Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is my way of thinking wrong

I've been married for 19 years. My husband is older, and my husband is strong, and when I was young, I rebelled, but since they imposed opinions and ideas anyway, I thought they wouldn't be able to converge unless one of them pulled back, so I followed suit. Recently, during a conversation...

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A husband who always cites his own misfortune

There is a tendency for husbands to blame everything on their own birth. Although not poor, my husband, who was born into a family with little financial means, had a dream of becoming a scholar, but as soon as he was able to go on to college, his family told him that the financial burden was...

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Why do bad relationships continue?

Thank you very much for taking the time to read it. The question is similar to the previous one. I'm sorry. I had a chance to meet my husband's parents, so Morahara DV up until now We talked about everything about children having disabilities and receiving support. When it comes to...

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I want to know what the monk thinks

The other day, I read a book about Buddhism and was puzzled, so I asked a question In a world where there is a sky, how do monks recognize the sky, recognize it, and what are they trying to do as a result? Why are you acting now? Everything is recognition for me, and I interpreted it as if...

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I want to stop emerging religions

I couldn't refuse my sister's invitation to join an emerging religion, so I joined that religion. My older sister is now unsubscribed due to her husband's persuasion. I also want to quit, but I can't ask to leave my membership because I'm indecisive and think that something unfortunate will...

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Can you be happy if you can take revenge

I'm so unhappy. I received various unreasonable things at work, and I was made to wear wet clothes and encouraged to retire. Even when I became mentally ill, I put up with it for a career I had built up through years of hard work, but when I refused to recommend retirement, I was...

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Interpretation of karma and karma

I asked AI etc. about karma, and they were told that it didn't mean that what was done strictly would come back. For example, when the Spanish flu and tuberculosis were prevalent, I think it was a state where it spread even though the person had no malice. However, if what you did strictly...

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Eitai Memorial Tower

Excuse me for being busy during Obon. There is no permanent memorial tower (permanent memorial tomb) at the family temple. If I were to build it, You might be told that it's pinky, On average, how much does it cost to build? I hope there's something I can do, even just a little bit.

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Consultation about years of harm experience

This is a person I have previously discussed with you about the development of a mental illness at a workplace where I worked for about 10 years last year. After that, with the support of a legal agency, the company was followed by a former colleague and officially acknowledged that she had...

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Legalizing euthanasia

Right now, I'm learning about euthanasia. I don't think euthanasia should be legalized. If you become seriously ill and euthanasia is legalized, you may want to euthanasia. But I still don't necessarily die from that illness, I think there is a good possibility that it can be cured from...

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I can't have children due to infertility treatment

Nice to meet you. I'm 37 years old and undergoing infertility treatment. I got married at age 24 and didn't have children easily, and I started infertility treatment at age 27, but even after 10 or more sessions of artificial insemination, I was transferred to the hospital for in vitro...

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I hate psychics.

In the midst of so many questions, I'm sorry for being unhelpful. Rather than psychics in general, I don't like specific psychics. I wasn't told anything by that person, and I was confused when I read that person's remarks on the internet. There is no salvation just by talking about the values...

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Why am I the only one being preached

I work as a part-time worker at a restaurant. I quit my temporary job in November last year, and I wanted to be able to study cooking, so I decided to get hired at an izakaya I had been calling out to. That izakaya sells bento boxes and side dishes during the day, and they also do lunch, and I...

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How to avoid getting angry

I scold my kids every day and they're demons (^◇^;) It also seems like a thug. The child is elementary 1. My mental health hurts and I feel unwell every day. What should I do to avoid scolding? It seems impossible for a calm mother. Can't wait 6 seconds. Anger management etc. are not possible.

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How to deal with abusive language

I'd like advice on how to deal with being yelled at or unreasonably angry. I'm happy to absorb sincere advice, but I'm often thrown at irrelevant personality denials. “You can't do anything!” “Your parents' upbringing was bad, wasn't it?” “Human scum”... etc. It's my fault that I made...

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I'm also worried about changing my child's name. The same kanji for city, town, and village

My second daughter was born in January. It's a different pronunciation, but there are cities, towns, and villages with exactly the same kanji in other prefectures, and I'm worried that it would be better to change the names. It's only been a few months since she was born, and I saw on the...

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Is listening to your problems a hobby?

I have a question. I get people who are worried say, “Because Mr. 00 will listen to me,” and I can listen to the words of people who have been worried until now without denying it, and they say that I'm glad they listened to me when the situation improved, and I'm glad they stayed. Of course,...

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The job of selling bodies

I'm struggling with money right now and I'm doing devotional work. I really didn't like it. Selling my body to someone I met for the first time and getting money... but in order to pay back my debts, I have no choice but to sacrifice myself and work to earn money for my mother's medical expenses,...

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wisdom

Good morning. I came back to my question. Please let me know if you like when you have time to spare. When someone asked me the meaning of wisdom, I quickly explained it to the extent that I understood it in my own way, but I was wondering if that was good, and I wanted to check it out...

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I'm worried because they want to know.

I'm indebted to you. There are people at work who want to know everything. Not only do they want to know, but they also say it to unrelated people, so they don't like it at work (it seems that complaints have come based on that), the person in my department got sick at the beginning of the year,...

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