Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

It's a temple bride

I came to the temple to get married. My husband is a deputy chief priest. No matter who sees them, they are the chief priest couple (parents-in-law) who have had various problems and have undergone very strict training, no matter who sees them. We used to live together, but we live...

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The monk who came to my husband's funeral...

I was wondering about the monk at my husband's funeral three years ago The other day, when I was talking about those days with my family, they said, “It seems that the monk who came to the funeral couldn't even wear his own costume, and he came at the last minute during the wake and was almost...

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Books to understand Buddhism

I recently learned about the teachings of Buddhism, and I am very attracted to it. So, when I read the book “The Japanese Buddha Is So Interesting You Can't Sleep,” it was so interesting that even I, who wasn't good at reading books, quickly read it through, and I fell in love with Buddhism...

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What is the sky? Is seeking love again?

Study, soccer, popularity. From my elementary school days, when everything was best, I experienced setbacks for the first time after going up to junior high school. Why doesn't the director recognize me, and why isn't my favorite kid loved me? I continued to worry about it for over a year, and...

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I want to learn Buddhism. Please tell me

It's a long sentence, but I would appreciate it if you could take a look. I heard that my great-grandfather was a deputy chief priest at a place called Suma-dera in Suma-ku, Kobe. I think it was before the war in terms of age, but it wasn't confirmed at the temple office, so I'm not sure. My...

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How to live your life without being used

I live a life where others take advantage of me before I know it. When it comes to friendship relationships, they become good friends at first, talk about various things, and gradually deepen into fun, At a certain point, you notice the soul of the person beyond that. I think this is being...

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Self-loathing

I dropped to the university in Tokyo, which was my first choice, and passed another anti-slip university in Tokyo, the university in Okayama. My father asked me which university I was going to go to, and since I wanted to learn cutting-edge technology at an urban university, I wanted to go to...

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About Seiji Chihara

I saw in an article on internet news the other day that Chihara Seiji, a member of the Chihara brothers, became a monk. So I'm asking this question out of curiosity, but monks will become monks starting today! If I declare it, is it something I can become a monk? If you don't practice a certain...

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My boyfriend and I have been widowed.

My boyfriend, whom I had been in a relationship with for 3 years, recently died in a traffic accident. I was loved by many friends and people at work, and many people came to my funeral. Every day I took for granted after living together for 2 years, and the future I was supposed to spend...

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I want you to tell me a book where I can learn the teachings of Buddhism

I've recently started to want to know the teachings of Buddhism. However, even when I look it up on the internet, it is difficult to search for things with high accuracy of information, such as those that come up (probably) from cult groups or private sites that are unreliable. Therefore, I...

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I damaged his precious photos

Hello. I've damaged his precious photos. He and his ex-girlfriend are in the picture, and they've been on the wall of his room since I first came to the house. The wound is something he won't notice without reflection, and he hasn't noticed it yet, but he's worried about whether he should say it...

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Why is Hasunoha's monk

Can you give me a consultation? Are there any benefits? Do you really think from the bottom of your heart that taking advice from others is for your own training, etc.? Even though I get various consultations myself, I still think about such rude things. Basically, I can't trust volunteers or...

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It's repentance, self-loathing due to self-weakness

There is a similar consultation, but please forgive me for consulting with you. From about half a month after I started living alone, I somehow lost confidence in myself, lost sight of my intention to rely on, and felt sad and at a rock bottom in the middle of the night. I didn't like that,...

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I hate my husband

We've been married for 8 years. I have 1 child. I think every day that my husband is a person who says what he thinks right away and doesn't think about the other person's feelings. I think it's all about my own opinions, feelings, etc. I think my opinions are correct, so opinions clashed We...

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About marriage

It's been 3 years since my boyfriend committed suicide. I met someone new and we are getting married this year. However, I feel sorry for him who passed away, and I feel sorry for his parents and his friends. Can I just be happy like this? Wouldn't it make him or his parents feel bad?

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“What the hell is a monk?”

Hello (=°ω°=) There are things that haven't been vaguely resolved for many years, and I'm going to ask you a question bluntly m (__) m “What the hell is a monk?” It's an occupation, but unlike being a doctor, they don't treat you by touching your body. According to the story, business...

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I can only think about myself

Six months ago, I used my family's money to gamble lightly. I didn't think about anything in particular the moment I did it, but recently I've been very sorry. Even though I was anxious, I couldn't help it anymore. Why did I regret it? If you think about it carefully, you might find out....

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Please give us your opinion.

Currently, I'm thinking about “The Role of Water in Japanese Buddhist Rituals” as my graduation thesis theme. In particular, we are paying attention to the act of sprinkling water at Buddha ceremonies, visiting graves, hand water, etc., but why is the act of using water linked to purification,...

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Taking care of parents

I was the only one to take care of my father and mother among my siblings. They both died at the hospital, and my mother was the only one to take care of them. However, some people have heard that watching a parent's death is the greatest form of filial disloyalty. I was in a relationship...

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What is a friend

In the past, I saw a friend with suicidal thoughts, who also posted here, at the station for the first time after breaking a relationship (3 or 4 years ago). As I was writing my diary in the wake of that, I realized that I still had my true intentions for my high school friend who committed...

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