Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Should we stick to the denomination?

I'm indebted to you. My father passed away last month. My father's parents' house is a parishioner of the Shingon sect temple, but my father is not the eldest son, and he also lives within an airplane distance, so he has almost no relationship with the temple. Therefore, I decided to search...

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The verbal violence against children is unstoppable

I keep cursing at my kids for about a week every month. Yesterday, too, I denied the personality of my second first-year son and got out of the house! I ended up saying that. The reason is the food likes and dislikes that children often have. When I'm in a good mood, I say, “If you want to...

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Ace should be a strong person, right?

To the boss in the same department I haven't been well lately Smiling in front of everyone You're overdoing it, you know you know how to make it laugh I cried when I was told I switched right after that My boss called me Ace before, and my employee told me I've heard it Then you...

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A good way to say no to debt

The other day, I was offered a debt by a friend I've been in a relationship with for over ten years. It's 250,000. It's not an amount you can easily ask your friends for. My friend has schizophrenia, and I was strictly prohibited from working by a doctor, and I secretly went to get a...

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Even if I do my best now,

Even if I do my best and live now, To someone who knows my old self I wonder if it used to be this kind of guy Being ridiculed, What is rumored I'm afraid of being told, It makes me feel tight. Even so, now it's over, so I have no choice but to do what I need to do, Up to that...

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A conversation with my freelancer boyfriend who can't see the future

Let me talk about my boyfriend in his late 20s that I've been in a long distance relationship with for about 2 years. I'm currently a graduate student. A few months later, he was offered a job offer in the city where he lives, and originally it was a fun time, but now I feel a strong sense of...

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I would like to hear your feedback.

Nice to meet you. Thank you for your cooperation. I'm in my fourth year of college, and I can graduate if I take one more compulsory course before graduation. I hope you keep up the good work for a few more months. However, I have a strong feeling that I don't want to go to class even though...

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Hanging ornaments and crepe work

My family is a parishioner at a temple, I would like to participate in many events at that temple. Recently, I've been obsessed with making hanging ornaments and crepe crafts, and I've been making a lot of them. Therefore, I would like to make hanging ornaments and crepe crafts and present...

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Merit of repeating

By repeating sutras and titles such as kigyo There is something you can gain, but does that mean words and spirits? Great words say that there is meaning in repeating Is it OK if I accept it As for me, I'm probably very thankful for the Buddha I can hear it suffer normally with words that...

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The habit of complaining

Recently, especially since about a few years ago, they have been complaining and speaking ill of it. Originally, I had a habit of complaining about anything, but in the past few years, after work stress began to build up, I complained and spoke ill of someone, especially at the drinking...

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quirks

I have a habit of looking at cancer at people I know after a long absence, It would be nice if I could do even one greeting after seeing cancer, but I can't do it all the time, What should I do if they don't like me after a long time If you think it's still ugly... Just thinking about that...

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Which is more important, childbirth or travel? again

I'll be blind in a year! My father-in-law was told by the doctor, and I understand the feeling that my father-in-law himself wanted to take a look at various things. If I were in the opposite position, I think so too. There is room for sympathy. I want to do what I can for them, but now I'm...

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I don't want to be reborn

I'm always indebted to you. I've always thought this time around, but I don't want to be reborn again. I never want to come back to this world. I've been living for 54 years, and it's been such a terrible life. My dead parents also had a terrible life. There's a feeling that something terrible...

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My husband and parents-in-law only look at childbirth lightly

I really don't like it anymore. Yesterday, I brought in a story that my husband's parents are also going on a trip next month, so they asked me to stay away from the temple. I will be at the beginning of next month. It doesn't matter when they are born, but they stay overnight and stay away...

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Things you can do for a friend who is thinking about dying

I'm worried that my high school friend is going to die. “Being alive is meaningless. Is life worthwhile or troublesome” “I want to live to find the meaning of life, but I don't want to find anything else, whatever.” “You're going to die anyway, so you can die now, right?” “People around me...

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If I kill myself, will I go to hell?

A long time ago, I read a book called “Hell” and saw a story about how if you commit suicide, you will be punished in hell. How much virtue should I accumulate in order not to commit suicide and go to hell? Until now, I have made an effort to be kind to my family. Still, will everything you've...

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My husband is a monk

It's my selfish image, but there are things I'm not convinced of. I can understand that there are study sessions on a regular basis, but after that, there is always a drinking party called a social gathering, and we also stay overnight. I always include a companion at social gatherings. Is...

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I want to be honest with my son

My son is in his third year of high school, and even though he has a girlfriend, he seems to play with another kid and spoil her. I've been in a relationship with her for about six months now, and they're very close, Parents and children are doing well too. I had a sudden change of heart, and...

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Obsession with an ex?

It's with the guy I posted last time I have another problem and would like to discuss it with you. There have been a lot of things since my last post, but I tried using a matching app in order to look forward and switch my mind. After all, I didn't feel like having a relationship with another...

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About the feeling of being “nostalgic” about painting

Nice to meet you, I'm a person who just recently learned about Buddhism and is practicing it, albeit a little bit. Studying Buddhism, I learned that the present is important, not the past or future. So I was wondering, is feeling nostalgic a bad delusion? I first practiced painting for about 5...

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