Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I look stinky.

It's not like everyone around me says it, but it looks stinky. It smells like animals even when you don't keep living creatures, and it smells fishy even though you don't store trash. Maybe it's just filthy, but even when I took a bath with my friend, I couldn't get rid of the smell. Maybe...

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Reports/Consultations → Things You Can Do for a Good Departure

Thank you so much for your kind words about my decisions and circumstances associated with my mother's support. Please forgive me just one more time. ◎ Will carrying out my relics without waiting for 49 days prevent me from being isolated from my parents' house → becoming a Buddha? ◎ If...

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How to deal with a mind that has become distorted during the growth process

By asking questions here, we often come to a solution, and I'm thankful for that. We look forward to working with you again. In my previous question, I discussed that although I'm happy now, it becomes difficult when I think back to my old parents. In connection with that, there are things...

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How to live after losing my mother

Thank you for this opportunity to consult with us. I am now 22 years old, and my mother died by suicide. Even now, I don't understand why, and I'm in a strong sense of loss and confusion. Even if you know in your head that “you have no choice but to live,” No matter what kind of happiness...

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I can't forget my past fears

Thank you so much for your kind answers about my sister before. Thanks to you, my sister and I are doing well. What I'm going to talk about this time is how to deal with past fears. I would be happy if you could tell me how to think about getting away from this fear. We got married 5 years...

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Parents' conflict over naturalization and change of surname

I'm half time during the day. Recently, the situation between Japan and China is bad, so there is talk within the family about my father becoming naturalized and changing his surname to a Japanese name. My mother seems to want my father to naturalize and change my last name before I and my sister...

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How to have real regrets and remorse

What kind of things are regrets and remorse in the true sense of the word? I have committed many sins in the past. However, even if I remember that event, I paralyze my brain by watching videos on my smartphone in an attempt to forget it right away. There were times when it became difficult to...

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The company's synchronicity and the atmosphere became rough

I'm a new member of society who started working this spring. Recently, my relationship with a co-worker at work isn't going well. That synchrist (A) and I chatted a lot, but from one point on, A only spoke ill of the other synch. I myself didn't have any bad feelings about that other...

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How long does patience last

We have discussed it before. My husband has been recuperating at home since he became ill. I feel that selfish statements and actions have decreased, probably because we've talked so many times. I started my part-time job this spring, and the people at the company loved it, and I feel a sense...

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I want to get away from the values I was planted with.

How should we live within this world structure created based on selfish desires, originally divided to share one? No matter how clean you try to live, every time you buy a chocolate bar or a piece of clothing, your life crosses the ocean and is transformed into a source of suffering for...

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The self-loathing loop is painful

I'm currently absent from school due to depression. I take supplements, medicine, and Chinese medicine every day, and even so, there are frequent times when self-loathing and self-blame come back to life, and once I get in there, I can't get out of that loop, and the energy in my heart and head...

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How to determine if your behavior is on your own axis

I don't know what my axis is. I'm currently changing jobs for the purpose of “becoming a full-time employee” and “living where I want to live.” Thanks to you, I was interviewed by several companies, and I was excited to get close to the possibility that my dream would come true, but my sense...

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It's Hard to Watch My Mother Suffer

Nice to meet you. It's a poor sentence, but I'd like you to discuss it, thank you My mother has been breaking her ribs since the other day, and I don't feel well every day As I see my mother, who is more energetic than before, I'm worried, “Why should I raise it,” but I can't help but worry...

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University entrance exam

I applied to the Nagoya University Faculty of Letters, and although I was able to pass 70% of the common test, I didn't reach 80% of the border. This is an E judgment. The university of my second choice has an A judgment, so I know in my head that I should change to my second choice because I...

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Should I Talk to My Parents About Thinking About Death

Since I was young, I had something like a desire for rare death, and I have lived vaguely side by side with it. There is no ideal way to live in particular, and around this time they live while thinking that they will die anyway, and they are stuck in various lives, there is a sign that it may...

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I don't want to let go of my worries.

It's a consultation with no parents or children, but I don't want to throw it away because I think my worries are part of me. It makes me think this way, so I haven't been convinced by the Buddhist way of thinking for a long time, and I'm stuck. My grandmother, who passed away, liked the...

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I don't feel like I can live

I'm a truant middle school student. Suddenly, when I look at myself objectively, I'm worried that I'm really the kind of person I can live in the future. Then, they think about various possibilities and various paths, and in the end, they always settle down to the conclusion that “after all, I'm...

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I want to change who is easily disliked in relationships

Nice to meet you. This is my first post, sorry if there are any bad places. I'm currently participating in a club activity. Among them, it seems that some members don't think well, and in particular, several people make statements that clearly feel malicious. I think I also have bad points, so...

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About true love for two dimensions, etc.

It's hard to understand, but the current situation is so difficult, so excuse me for asking. I've always had romantic feelings for characters in games and anime, and as soon as I'm heartbroken or distrustful in reality, I fall in love with the characters. It's been around last year, and...

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What is the meaning of my life and the meaning of being born?

Thank you for your support. I'll ask the temple. What does it mean for the temple people to live? What is it? Have you ever thought about the meaning of your life or the meaning of your birth? What kind of feelings do you live with every day? It's been 5 years now. As my life turns around, will...

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