Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm sure I'm a pig

fat, pig, daikon leg, huge body, daifuku, These are some of the words that have been said until now. I was bullied a lot because of my appearance. They giggle, and they can look at their feet with curious eyes. It's so spicy, but I still can't stop eating it. Rather, it heals you by eating...

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I'd like to ask my relatives to arbitrate.

About 4 months ago, I had 2 consultations with my parents about repairing my relationship. After that, it was a continuation of the consultation. Even after that, I sent out letters, but there was no reply. Even myself, I consulted here and received answers, so I read and thought about it over...

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Will I be able to have a good relationship with him?

I came to Nagasaki from Goto in Nagasaki prefecture when I was in middle 1. When I was in Goto, I had a temple and 2 Christian churches close to my house, and now it's a strange feeling, but I often went to both. Since I came to Nagasaki City, I wasn't allowed to go back to Goto at all, and...

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I'm worried about my son's family, but I'm also worried about my own body

Good morning. It's been a while. I know the answers to today's questions, but I'm going to ask them with a sense of emptiness. My son's family's grandson, who lives a little far away, entered elementary school this year. My husband and wife work together, so I think it's hard because they're...

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Hatred for ex-boyfriends (monks)

My ex-boyfriend is the man who will be the next chief priest. While I had a new girlfriend, she treated me. I can't forgive him, and I want to say it to her. I don't think it's possible for him to have a happy life. I want revenge. I want to hunt them down even if it's light

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About Zen and meditation

I am often indebted to you with questions related to anxiety. Previously, I looked up various ways to overcome anxiety, and Zen and meditation are often taken up. I've heard that it's effective in terms of calming the mind. However, when I look up Zen and meditation, there are various...

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New Year's Day is the 49th

If the 49th is New Year's Day, should I strictly spend that day alone per day? I don't have his bones, his name plates, or Buddhist altars in my house. I left water in a place where pictures from a time I didn't know, the belly button I brought back from his house after he passed away, a business...

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What is an adult?

I'll soon be 20 years old. But I can't accept that. I'm afraid to be 20 years old. The actual feeling may not be any different when a 0 year old turns 1 year old. Like every year, family and friends say “congratulations,” eat cake, and maybe another day will pass. However, I can't help...

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Should we stick to the denomination?

I'm indebted to you. My father passed away last month. My father's parents' house is a parishioner of the Shingon sect temple, but my father is not the eldest son, and he also lives within an airplane distance, so he has almost no relationship with the temple. Therefore, I decided to search...

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The verbal violence against children is unstoppable

I keep cursing at my kids for about a week every month. Yesterday, too, I denied the personality of my second first-year son and got out of the house! I ended up saying that. The reason is the food likes and dislikes that children often have. When I'm in a good mood, I say, “If you want to...

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Ace should be a strong person, right?

To the boss in the same department I haven't been well lately Smiling in front of everyone You're overdoing it, you know you know how to make it laugh I cried when I was told I switched right after that My boss called me Ace before, and my employee told me I've heard it Then you...

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A good way to say no to debt

The other day, I was offered a debt by a friend I've been in a relationship with for over ten years. It's 250,000. It's not an amount you can easily ask your friends for. My friend has schizophrenia, and I was strictly prohibited from working by a doctor, and I secretly went to get a...

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Even if I do my best now,

Even if I do my best and live now, To someone who knows my old self I wonder if it used to be this kind of guy Being ridiculed, What is rumored I'm afraid of being told, It makes me feel tight. Even so, now it's over, so I have no choice but to do what I need to do, Up to that...

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A conversation with my freelancer boyfriend who can't see the future

Let me talk about my boyfriend in his late 20s that I've been in a long distance relationship with for about 2 years. I'm currently a graduate student. A few months later, he was offered a job offer in the city where he lives, and originally it was a fun time, but now I feel a strong sense of...

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I would like to hear your feedback.

Nice to meet you. Thank you for your cooperation. I'm in my fourth year of college, and I can graduate if I take one more compulsory course before graduation. I hope you keep up the good work for a few more months. However, I have a strong feeling that I don't want to go to class even though...

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Hanging ornaments and crepe work

My family is a parishioner at a temple, I would like to participate in many events at that temple. Recently, I've been obsessed with making hanging ornaments and crepe crafts, and I've been making a lot of them. Therefore, I would like to make hanging ornaments and crepe crafts and present...

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Merit of repeating

By repeating sutras and titles such as kigyo There is something you can gain, but does that mean words and spirits? Great words say that there is meaning in repeating Is it OK if I accept it As for me, I'm probably very thankful for the Buddha I can hear it suffer normally with words that...

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The habit of complaining

Recently, especially since about a few years ago, they have been complaining and speaking ill of it. Originally, I had a habit of complaining about anything, but in the past few years, after work stress began to build up, I complained and spoke ill of someone, especially at the drinking...

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quirks

I have a habit of looking at cancer at people I know after a long absence, It would be nice if I could do even one greeting after seeing cancer, but I can't do it all the time, What should I do if they don't like me after a long time If you think it's still ugly... Just thinking about that...

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Which is more important, childbirth or travel? again

I'll be blind in a year! My father-in-law was told by the doctor, and I understand the feeling that my father-in-law himself wanted to take a look at various things. If I were in the opposite position, I think so too. There is room for sympathy. I want to do what I can for them, but now I'm...

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