Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About the courage to die

I've asked questions here a few times until now. I tried living by referring to the advice I received, but there are many big and small failures at work and at home, things I can't do, and I also make mistakes. Even if I talk to them, my family and colleagues don't get along properly. I'm tired...

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I can't wipe away my past regrets.

Nice to meet you. I'm a college girl in her 20s. I made money by selling my body a few times about 2 years ago. The reason for this is also a self-earned and stupid reason because I made too many deferred payments and couldn't repay the money in time. It's been a few years since I paid it...

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Relieving the pain of breaking up

I broke up with my girlfriend today. I was 28 and she was 23. They parted ways from me after being in a relationship for 8 months. Actually, from around March of this year, I gradually lost track of my feelings for my partner, and I repeatedly put in matching apps and erased them from...

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I made my friend angry

I made my friend angry; it's 100% me. A little while ago, I asked my friend if they could introduce me to my part-time job. After that, I contacted the store manager, and the interview schedule was decided. However, after that, as I identified various part-time jobs, I found a place that seemed...

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Can I change denominations without inheriting my parent's denomination?

Nice to meet you, I'm my 48-year-old eldest son living in Hyogo prefecture Thank you for your support. They are married, separated from their parents, and their wife and child are living in a detached house with a 13-year-old male. My parents are alive and well, and they have inherited the...

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About how to deal with a depressed mother

I'm in my 30s living in Kanto. My mother is in her 50s and is in Kansai. My mother underwent lower back surgery 2 years ago, but she became partially disabled due to sequelae, and she also suffered from depression due to shock. My body seems to be getting a little better now, but my mind is...

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Can Buddhists pray to the gods at the shrine?

　I'm always indebted to you. I've been in a relationship for close to 15 years There is a shrine. However, two years ago, I received the commandment and officially became a Buddhist disciple. I like this shrine, but is there no problem even if I pray? When Buddhists pray to gods of other...

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Life doesn't turn out the way I want

Looking back on my life, there were many times when things didn't turn out the way I wanted, even though I thought I was doing my best. Every time I do that, I feel worried, anxious, and impatient, and I think, “Why would this happen to me?” Recently, in particular, I feel that there are many...

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I'm troubled by my son's rants and violence.

My second-year middle school son's rants are sometimes troubled by violence. I'm told to die every day, and my heart seems to break. The other day, I had cancer surgery for the second time, and only terrible things were said before surgery, such as “I wish I didn't wake up from anesthesia” or...

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death

I envy the sunny Japan where they were not exposed to threats from foreign enemies, cultivated fields leisurely, children grew up, laughed and bartered with neighbors and family mates. I can't go back to the world that was made up only of goodwill, conscience, and warmth back then. How...

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I'm at a loss about how I should change myself

Since my husband started taking care of my parents-in-law, my “son/older brother” aspect has grown. Even though my LINE is unread, my siblings LINE are constantly communicating with each other. I was told that even if I talked to them to talk about the house, they couldn't do it before listening...

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About the mother who interferes too much during job hunting for a 21-year-old woman

I'm a 27 year old graduate and 21 years old. My mom is a single mother and is very overprotective and overly intrusive. I think so. I was a very troubled child when I was little, and I think it caused me a lot of trouble and worry. So until college graduates, they tried to put up with all of...

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I can't stand being at home

Thank you for taking the time to read it. First, please forgive me for writing a poor sentence. I've been living with my family, and it has become mentally painful. Now, I'll explain how that happened. First, we'll talk about family structure and job type. I will be the mother, eldest...

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Is pilgrimage and praying to other denominations an ego

Nice to meet you. This time, I have a problem with Sega demon and memorial services, so I would like to discuss it with you. My parents' house is the Jodo sect, and my mother's side is the Jodo Shinshu, and I grew up in a family where the Nembutsu of “Namu Amida Buddha” was valued. Currently,...

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Boyfriend pretending to be single

I had a girlfriend that I've been dating for a year. The date of naturalization and cohabitation were decided, and my friends and family were delighted. However, a mutual acquaintance suddenly informed me that “that person is actually married and has 2 children.” He told me that he had been...

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Can I try contacting a man I like?

With the man I had both feelings for kindergarten in July We met again after 18 years and went out to eat We talked while eating shabu-shabu that day I was nervous The man said he wasn't nervous I had them take me home (^^;; We talked for about 30 minutes in the car. (^.^) It was...

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I want to die by taking responsibility that was born

Every day I don't listen to what my children say, it gets worse day by day, and I feel responsible for being born and want to die (I want my children to go away too). My husband (late 40's) and I (late 40's) both work full time The child is an 8-year-old boy alone, but since he wears a uniform...

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I'm sorry for my past mistakes

I have a past where I was a prostitute 4 years ago. It was to pay off debts. My parents' house was poor and I was forced to live alone along with getting a job, but it all started when I didn't have enough money to start living alone and ended up using revolving credit card...

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How to improve your sense of self-affirmation

Since I was little, I was reluctant to build relationships with people around me, and I had a negative image that it was bothersome. I have a few good friends that I can forgive, You can't have broad and shallow contact with anyone, Even if you can do it for as long as you can, I felt...

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I've been scammed, how can I live a positive life?

My mentor and the person I admired for many years was an impostor. Together, my mother and I were defrauded and stolen all of our 70 years' worth of savings. At the time when I wanted to quit the company due to power harassment, it became a story about “let's make a stock management company...

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