Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Can I become a monk at home?

I have studied Buddhism in depth, and I want to become a monk in the future. However, I'm an ordinary student, and that doesn't mean that my parents' house or relatives are temples. Incidentally, my family's sect is the Jodo sect. Can I still become a monk? Also, which university should I go to...

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I can't love myself

I don't like myself. I can't take good care of myself or praise my hard work. I always deny myself, saying that I can only do this level or that I haven't been able to work hard at anything. That's why I always try to get love from others. I want to stop being like this. What should I do to be...

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I'm not talking

The other day, I gave it to my monk because they told me that they didn't have the courage to talk about my family and that they didn't want to talk about it again, so I gave it to my monk. I wish I hadn't talked about it to the point of being ignored. I never tell anyone the truth or my...

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Obsessions, Annoyances, and Distractions

Disastrous wars are always happening on the other side of the world Even if a monk's loved one is killed right in front of him, it's obsession, annoyance, distractions, and abandonment Can you attain enlightenment and become a state of nothlessness?

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Set a deadline for suicide (previous life penalty?)

I discussed it on this site last summer. It's worth consulting... or rather, a declaration, but I would be happy if you read it through. The reason I'm suffering from my illness right now is Is it a penalty for committing a crime in a previous life? I have fought against diseases...

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Should we have children or depraved

29 year old girl. I've been married for 3 and a half years. I'm currently in my 7th week of pregnancy. Right after my pregnancy was discovered, my husband had an affair and they suddenly said, “I don't love you anymore, so get divorced.” My husband says he will pay alimony and child...

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I'm afraid of future technology and can't think of anything else.

I was terribly frightened by stories about AI, VR, AR, Android, etc., and felt bleak, and couldn't handle anything else. Recently, I feel like there is so much talk about future technology on TV shows, the internet, and books. Maybe it's easy to catch my eye because I'm concerned about it....

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I don't want to be the woman my husband wants

We've been married for 9 years. There was a big gap between the “wife I want to love” my husband wants and the “good wife” I think. The “good wife” I had in mind is as follows. ・Do your best at housework, childcare, and work. ・I'm always smiling. ・Be sure to say hello. ・Speak softly without...

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What is happiness

I'm a 31-year-old single woman. I recently got a boyfriend who is 6 years younger. He's not really cool, but he's a person who has a lot of things I don't have. They took a proactive approach from me, and the relationship started in the form of “if that's fine with me.” Even though I'm really...

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Is hell a scary place?

What exactly is going to happen in hell? I heard about the Eight Great Hell's, and I'm curious about what kind of place these Eight Great Hell are Do misdeeds turn any small thing into evil and become hell?

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Travel abroad before getting married

I'm always indebted to you. I have a question. I'm now in a relationship with an older person that I had a crush on before. I'm a 24 year old woman. It's been almost a year since we met. We've only been dating for about 2 months. He asked me about the curfew after we started, felt grateful,...

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I'm going to rely on fortune telling

I end up telling my fortune over and over again. If you know you won't hit it, you'll do it. I think I understand that it's just a superstition, but something bothers me... In particular, it often predicts future horoscopes. What should I do to stop...

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Quality and quantity of life

There's a template phrase that older people often say, “Don't die earlier than me.” On the other hand, I'm thankful to understand that it's a word that cares about me, but let them do whatever they want! I have a self that makes me think. Is it important to live a long time? I did what I...

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Questions for Buddhists Part 8

There was a monk who talked about Wittgenstein's metaphysics before That person said that it was wrong in itself to think about, put into words, or try to search the metaphysical world Even that talk about Wittgenstein's metaphysics isn't an idea that came from metaphysics, right? So I don't...

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This is my first boyfriend in my life.

We met at a matchmaking party, and it's been 9 months this month. I'm 37 years old. He's 34 years younger. There are no places to meet in the countryside, so we meet once a month. Last time we met, “Can't we meet about once a week?” When asked, “I'll think about it.” That was the...

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I think I'm going to die because I can't work

I made a mistake at work and was stunned, saying, “This is my first time for someone like you.” I've been told to take things too hard, but I don't know what that means. When I had just become a member of society, I was harassed by my boss and I remember thinking about it. Even at the time, I...

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Will I have a hard time in the future without siblings

Lonely children have nothing to learn as siblings, so I think they'll struggle with relationships in the future, but when I asked my husband, that's not the case... I don't have any fighting experience, so I really hate fighting, and I don't even know how to do it. I seem to be good with my...

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Marriage without ceremony, betrothal, or ring

Nice to meet you. I'm tired of worrying alone, so I'm sorry to bother you. Thank you for your support. There is someone I've been in a relationship with for about two and a half years now, and I'm planning to get married later this year. I'm 33 years old, an office worker, living at home He...

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What words are at the core of everyone's beliefs?

I want to know the words that are at the core of everyone's beliefs. I think there are words that seem to have determined my way of life, such as when making an important choice, and words I value. I'd like to know what kind of word that is. I think there are a lot of Buddha's words, but if...

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Questions for Buddhists Part 9

(This question has been partially edited based on the terms of use) When I used to meditate, I meditated trying to get rid of distractions and become nothing But I realized that the consciousness itself of trying to get rid of distractions and become nothing is a distraction I left...

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