Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About my high school son's love affair

Nice to meet you. I have a question about my son who is in his second year of high school. I recently learned that the woman my son has been in a relationship with for a few months is a single mother who is 10 years older. I was so surprised that I harshly blamed my son. After that, my son...

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What about parishioners?

The other day, my father's funeral was held, and the monk at the temple, who has been indebted to me as a parishioner for generations, came to me, and all my relatives felt disgusted by the monk's attitude and behavior so bossy. First, when I called the temple to ask for sutras, the date and...

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My son who is a college student is about to drop out

Hello. Thank you for always being there. Let me talk to you about my son who is a college student. I'm currently in my third year at university, and I've decided to study for 1 year. I'm staying at a boarding house. My husband contacted me from the university because I hadn't registered for...

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The life of a criminal (about the death penalty)

People who commit serious crimes can get a death sentence, right? I've heard from people things like how to execute the death penalty... It makes me think that no matter what the heinous sinner is, humans should not touch humans. Killing doesn't mean that the wounds of the bereaved family...

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Please help..

They are disliked by everyone in their families, and they have been subjected to violence such as being told to disappear, die, etc., and being slapped in the face by their parents. I told my friend once. I'm always laughing, so seriously I said I'm going to die. Then, oh well, what if I...

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Being able to do it from people is natural

Apparently, I have a deep sense of mind that “it is natural for people to do something” stuck in the depths of my heart. It's natural to have them take care of you. It is natural for them to be consulted. It's natural to get help. etc etc However, according to visible consciousness, “it...

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I want to acknowledge that I'm not accepted by everyone. I want to be recognized.

The miserable feeling of “not being understood” gets stronger year by year. I do music, and I mainly play relatively minor instruments. The fact that I was laughed at as if I had been ridiculed before by a woman who plays gorgeous instruments and always stands out is still hurting and...

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I make mistakes every day at work, and my life is full of failures

I make mistakes every day at work. I almost never get scolded, Even if you're careful, you'll make similar mistakes over and over again, and make mistakes you haven't done until now. Outside of work, I get on the wrong train and make mistakes in the cooking process. There are many failures in...

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My future with my married boyfriend

I have a boyfriend who is more than one year older, and he is married and has two small children. The marital relationship has broken down, there is almost no business conversation, and it seems that they are being told to have a relationship outside. However, it seems that they won't get...

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Claims after the third anniversary

The memorial service for the 3rd anniversary was held at home, and an offering of 10,000 yen, a car fee of 5,000 yen, and a meal of 5,000 yen was given to the monk. On the night of that day, I was later billed that 20,000 yen was not enough for the donation. Is that normal? Originally, I...

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How to deal with resentment and hate that won't go away

I was in a relationship with someone from within the company at my previous job, but when I retired, my relationship with the company wasn't good, and we were forced to break up. In order to maintain secrecy, they are made to sign a pledge if they come into contact with them and take legal...

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It doesn't work well with people on social media

I'm sorry for the social media relationships, but please let me talk to you. I often feel bad about the internet. even though they want to make promises with just words and not attitudes I don't like every promise because of how many people break it. I've come to trust people who show and...

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Even though I have a boyfriend, I found someone I like.

I have a boyfriend who is three years older. They were introduced to each other's parents, got rings, and little by little they just started preparing for marriage. He is kind to me and he is a serious person. However, there is one point he just can't forgive. He abuses animals. Shoot...

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I've started keeping puppies, but...

I recently started raising a new puppy at home. It's so cute anymore that I can't focus on what I need to do. I've owned dogs before, but this is probably the first time I've thought they were this cute. Of course, there are times when discipline and care are necessary, but even more than...

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children's college

My kids finished their college entrance exams this spring. The result was that students passed from all 5 schools that took it. In particular, I passed school A, which is said to be the most difficult, for active duty, and all my relatives were delighted. At last, A college student was born from...

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Damage from foreign travelers

I would like to consult with you for the first time. When my family kindly guided a white English man who was able to travel to Japan, I was sexually victimized outdoors. The family that was an English traveler and could never forgive the sex offender as a family member of the victim, and the...

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The attitude of wanting to do anything

　I heard the phrase “the other power petition” in a sermon at a memorial service the other day. At the same time that I thought it was a very appreciated way of thinking, there were also things that didn't make sense. Perhaps because of modern people, the idea that “the results obtained by...

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On denying people who have committed suicide

I don't like people who commit suicide. I hate it. I committed suicide because my heart was weak, and even if I committed suicide, I would just go to hell and suffer, and so on. And at the same time, I also know that this way of thinking is inappropriate. This is because this way of thinking...

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Who uses souls?

Previously, I've heard that the Meditation of Peace in the Dharma seat is not appropriate because it is a dark world. To people who started crying while watching TV, the announcer always said, “I pray for your soul.” I feel a sense of incongruity every time. I've lost a relative, so it feels...

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Relationship with mother

Thank you very much as always. While having various worries I am a key person for my elderly real mother. They are entering the facility Me since about 10 years ago They treat them as thieves. It's also because the sisters imprinted on the fact that their mother, who became depressed due to...

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