Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Travel abroad before getting married

I'm always indebted to you. I have a question. I'm now in a relationship with an older person that I had a crush on before. I'm a 24 year old woman. It's been almost a year since we met. We've only been dating for about 2 months. He asked me about the curfew after we started, felt grateful,...

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I'm going to rely on fortune telling

I end up telling my fortune over and over again. If you know you won't hit it, you'll do it. I think I understand that it's just a superstition, but something bothers me... In particular, it often predicts future horoscopes. What should I do to stop...

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Quality and quantity of life

There's a template phrase that older people often say, “Don't die earlier than me.” On the other hand, I'm thankful to understand that it's a word that cares about me, but let them do whatever they want! I have a self that makes me think. Is it important to live a long time? I did what I...

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Questions for Buddhists Part 8

There was a monk who talked about Wittgenstein's metaphysics before That person said that it was wrong in itself to think about, put into words, or try to search the metaphysical world Even that talk about Wittgenstein's metaphysics isn't an idea that came from metaphysics, right? So I don't...

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This is my first boyfriend in my life.

We met at a matchmaking party, and it's been 9 months this month. I'm 37 years old. He's 34 years younger. There are no places to meet in the countryside, so we meet once a month. Last time we met, “Can't we meet about once a week?” When asked, “I'll think about it.” That was the...

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I think I'm going to die because I can't work

I made a mistake at work and was stunned, saying, “This is my first time for someone like you.” I've been told to take things too hard, but I don't know what that means. When I had just become a member of society, I was harassed by my boss and I remember thinking about it. Even at the time, I...

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Will I have a hard time in the future without siblings

Lonely children have nothing to learn as siblings, so I think they'll struggle with relationships in the future, but when I asked my husband, that's not the case... I don't have any fighting experience, so I really hate fighting, and I don't even know how to do it. I seem to be good with my...

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Marriage without ceremony, betrothal, or ring

Nice to meet you. I'm tired of worrying alone, so I'm sorry to bother you. Thank you for your support. There is someone I've been in a relationship with for about two and a half years now, and I'm planning to get married later this year. I'm 33 years old, an office worker, living at home He...

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What words are at the core of everyone's beliefs?

I want to know the words that are at the core of everyone's beliefs. I think there are words that seem to have determined my way of life, such as when making an important choice, and words I value. I'd like to know what kind of word that is. I think there are a lot of Buddha's words, but if...

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Questions for Buddhists Part 9

(This question has been partially edited based on the terms of use) When I used to meditate, I meditated trying to get rid of distractions and become nothing But I realized that the consciousness itself of trying to get rid of distractions and become nothing is a distraction I left...

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The meaning of being kind to people

I try to be kind to people on a daily basis. But sometimes I don't understand the meaning of being kind to people. What does it mean to be kind to people?

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About breaking ties and values

The other day, when I was talking about the future with him who is thinking about getting married, “How do you get along with your parents?” I was asked. I had no idea what it was about, so when I asked for details, they said, “I told you to break ties with my parents, right?” However, I...

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Is life equal?

Are people's lives equal? Are human abilities equal? Recently, nothing is working. Among them, the biggest problem is the family. My relationship with my husband isn't going well. I don't know what to do. When I look at my friends and colleagues at work, they all seem happy. I am also on...

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Buddhist teachings and zazen

I started zazen meditation for the simple reason that it would make my heart stronger. When I first saw it, I began to think that studying Buddhist teachings would support the mind rather than zazen meditation, and I didn't really understand the meaning of zazen meditation. Is zazen...

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indebted

I'm sorry for asking so many questions indebted Goodbye

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I hate religion.

I worked for a black company and retired due to personal reasons I've been doing job change activities for about half a year. Currently, I have successfully changed jobs and am currently employed. It's been a few months since I started job hunting When I got a job offer from a top company...

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About offerings

I made a reservation at a temple and decided to ask about my concerns. I think an offering is necessary, but how much should I wrap it? The hours are from 9:30 to 11:30. I don't understand anything... so I'd like some advice.

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Why is hard work great?

It wasn't that difficult to make an effort since I was little. The harder I worked and got results, the happier I was to be praised by the people around me, and I thought I would do my best again. However, there was also emptiness. That's because everyone around me only saw results, and no...

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Questions for Buddhists Part 5

Monk, please don't get angry and listen to it if you think this is an ascetic practice It's about the law of cause and effect I saw the answers to the previous question and thought Don't look at soba recipes (cause) eat soba (result) Don't look at Gongitsune's mischievous past (cause) reflect...

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How do monks actually do?

I'm very selfish and guttara. The room is a mess, and my grooming is one step closer to the dangerous level. Housework can also be done to a minimum, and clothes, for example, are piled up on the floor even after washing. About two degrees a month comes to the mind that this should not...

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