Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Day to perform okuribi

Hello. There's something I'd like you to tell me. The Obon grave will be visited to coincide with 8/19, the anniversary of his death. Would it be better to go to Okuribi on 8/19 to match that? When I looked it up, they said they would welcome you back on the 16th, but if you send it on the...

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I'm thinking about getting a divorce

It's been 25 years since I married my husband who works for a manufacturer. From the beginning of our marriage, I've been troubled by differences in values and contempt for me and my parents' house from my husband's house. I've been living with my husband's parents since 18 years ago. All...

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The grief of a person's death

Is death such a sad and painful thing? It's been almost a year since my friend died. My friends around me who cried so much at the funeral are laughing alive today without any changes. We don't even talk about our dead friends anymore. Even though he's gone, the days continue without a...

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experience

Even though it was an easy job, I wasn't able to do well and was helped by not being able to see it. I felt sorry for myself. It should have been done properly... but I was strangely impatient and couldn't do it. The person who helped me out of sight said a word. “Experience, experience. It's...

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Was suffering an ascetic practice?

Looking at the monk's answers, the consultants continued, and the monks were not denied at all by the recognition that “current suffering is an ascetic practice given by the Buddha.” Isn't “suffering a test given by God” a Christian idea? Isn't it denied that suffering in this world is called...

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What should I do with graves in the future

I'm an only daughter. My husband and I live together. My mother passed away I'm taking care of my maternal grandmother My mother's and grandmother's last names are different. What if my mother was Sato and my grandmother was Suzuki The tomb of the Sato family is now there, and my mother is...

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why is suicide bad?

I'm thinking about suicide now, and when I'm searching for suicide methods, etc., I only see things that hold back suicide There are so many enemies all around me, and I wonder if they just return the palm of their hand as soon as they think about dying...? Why is it bad to commit suicide?

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monk

Can you tell if this person is suffering or not just by seeing and seeing the monks?

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solitude

I'm lonely. I'm so lonely and sad.

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What is my life

“I can't rely on it even if it's hard I can't be spoiled even if I want to spoil I don't know how to rely or spoil I don't even know what's good and what's bad Will you be denied or taunted even if you think and act Pressure and stress every day A life where you spend your mind in...

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Can you prove reality?

Sorry for the vague question. Is the reality right in front of us real? That's because when something fails, they say, “Oh, I wish it was a dream. When I vaguely thought, “I wish I could reset it,” I began to think about how I could prove that the situation in front of me was real, and the...

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Is appearance preference important?

Thank you for always taking the time to kindly consult with me about small things and big things. Also, I would appreciate it if you could consult with us if you like. We also met in various ways, and now we are being approached by 2 people. One person really thinks about me first, and even...

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About my relationship with my daughter

I have two daughters. My eldest daughter has been delicate and cranky since she was little, and I had trouble raising her as a child who would cause tantrums if things didn't go the way I wanted. Her attitude escalated when her eldest daughter was in middle 3, and she was no longer involved with...

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Please tell me the Buddhist practice.

Nice to meet you. Recently, I've become interested in Buddhism. Therefore, in order to attain enlightenment, I thought I would practice something myself, and I wanted to know how to practice ascetic practices. I don't feel like becoming a monk right now, so please tell me the ascetic method...

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What are people thinking when reading the teachings?

You may think my question is against monks, but I would like to continue to be indebted to monks, so I will ask questions that I want to relieve my anxiety What do monks think and read sutras at the client's memorial service? I feel like I'm just reading the sutras and doing the...

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I don't want to meet humans,

Hello, I work as an office worker, I don't want to meet people. For some reason, I get stressed when I meet people. It's been four months since I joined the company, and all of them are people I've met for the first time since going to various places, and I'm busy thinking about work every...

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About ways to relieve stress

Hello. If you ask other people how to relieve stress. Everyone does karaoke and sports When I talk to someone, It seems to diverge, though. I'm tone-deaf and eat singing, so I can't relieve stress well. I can't tell people how to relieve my stress, Destroy things to your heart's...

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Do you sometimes omit sutras?

The Jodo Shinshu Otani school temple is my family temple. Yesterday I went to my great-uncle's 2 or something. There was an explanation of the flow, saying, “Doshisama Ga read the sutra first...” and they read the Amida Sutra, so when we read them together, we skipped the last 3 steps of the...

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My sense of remorse hasn't gone away and it's painful.

I'm always indebted to you. As I mentioned in the previous question, as I was dealing with my primary counselor, I recently began to be aware of the damage that had happened to my past self. However, I cannot lose consciousness that I am the perpetrator. Remembering the many relationships...

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Is red halfway dress bad...?

I'm always indebted to you. First, I'll report it. I'm leaving the hospital today. Do your devotion for us To everyone involved in the hospital who will give it to us May the Buddha bless you. well... Should I wear a red halfway dress Isn't there one? I enjoy Noh as a hobby, When I...

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