Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

The fear of making a fatal mistake won't go away

I made a ridiculous mistake that shouldn't have been in the lab. I never did it on purpose, and it was caused by a minor lack of confirmation. When I noticed it, I panicked and thought I'd hide it, but after being tormented by a strong sense of guilt, I thought I wouldn't be able to hide this in...

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How to give a commandment

Recently, monks are an occupation rather than Buddhism (I feel that it's kind of rude when it comes to occupations. I'm sorry.) I became interested. There was a monk at my parents' house to visit the moon, but since they weren't enthusiastic parishioners, they never went to temples. I myself...

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Women are prohibited

Women are prohibited at local festivals, and women aren't even allowed to participate. There were times when I just happened to pass nearby and got hit. There are many restrictions on women all over the country. As is the case with sumo wrestling, there are places in the Buddhist world where...

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How to choose a Buddhist altar

It's early, and tomorrow is the first anniversary of my grandmother's death, Shozuki. By the 49th memorial service (ossuary at the same time) I'm planning to buy a new Buddhist altar. Since children do not inherit Buddhist altars, It ends with my generation... Before that, the stucco wall of...

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My heart is painful

Nice to meet you I'm in pain It's It makes me think “I want to die soon.” Something very difficult happened, It's not that something bad happened, Rather ・With my favorite family We were able to spend time together, eat together, talk together, laugh together ・There are friends...

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I want to change my way of thinking.

As always, thank you. Don't compare to people. Don't be impatient. But I want to be the kind of person who takes action towards marriage. I would appreciate it if you could take a look at the questions up until now. A few days ago, I called an ambulance for the first time. The reason is that my...

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Please tell us how you feel about spending every day.

I had a planned pregnancy, but my husband told me that I wanted to get divorced when I was about to pass away for the second time. It seems like they've been thinking about it for a few months The reason is I want to be free. I don't like you anymore. You're so stressed that atopic dermatitis is...

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Capacity is about to be over

Currently, I'm working as a full-time employee while changing jobs, and I'm struggling with balance. Job change activities are carried out at the end of work or on days off. However, it's really hard and tough. ・The job is a sales position, so there is a lot of work ・Job change activities...

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I regret my childhood mistakes

When I was a kid, I made irreparable mistakes. As an elementary school student at the time, I brought out sweets at a nearby convenience store without paying. In other words, it's shoplifting. I also feel like I turned back and returned the sweets after that, but maybe I just memorized them...

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I wonder if it would be better to bury the grave...

As for the graves at my parents' house, only my mother and younger brother are planning to enter the graves at that parents' house, but my mother also has trouble walking due to poor legs, and my younger brother is mentally ill, so I can't go out. I'm in a position where I got married, so even...

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I want to be good friends

I'm a high school student. To friends with older people or school teachers Do you want to be Is it still impossible? Even if your friends aren't equal They were good friends even after graduation Do you want to keep in touch? I don't know how to do it.

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How did you become a monk?

How did you become a monk? I think there are many people, Did you do that of your own will? Or did they have to force it? This is because in my case, no matter what I do, my path will always be cut off along the way. So I had no choice but to help my parents with the work they do, but...

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About mothers who deny marriage partners

I'm having a dispute with my mother about my marriage partner. I'm an elite in the world (I graduated from the University of Tokyo and work for a government agency). Actually, there were other places I wanted to go to, both at university and at my place of employment, but every time I chose my...

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Should I have children or get divorced

The couple have been married for 2 years. I myself don't want to have children. Meanwhile, my husband seems to want children. Currently, due to my husband's wishes, I am being assigned overseas, and since we live overseas which we are not used to, we often have mutual feelings for each other,...

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My mind is dangerous, please help

It's hard to go to work. My relationships are bad, and I'm in hell. Even though I was taking tranquilizers, my physical condition didn't improve, and I do my best every day while imagining the faces of my family! Bosses don't seem like bosses, they only rely on their subordinates, and if they...

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Are there any famous people who are enlightened?

I want to know what kind of person an enlightened person is. Thank you for your support.

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Disgust with marital life

The other day, I attended a meeting saying it was very mentally tough. I came home late at night after the meeting. Then, when I was exhausted, my wife called me to my room to talk to me. My wife knows how much mental damage this meeting was, but the silly fight from a few days ago didn't end,...

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What is the existence of God?

I'm indebted to you. There is a Buddhist altar at my husband's parents' house and a kamidana diagonally above it. In terms of Buddhism, what kind of person is God and what position is it? I'm new to Buddhism, so I'm curious about a lot of things. Thank you for your support.

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It's like watching Gaki

Tokyo will welcome Obon. Please let me talk about my relatives. I can't go into details, but this is a pretty troubled person. In the past, I left my parents' inheritance unattended by saying “I don't know how to do it,” etc., and kept stock dividends, preferential vouchers, etc. sent in the...

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Is it possible to have a love affair with a temple child?

I fell in love at first sight for the first time! I met that person at a training session! I thought it was cool when I taught him at the seminar! I can't be in the same class as him anymore... I don't know how to appeal! What should I do? After all, doesn't love at first sight come true? A...

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