Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Are you worried too much about neighborhood issues?

Are you overthinking it? I bought the building 2 years ago, and the garden is adjacent and only the low fence is at the same construction and sales company At first, the kid's ball that came to play next to me overcame the fence, and there were a few times when the child went into the garden...

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About the commandment of staying at home

I believe in Buddhism while staying at home, and I am working hard on my life (practice) by being aware of each item of the “Ten Good Commandments” over and over again every day. From a certain person, “There is no way that those who live in the house can keep the precepts.” I received your...

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Relationship with him like avoidant attachment disorder

Hello. I have an older boyfriend who I've been dating for about six months. As soon as we started dating, it became a marriage story, and I introduced it to people around me and my parents like that. However, his temper is very unstable, and when I looked it up, I thought the state of...

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I want to get rid of my addiction to a counselor on the internet

I'm sorry that I've asked the same question over and over again. Also, please. Every time I get an answer, I calm down a bit, but after a few days, confusion occurs. Even though I was searching the internet in search of “happiness,” I found it embedded in spiritual blogs and sites and...

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How to deal with an unreasonable boss

Nice to meet you. I'm a 27 year old office worker. I posted it because I wanted to ask about how to deal with an unreasonable boss at work and how to have feelings. I have a boss at work who is in a position to manage the team. However, those people hardly listen to the opinions of their...

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About the succession issues between my temple and other temples

I am currently single in my forties, and I am the chief priest at a rural rural temple. I followed in the footsteps of my parents, stopped working in my 20s, finished my training at the head temple, and after getting a monk's license, I entered the world of temples without knowing...

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The foul-mouthed friend

I have a friend I've been in a relationship with for 20 years Anyway, it's been bad at speaking and it's getting worse recently. They both have children the same age, but the values of raising children are the exact opposite. I am a child carer that gently snuggles up to children. She is a...

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About so-called “bystanders of bullying”

Once again, I'm sorry for the disappointing content, I'd like to ask about so-called “bystanders of bullying.” Today, I also talked with my siblings, Generally, it is not good to stand on the sidelines of bullying. However, I think dealing with bullying without standing by is usually an act of...

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Being able to say goodbye unilaterally is painful and unavoidable

Nice to meet you. I had a boyfriend 7 years younger than me who we had been in a relationship with for about 7 years. While we were in a relationship, there were a lot of bad things, but I thought the two of us were able to overcome them and deepen our bond. Recently, when he changed jobs,...

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With my friend who was bullied when I was a kid

Since I was a kid, I learned at temples and churches, etc., and I thought that bad things should not be done, and that people in need must be helped. My friend was bullied and I helped. Then, I even told adults in the city, “I'm jealous of cute girls. I was harassed, such as “ugly.” I can't live...

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Please tell me how to live in the future

This is the person who previously discussed “I'm worried about my future way of life and choices.” I'll omit the details, but before, I had infidelity with a married woman only once. At that time, I was seriously thinking about being together in the future, but my girlfriend told me that I...

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Is it permissible for former gang members and the like to start over with their lives

When I look it up on the internet, articles about former gang members starting their lives over in various ways come up, but I think it's too good to want to start over with their lives while ending up as an antisocial force that causes violence and fear rather than annoyance to others. This...

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Bereavement acceptance and how to relate to others

I'm bisexual. I lost my same-sex partner in the same grade to suicide in high school, and since then I've been searching for ways to get involved with others. I was in a romantic relationship with him at the time, and we were occasionally discussing our thoughts about rare death. When I asked...

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Please tell me the attitude of a temple bride

I got married in a temple. From the beginning, I lived a normal life without having anything to do with that temple or religion. The person I met through marriage hunting was a monk born in a temple, and each person seemed to be a good person, so I got married, but when I entered the house, I was...

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Buddha's tea and water

　Thank you for finding it. I would like to ask you a question prepared to be scolded by the monks and the Buddha. I apologize first. I'm sorry. We always offer tea (green tea), water, and rice to Buddhist altars. Why do they offer green tea, water, and rice? Sometimes, when green...

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My jealousy of my ex-boyfriend makes me feel bad for myself.

Please let me discuss it with you. I was in a relationship with my older ex for about half a year, but even after we broke up, my cheating relationship with my ex continued for a while. I was hoping for a reunion, but my ex only used it conveniently. My ex was on the brink of ending his...

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It's not worth being alive. It's the limit.

Nice to meet you. I'm currently in my 2nd year as a working person. It's been 1 year since I left college, and I thought I'd gotten used to my work life, but recently I suddenly don't understand the meaning of my life. I haven't had that much dissatisfaction with the work itself so far, and...

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Are there words to let go of your obsession?

This is my first time asking a question. Since my child was born, when I was struggling with unfamiliar childcare or when I was a PTA officer, there were many other things, but I was really thankful that parents of the same age helped the child a lot. Among them, I had mom friends who were...

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I can't forgive my wife's rant against her children

They are a couple who have been married for close to 20 years. The child is a middle school student. Kids are studying and doing their best in club activities in their own way. My grades are barely above average. However, my wife herself had a reasonably high level of education, and if there...

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I've always regretted my college life

Nice to meet you. I'm a 24-year-old woman in her 3rd year of working life. I'm still dragging on from my college days, and I'd like to hear your honest opinions. I graduated from college in 2024. First and second graders were hardly able to go to school due to the COVID-19 pandemic, and...

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