Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About tomorrow's surgery

I was asked to discuss this the other day. Please let me discuss it again. I'm currently 10 months pregnant, and I'm having a caesarean section tomorrow due to a breech child. It's such an important time, but I want to be isolated from my mom already. The reason was that when I told them that...

7 responses

How to burn incense

Obon is approaching and I'm going to the memorial service next time, but are there any rules on how to burn incense? When I look at other people, I'm just imitating it because it's repeated 2 or 3 times by pinching it with my finger, getting close to my face, and putting it back together. If...

7 responses

Why are sutras (kigyo) read in Chinese?

The ancients understood Chinese, so it seems that they didn't need to dare translate it into Japanese, but I think it's difficult for modern people. Originally, Buddhism is supposed to be a teaching for living people. Isn't it important to convey teachings to everyone in an easy-to-understand...

7 responses

My parents are too disrespectful and it's painful

Recently, I've been thinking a lot that I'm sorry for making me raise something. Every time I see them suffer to raise me, my heart is crushed by guilt. I want to make it easier for them in the future. But I'm not sure I have that kind of power. I want to be a filial daughter. What should I do?

7 responses

How can I talk to a monk I'm interested in...

Nice to meet you. I wanted to hear your opinion, so I posted it. I look forward to working with you. To the temple I go to on holiday, There is a monk whose movements are beautiful and I feel a gorgeous aura, I'm getting more and more interested. I think I'd like to talk about it, I...

7 responses

About animals

I'm heartbroken about culling, animal experiments, and everything else. Does the fear, sorrow, and suffering of innocent animals have a necessary meaning or reason during their evolution? I empathize so much, how can I think without getting hurt?

7 responses

I couldn't think of my father anymore.

I've posted about my husband before. This time it's about my biological father. My father is currently 75 years old and lives alone. My father worked seriously for many years and was originally a kind and strict person. The situation changed about 10 years ago from now, and they began to continue...

7 responses

My husband has tantrums.

This is my first email. I'm afraid this is a long sentence. The other day, I misunderstood that it was a tantrum just hearing a loud noise, and I cried a lot. I couldn't calm down mentally, so I went back to my parents' house for 2 days, and now I'm back home. When my husband has a tantrum,...

7 responses

Do I have to apologize and how should I live

Thirteen years ago, I parked it in the parking lot of a store near my kindergarten and picked them up. It was around the time I was exercising so I couldn't stop because it was annoying, but I was so tired that my memory flew away, so I made sure to go shopping and stop. I was blamed for that by...

7 responses

Is there a Mizuko no Tatari?

I'm a housewife from Alafo. I have a younger brother who is 2 years younger, and he's been so bad since he was a kid, and he finally became like an idiot. It's impossible to get married if you have a disability certificate. My father is an alcoholic and has been subject to verbal violence...

7 responses

I can't change my mind.

When I make a small mistake or something embarrassing, I worry about that for days and days, and it's painful. If I ask my friends to say it, I'm really worried, even if it's at the level of “that kind of thing.” How can I become more optimistic?

7 responses

About after giving birth

I'm currently 9 months pregnant, and my real mother said, “After giving birth, I can come back to my parents' house and stay 1 or 2 months.” I was told that when I was 6 months pregnant. I have a mother and child family, and my mother does not go back to her parents' house to raise children and...

7 responses

I want to be a monk

I'm now a 24-year-old office worker, and my interest in Buddhism has always been difficult to live Yes, and I keep thinking that I want to be a monk. Understand that it's not an easy thing to do financially and in terms of staying at home I intend to be there, but I really want to be. Please...

7 responses

Please tell me about everyone's “Obon Aru Aru 2013 Bon”.

Seeing this summary made me laugh. http://togetter.com/li/548214 It seems that tweets like this are being exchanged on Twitter. How are you all? I think going around Obon in the heat is penance in a sense, but please be honest.

7 responses

Monks on this site

Hello. I'm indebted to you. I see people on this site receiving consultations from people who are worried about various things. There are probably many people who try to live a bright and positive life with the kind advice of kind-hearted monks. However, I think the current situation is that...

8 responses

Do you know the meaning of sutras?

Can monks understand the meaning of sutras just by reciting sutras? It doesn't mean understanding the meaning of a certain part; it means whether you can read Chinese characters just by reading it. If you read it carefully, would you understand it? Can you understand everything if you try to...

8 responses

I want you to tell me good things about revenge against my mother

The other day, I tried to murder my mother, who had tormented me since she was little. However, as a result, it wasn't possible. It just hurt me. I stomped him on the floor with a strong force, hit him with a reasonable amount of force, and kept kicking him. They screamed, screamed, and...

8 responses

The future of Buddhism

Buddhism is deeply rooted in the Japanese view of life and death, and I think it has something wonderful as a culture. However, I was embarrassed by not studying until I reached this age, but I first learned about the Mahayana non-Buddhism theory. Also, I learned that primitive Buddhism and...

8 responses

About the answers within Hasunoha

I'm new to Hasunoha. The opinions given by most monks are warm and sometimes harsh, and I feel that they are very kind in responding to them. However, it wasn't in response to my question earlier, but I saw a shocking answer. A monk wrote “marriage is for women,” “marriage is for women,”...

8 responses

Management will respond to this question

(From the Editorial Department. (This is about management, so please contact the hasunoha secretariat if you have any questions.) Nice to meet you. I just found this site for the first time, and I saw many people's consultations and concerns, and the monk's thankful words in response to...

8 responses

page 1