Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I made a promise between a parent and child that I couldn't keep

My parents started the family business about 10 years ago, and they want me to marry someone who will be their successor. I'm an only daughter. Now, there is someone I want to get married to, but that person is a person from another industry who cannot be a successor. My parents allowed me to...

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Is it OK to be alive?

However, I came here because I wanted to live a life laughing. But I realized that there were a lot of things that were lacking for me. I feel sorry for the kids who live with me. Even though I think I'm trying hard, it's not enough. The way I work hard is wrong... I know it's wrong to...

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The meaning of life, I'm afraid of dying

I lost my father in May. It's now that I've returned to a normal life I began to feel afraid that I would die. I think every night about why people are born and have to live when they eventually die, and I'm so scared and unbearably afraid of my own death that will come someday. I'm...

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I don't understand my true feelings

I remarried. We vowed to be happy with each other, but at some point, we began to have mixed feelings. I'm disgusted by my husband who says my growth has stopped since the day I lost my father. I'm tired of living, and I think it would be nice if humanity perished as soon as possible in such...

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About death

Please give us your opinion on euthanasia for the elderly. When a relative who is 90 years old collapsed and was hospitalized, I was told by a doctor. It's over average life expectancy, so I think that's enough. In other words, they will die without life-prolonging treatment. The family objected...

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About names

What do Gobo Samatachi call themselves when they have conversations with ordinary people? Also, how do Gobosama call each other? Also, when there are multiple gobo at the same temple, I think there is a difference between seniors and juniors, but how do they call each other in a senior-junior...

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Monk's financial technology

Today, Kyoto's Shoren-in Monzeki, a temple that bets on the decline in the Nikkei Average, shorted the Nikkei Average leveraged ETF by 600 million yen. Stocks are human employment, and investments are made in anticipation of future price increases. The stock price is called the leading economic...

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About the future of my life at the age of 25

Nice to meet you, my name is Sumo Momo. Since I graduated from college 3 years ago, I haven't decided on my career path, and recently I don't have the energy to take on challenges anymore. I was struggling with relationships at the company I joined as a new graduate, and I was recommended a...

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Do bad things only happen in unlucky years?

This year is an unlucky year for me. At the beginning of the year Although it was an exorcism It's been a lot of hard work since around June of this year. The car was hit by someone like Hitoya Modoki, and it still hasn't been solved. I was blamed and driven a lot by my husband...

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Dating and marriage with a monk

This is my first time asking a question. Thank you for your support. I've been allowed to eat with the monk a few times now. He was introduced to him by a friend from the same workplace and is the chief priest. I had heard from my friends that he was a very kind and nice guy, and I had the...

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Daughter's death, and then

I'm indebted to you. It's Junchi. Eight months have passed since the sudden death of my 15 year old daughter. I still haven't had a day to dry my tears. My friends still come here on the day of the moon, making it lively. It makes me feel lonely, I want to meet you, of course, it's a...

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I can't fall asleep easily, what should I do

Originally, I'm not a very good sleeper, but recently I haven't been able to fall asleep in particular. Can monks fall asleep quickly? Do you have trouble falling asleep? What are you doing at that time?

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I'm not good at tying relationships

I'm a housewife in my forties. I like Shinto and Buddhism. However, I quit after 3 years due to a female friend I've been on good terms with until now, and the lessons (ikebana) I started doing because of a long-cherished wish (ikebana). My pattern is that my self-esteem is hurt by “words,” and...

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How many monks are there in ordinary households

Nice to meet you. Starting next year, I will go on to a certain Nichiren Buddhist university in Tokyo to learn about Buddhism. After graduating from university, you have three options: become a monk, obtain a teacher's license and teach, or qualify as a curator. The reason why I am moving in the...

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My son's rebellious period in high 2

I'm a 40 year old single mother. Recently, my son, who is in his second year of high school, is struggling with a rebellious period. Until now, there hasn't been a rebellious period, so I was worried, but when it started My son's every word sticks to my heart and makes me feel a painful...

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About organizing feelings

Nice to meet you. My name is Shirai Koji. I'd like to discuss my concerns. You might think it's stupid, but I'd be happy if you could gather your opinions. I'm from rural Hiroshima, and I came to Osaka to get a job at a railway company. I graduated from college and got a job as a new...

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To my friend who is worried about her spouse cheating on me...

My friend's husband discovered an affair during a regular business trip, My friend was told about how to trust her even though she had been apologized, and about her anxiety about spending the rest of her life in this way, but I was stuck in words about how to respond. Please tell me words that...

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Ikkyu-san

Ikkyu-san is good at tonchi, but are all monks good at tonchi? How do I polish it? I want to be good at tonchi.

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How to stay calm

This is a high school boy. Since the relationship I was born in a temple, from 2 years ago I am now fascinated by Buddhism. Now, the question is “I want to keep my cool.” I have weak points in my personality. I went to a preparatory school, but I was always rushed by something It...

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How to deal with my mother from now on

I am consulting for the first time. I look forward to working with you. I'm worried because I don't know who to ask. This is my mother, and I would like to ask you to teach me about how to have a heart. My parents divorced when I was 15, and since then I have been raised by my mother alone....

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