Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is there anything you wanted to do before you became a monk?

There aren't many things monks can't do... but I don't think. I'm imagining that there are places that are different from when I was an ordinary person. Is there anything you wanted to do before you became a monk?

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I'm not feeling energized

Hello. I'm still in my mid-twenties, and recently I don't feel any energy. Specifically, there are no problems with working on weekdays at all, but on weekends, I just can't get out of my futon. After that, I casually went out to eat, then relaxed at a nearby coffee shop and finished the...

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I've withdrawn my retirement request, but...

A 30-year-old man is currently working as an office worker. It's a really embarrassing problem, but I'd like you to listen to it. I couldn't keep up with the details of my work, and I couldn't get my work out of my head until the day off, and I offered to retire the other day, and my seniors...

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The agitation and sermons around me are infuriating

I'm liked by people like Koshiki of the same age, but I'm not my type. However, I can't say that I'm not an occupational type. So, some seniors (K) and Koshiki almost drink together... Koshiki has a good personality and is very popular with people of the same sex. K is in his 40s. They take...

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I can't stop working

I'm a 40 year old woman. I have one child in preschool. I work for a short time after giving birth (annual income of 4 million), but my chronic glaucoma has worsened since 2 years ago, and my blurred and invisible parts have increased. The doctor said that using a computer (I kept using it...

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What does truancy mean going to school

I haven't been able to go to school for a month now. There isn't a clear reason, such as bullying. I've lost sight of the point of going to school. The hospital diagnosed adjustment disorder and autonomic nervous ataxia. I'm also sorry for my worried friends and family, and I'm thinking about...

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I always end up with nice people.

I'm worried about love. I've always liked talking with women, and although I have relatively many female friends, I haven't developed more than my friends. There are many patterns where people end up being nice people, such as gradually devoting themselves to listening to their...

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What's the difference between love and love?

They say it's love in one bite, but what's the difference? Which one do you think more deeply about your partner these days? I was talking to my friends about this topic, but I couldn't come to a conclusion. Thank you for your support.

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I don't know how to deal with friends who earn more than me

When I was talking to a friend of the same age the other day, we were talking about income. My friend earned a better income than me. It was kind of sad. Why am I working this much too? It made me feel like that. I don't like thinking about this either. How should I deal with that friend...

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The result of continuing to listen to my friend's concerns...

A year and a half ago, a friend asked me to talk about “being cheated on by my husband.” Up until then, my girlfriend and I were people who could talk about pretty much anything, and we laughed at a lot of stories. She was pretty weak, so it's been a year and a half from that day until...

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I'm depressed due to relationships, but I can't decide to take a leave of absence

No matter how much I think about it, I can't make a decision or act, so I'd like you to consult with me. Recently, a person who is on good terms with my boss (hereafter called Mr. A) moved to the same department/job type as me. I was dissatisfied that my boss only asked Mr. A to do the work,...

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What do monks think of us?

Why don't monks hold gatherings like Christians in the community? To be honest, I think they are people who would be good if they were good. In the past, past, and now, in a frivolous world, people who are serious even if they are clumsy, think without permission that they need sacred...

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My grandson will build a house on my grandmother's land.

I am the eldest daughter of three sisters. Our parents worked together, we were grandmothers and children, and we were really indebted to our grandmother. My grandmother is 94 years old and is doing pretty well. They had a family, and the sisters were good friends, but now the second...

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How to deal with my mother

I am a person full of flaws, so I am often criticized by my mother. Yesterday I was finally told to leave and die. I'm often criticized for being with my mother, so I avoid it, but that makes my mother too lonely. But they don't like everything about me enough to criticize me so...

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When I want you to take care of yourself. What words should I use?

Hello, thank you for your continued support. People who think I'm superior call themselves a “dried fish woman.” Evaluate yourself, immerse yourself in an inferiority complex, treat yourself appropriately, saying it's troublesome and troublesome... There are people like that close to...

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My girlfriend now

I'm afraid my current girlfriend won't like me, so I push myself to death. I thought they might dislike me if I said this, and I couldn't say what I wanted to say, and I felt like I was in tatters. I want to be prepared to be disliked, but what should I do? I was able to clearly state what...

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My husband is involved in an emerging religion.

I married a younger man last year. My husband is a member of a religious organization called a cult. I knew it even before I got married, but I thought I'd dismiss it as a hobby. Other people have no complaints and are serious and nice people. However, an unfortunate journal arrived. It made...

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How to become a temple entryman

Nice to meet you all. I was at a loss as to whether it was okay to ask something like this here, I ask with all my heart. I'm a so-called watch shop whose job is to cover and remake hanging scrolls Yes, that's it. I want to be in a relationship with the temple people on a regular...

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What should I do to protect my parents' house?

I am the oldest son of 4 siblings. My younger siblings are all married and live in a house about 20 km away. (I got my wife and my last name hasn't changed) I have 3 children in total (10, 8, and 2 years old) My younger siblings went outside because the eldest son said that I, the eldest son,...

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Choosing a denomination

Can I choose my own religion? Someone recommended that I join the Soka Gakkai. My parents' house is Zen. I married to a family of a different denomination, but we got divorced. In this case, are you going back to your parents' denomination? Are you going to make a new choice yourself? I...

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