Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Daughter's death, and then

I'm indebted to you. It's Junchi. Eight months have passed since the sudden death of my 15 year old daughter. I still haven't had a day to dry my tears. My friends still come here on the day of the moon, making it lively. It makes me feel lonely, I want to meet you, of course, it's a...

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I can't fall asleep easily, what should I do

Originally, I'm not a very good sleeper, but recently I haven't been able to fall asleep in particular. Can monks fall asleep quickly? Do you have trouble falling asleep? What are you doing at that time?

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I'm not good at tying relationships

I'm a housewife in my forties. I like Shinto and Buddhism. However, I quit after 3 years due to a female friend I've been on good terms with until now, and the lessons (ikebana) I started doing because of a long-cherished wish (ikebana). My pattern is that my self-esteem is hurt by “words,” and...

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How many monks are there in ordinary households

Nice to meet you. Starting next year, I will go on to a certain Nichiren Buddhist university in Tokyo to learn about Buddhism. After graduating from university, you have three options: become a monk, obtain a teacher's license and teach, or qualify as a curator. The reason why I am moving in the...

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My son's rebellious period in high 2

I'm a 40 year old single mother. Recently, my son, who is in his second year of high school, is struggling with a rebellious period. Until now, there hasn't been a rebellious period, so I was worried, but when it started My son's every word sticks to my heart and makes me feel a painful...

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About organizing feelings

Nice to meet you. My name is Shirai Koji. I'd like to discuss my concerns. You might think it's stupid, but I'd be happy if you could gather your opinions. I'm from rural Hiroshima, and I came to Osaka to get a job at a railway company. I graduated from college and got a job as a new...

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To my friend who is worried about her spouse cheating on me...

My friend's husband discovered an affair during a regular business trip, My friend was told about how to trust her even though she had been apologized, and about her anxiety about spending the rest of her life in this way, but I was stuck in words about how to respond. Please tell me words that...

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Ikkyu-san

Ikkyu-san is good at tonchi, but are all monks good at tonchi? How do I polish it? I want to be good at tonchi.

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How to stay calm

This is a high school boy. Since the relationship I was born in a temple, from 2 years ago I am now fascinated by Buddhism. Now, the question is “I want to keep my cool.” I have weak points in my personality. I went to a preparatory school, but I was always rushed by something It...

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How to deal with my mother from now on

I am consulting for the first time. I look forward to working with you. I'm worried because I don't know who to ask. This is my mother, and I would like to ask you to teach me about how to have a heart. My parents divorced when I was 15, and since then I have been raised by my mother alone....

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What is the “law of attraction”

Simply put, it seems that “if you think or really think, it will be true.” There are also scholars who say “thoughts become reality” in quantum physics. You can put it into words, etc., but it's quite difficult to make assumptions in your heart, and you inevitably get angry at bad things,...

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My wife's mother's remains

My parents got divorced when I was 3 years old, and my father took my young wife from my mother and began to live with my new mother, and in '51, my child became a member of society and lived with two without living with my wife's parents, just when I had a little bit of room. 1 letter It's a...

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About the Sega Demon Memorial Service

Thank you for telling me about various Buddhist rituals. The other day, I received an announcement about the Segaki memorial service from the temple I had been consulting with before. There is a Goma memorial service and a pagoda memorial service, and since the Goma memorial service is an...

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Please tell me what you thought “this teaching is not suitable for the present day”

Recently I've been studying Buddhism-related matters. I can agree with most things, and it makes me feel like my mind is being washed away by ideas I haven't had until now, but there are parts where I'm not really convinced. I would like to write about that in another question, but this time,...

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Is it bad to end living with my parents-in-law who were affected by the disaster?

I started living with my husband's parents last year. My parents-in-law lost their home due to the earthquake, Right before the earthquake, my husband and I were vaguely thinking about buying our own house, and there was an earthquake. When they stood on the site of their home 3 weeks after the...

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I'm at a loss as to what to do now.

Nice to meet you, I was at a loss as to whether it was okay to ask this person a question, but I will post it without shame. I'm a 30-year-old Shingon Buddhist monk. This year will be my 8th year as a monk. After leaving Motoyama Gakuin from home, I worked for 7 years under my master and monk,...

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I'm worried that my illness hasn't healed.

I had autonomic nervous ataxia 6 years ago, and recently I was told in psychosomatic medicine that there is a trend of depression. I'm taking a day off from work, but I'm not confident that my body and mind will be able to keep up with returning next week. That's because I also took a vacation...

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About ossuary

Thank you very much for your answers to all the questions. I've been asking questions about memorial services, Obon, temples, and graves before. As for the ossuary this time, too, this Obon was my mother's first Obon festival. I haven't been able to bury my bones yet (because my ancestors'...

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It's about power stones and fortune.

I would like to thank you for discussing my previous concerns and reaching a solution. Thank you so much. The content of the consultation completely changes, but the question this time is “Do people have fortunes they were born with? Do power stones really work?” That's it. The other day, I...

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How can I talk to a monk I'm interested in... (After that.)

Last time, I asked a question about the above subject, this is Aluseus. I received a new opinion, Mr. Suzuki Mitsuyoshi from Ono-Sanfuku Koen-ji Temple. Thank you very much. I was very happy. Please be sure to speak warmly from everyone, I was given courage in responding to your...

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