Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to gain a sense of security with people

There is a part that overlaps with the contents of the consultation so far, but thank you for your cooperation. My father passed away this spring, and since my memories of being physically busy with procedures, being swayed by my older brother's thoughts, and being sexually abused by my father...

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I took crime prevention measures, but I'm uneasy. I can't rest

　I'm always indebted to you. This is a continuation of this question. https://hasunoha.jp/questions/77026 “They are being targeted by scary grandmothers” My house is also equipped with a security camera, and the management company Contact me for a “security camera in operation” tag along...

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monk

The child has passed away. My mistake in judgment is a major cause. That was compounded by the hospital's malfunctions. He was a very kind and cute kid. Like rolling down from my mistake in judgment The condition is getting worse And then he passed away. They loved stories, were cheerful,...

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I don't have confidence in myself.

This is my second question. I'm currently attending a private medical university. It's such a time now, so it's an online class. As a result, I can't meet my college friends, let alone live alone, so I'm plagued by loneliness. Probably because of that, I've been worried about so many different...

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Inside my husband

My husband is now 24 years old. There were 10 traffic accidents last year due to bad luck and horrible things. Fortunately, there were no major injuries, but my husband's parents also died in quick succession last year. About after my husband's father passed away, I learned that there was...

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worries

I'm currently in my sixth year as a college ronin. My first year and second year were full of motivation, and I wanted to go to college, so I couldn't help but want to go. But now I'm backwards, saying I don't want to be a college student, I don't want to meet people, I don't want to go to places...

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The Chief Priest's Thoughts

My husband is a chief priest (Jodo sect). My husband seems to have grown up without being blessed with a family, so we sympathized with the words I want to have a happy family and have been together for 5 years. While we were in a relationship, I felt twice as much love from my husband as...

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Whether to prioritize recommended activities

I'm joining the new job next month It seems that they don't know when that company will be closed I'm doing my own recommendation After all, idol events are held on Saturdays and Sundays when the general public is off Do you know what refusal to share is? I mean I don't like people who are...

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What is Vihara activity

I recently learned about Vihara activities. I'm curious, and I'm studying out of curiosity, but more succinctly, “In a nutshell!” I would be grateful if someone professional could express it like that. Please give me a convincing word.

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I'm looking for love from my toxic parents

Nice to meet you. It's a consultation, but my mother is a toxic parent. It was neglect. Once I became an adult, I also became indifferent about money. I came to the conclusion that it is better to keep a distance after consulting with a counselor, and I am currently keeping my distance....

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People around me and I hate me. From an early age.

Since I was able to remember, I've hardly been treated as a single person by people around me. Everything from kindergarten to elementary school, middle school, high school, university, to the present. It's a convenient presence that anyone can bully, a punching bag to relieve stress, a...

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Boyfriends who almost never pay for dates

I have a boyfriend that I've been in a relationship with for over a year. My boyfriend is 4 years younger, and my income is slightly higher. My boyfriend seems to make a lot of monthly payments, and I pay all of my dates every time. I don't even say thank you for being spoiled by that. I only...

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I want to have fun, but it's better to work hard

I talked about it a little while ago (I ran away from kindergarten to high school), but I still wanted to talk about it again. (21 years old) No matter what, it makes me want to have fun. But if you have fun, things get worse, and people around you will get scolded, your evaluations will drop,...

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The meaning of the kanji for kaima: cold

My father passed away the other day and I was given a commandment As for the Rinzai sect, the character “cold” was included in the kaima, but what does this mean? Does it simply mean it's cold? Please tell me

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I envy my friends around me.

My friend got married. That friend seems to have a job where there is a possibility of regional transfer, and he has been assigned to a department in the Tokyo metropolitan area for a long time. It seems that they are currently also doing fertility treatments. If there is a possibility of a...

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Tips for when you're in a supportive position at work

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am now in a position to direct the work that is at work. It is the person in charge of issuing instructions to “Please do this” on a fixed day and checking whether it is done properly. There are times when it is difficult to...

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Things my parents didn't value when I was a kid.

When I was a child, during my adolescence, I wasn't taken care of at all by my parents. My parents are getting older and kinder now, but it was a long time ago, and I don't think I'm happy, and I'm depressed. What should I keep in mind? I also want to know the teachings of Buddhism. Thank you for...

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I don't think anyone needs me

I can't do anything, and I'm just bothering you... Better yet, I think it's better to kill myself and not cause trouble anymore... why can't I live a normal life like everyone else

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How can I study Buddhism while living abroad?

I'm currently living abroad. It's been 15 years since I left Japan. I was an atheist when I was in Japan, but since I started living abroad, I had many opportunities to meet foreigners interested in Buddhism, and while I was answering simple questions, my interest in Buddhism gradually increased,...

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What is salvation in Mahayana Buddhism

Please tell me about salvation in Mahayana Buddhism. I learned that Mahayana Buddhism teaches that even if you are not a monk, you can be saved. So what is salvation in Mahayana Buddhism? I don't think I can get rid of my worries without becoming a monk. Humans always want something, feel...

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