you. We are in the Jodo sect, but when working, Amida Nyorai, Kondrani, Do you include mantras such as the Fudo Myoo Jikujutsu, and wooden fish during Dharani? If I were to put it in, would it still be a backing? I would appreciate it if you could tell me. ...

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Is red halfway dress bad...?

I'm always indebted to you. First, I'll report it. I'm leaving the hospital today. Do your devotion for us To everyone involved in the hospital who will give it to us May the Buddha bless you. well... Should I wear a red halfway dress Isn't there one? I enjoy Noh as a hobby, When I...

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What is one of the six haramitsu, “humiliation”?

　I'm always indebted to you. What kind of act is an act of humiliation? According to dictionaries and Buddhist scriptures, There is a saying “to endure even when things are hard.” Even if this is dangerous, for example, so-called irregularity An act that could lead to a situation, sudden...

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I want to know how to be happy

Until now, I have been deeply hurt by my childhood abuse from my foster father and my relationship with my father over the years. I'm in such an extreme state mentally that I think “it won't be solved until you or your partner dies,” and even though I just want to be happy normally, I don't even...

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Self-management

There is a person I met at a marriage hunting party while my gynecology department got caught in the medical examination and was undergoing a re-examination, so why don't you start a relationship after the re-examination results came out thinking about the future? I told them, but they said they...

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Way of life

Please tell me what are the minimum requirements necessary for living (It doesn't matter if it's a personal thought) Personally, I think it's study and work

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I doubt the feeling of losing

It seems like the person I've liked until now has a fixed partner. She's also my friend. When I realized the relationship between the two, I felt like I had lost. I had doubts about myself thinking “I lost.” Certainly, I couldn't shoot him, so speaking of losing, I lost, Isn't...

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What is mind control?

On this site, you can receive opinions from monks of various denominations in response to the same consultation, so it's very helpful. However, since there are various monks, I feel that there are things that “fit or don't fit” from their sentences, style, and content. There are cases where...

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Temple succession issues

Nice to meet you. I'm indebted to you. You cannot take over the temple at your parents' house unless you are a male chief priest in a child temple. So, at first, I started saying that my older sister, who is the eldest daughter, will marry a monk and take over the temple, As my younger...

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Which one should I change my last name to when I get married

Nice to meet you, as the title says. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for six months and have now been living together, and now it's been 3 years. They are older people they can rely on, and they often get along, so we were both aware of marriage from an early stage. I just...

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