Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How can I become more confident?

Hello. Let's get right to it, but here's the main subject. I don't have confidence in myself. I always compare myself to the people around me because I don't have confidence, I'm superior to Mr. A I'm winning against Mr. B with △△ I've unknowingly thought about it. Against someone you...

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Can't we go against fate?

I always read Q&A. I often think “I see,” and it's very helpful. By the way, does “destiny” exist? I use the word because it's “destiny,” and I feel that I blame it on “fate” quite a lot when I say it to myself. In life, there are causes, and there are consequences. Is cause and effect itself...

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What does living mean

I work as an office worker, I've been strong since I was little, and I've always been complacent since I was in middle school due to interpersonal fears, feelings of inferiority, etc. To be honest, it's still hard to live now. And when I think about when I get old, get sick, and die, I have no...

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About my encounter with Buddhism

I've had a favorite teacher for a long time. Of course, being in a relationship is ridiculous, and it's a relationship where they discuss their problems once in a while. I recently learned that this person is a Buddhist. Originally, I was a little interested in the way of thinking about...

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I'm so envious of my friends around me.

I have a fiancé and I'm planning to get married soon. I should have been happy, but I'm uneasy. That means her fiancé's job isn't going well, and she may quit after the wedding is over. Also, he is thinking about living together at his parents' house in the near future. As for work, I...

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Can I change denominations?

My denomination is the Jodo Shinshu sect, but I think there are denominations that are closer to my own ideas. Is it possible to change denominations? Also, what should I do to change denominations?

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When you turn 50

This is my first time asking a question. When I read a few questions, I saw quite a few trouble consultations from people who have turned 50. How should I live from now on? The position that had been built up until now is gone. I'm also in my forties, and the time I've been living is...

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About family funerals

My childhood friend's father passed away. I've loved Oi-chan since I was little. When I ask about the funeral schedule They answered that it was a family funeral, so please refrain from doing so. It is said that they will refuse Oi-chan's work and friendship relationships. I wanted to say...

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I'm starting to feel disgusted with my work.

I changed jobs about six months ago. Emails are flying around in the middle of the night, and I have a work environment that is too hard, and I'm starting to feel that my work is difficult and I can't keep up. I head to my computer to clean up even a little work on Saturdays and Sundays,...

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Facebook's repost appeal is annoying

It's annoying to see other people's posts on Facebook. ・I'm in Hawaii! That's good, that's good... ・It's BBQ with my friends, good, good... ・I changed my profile picture, I like it, I like it... I'm scared that if I don't know my friend's recent status, I'm the only one left behind in the...

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About tomorrow's surgery

I was asked to discuss this the other day. Please let me discuss it again. I'm currently 10 months pregnant, and I'm having a caesarean section tomorrow due to a breech child. It's such an important time, but I want to be isolated from my mom already. The reason was that when I told them that...

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How to burn incense

Obon is approaching and I'm going to the memorial service next time, but are there any rules on how to burn incense? When I look at other people, I'm just imitating it because it's repeated 2 or 3 times by pinching it with my finger, getting close to my face, and putting it back together. If...

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Why are sutras (kigyo) read in Chinese?

The ancients understood Chinese, so it seems that they didn't need to dare translate it into Japanese, but I think it's difficult for modern people. Originally, Buddhism is supposed to be a teaching for living people. Isn't it important to convey teachings to everyone in an easy-to-understand...

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My parents are too disrespectful and it's painful

Recently, I've been thinking a lot that I'm sorry for making me raise something. Every time I see them suffer to raise me, my heart is crushed by guilt. I want to make it easier for them in the future. But I'm not sure I have that kind of power. I want to be a filial daughter. What should I do?

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How can I talk to a monk I'm interested in...

Nice to meet you. I wanted to hear your opinion, so I posted it. I look forward to working with you. To the temple I go to on holiday, There is a monk whose movements are beautiful and I feel a gorgeous aura, I'm getting more and more interested. I think I'd like to talk about it, I...

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About animals

I'm heartbroken about culling, animal experiments, and everything else. Does the fear, sorrow, and suffering of innocent animals have a necessary meaning or reason during their evolution? I empathize so much, how can I think without getting hurt?

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I couldn't think of my father anymore.

I've posted about my husband before. This time it's about my biological father. My father is currently 75 years old and lives alone. My father worked seriously for many years and was originally a kind and strict person. The situation changed about 10 years ago from now, and they began to continue...

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My husband has tantrums.

This is my first email. I'm afraid this is a long sentence. The other day, I misunderstood that it was a tantrum just hearing a loud noise, and I cried a lot. I couldn't calm down mentally, so I went back to my parents' house for 2 days, and now I'm back home. When my husband has a tantrum,...

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Do I have to apologize and how should I live

Thirteen years ago, I parked it in the parking lot of a store near my kindergarten and picked them up. It was around the time I was exercising so I couldn't stop because it was annoying, but I was so tired that my memory flew away, so I made sure to go shopping and stop. I was blamed for that by...

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Is there a Mizuko no Tatari?

I'm a housewife from Alafo. I have a younger brother who is 2 years younger, and he's been so bad since he was a kid, and he finally became like an idiot. It's impossible to get married if you have a disability certificate. My father is an alcoholic and has been subject to verbal violence...

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