Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I don't like cute kids

To be honest, I'm a cute person. I'm thankful for that. However, there are many girls cuter than me or just as cute, and I don't like that and I'm not convinced. I get jealous of children who are ten years or older. Also, will they be loved even if they aren't cute? How can I stop feeling...

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remorse

It failed. Despite receiving a reply from Bon-san, as a result, the title and question were changed exactly along the way. See previous question. Hasunoha is open to everyone, so I wasn't careful enough because I should take a close look and then press the question button. I feel sorry for...

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I'm worried about continuing to wait

I fell in love with a maid at first sight at a con cafe, and I only went to see that maid once every 3 months. The place where my favorite maid works is different from a normal con cafe, so they always treated me simply. That maid treated me in a special way, and she confided in me before anyone...

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I don't want to be happy, I want to die

It has caused trouble to people. My opponent said it was fine, but now I can avoid it. Self-loathing has been intense recently, and if it bothers people, I think I shouldn't or don't want to be happy. Being happy makes me feel sorry. Up until now, I've been naive, self-centered, and I...

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I don't think it's okay to be alive

I say it every time my parents scold me. I think it's an auditory hallucination these days, the damn woman who only complains, is so tyrannical and can't do anything, but it seems like I'm hearing bad things that have been said by bad friends Unknowingly, they say it's too loud... I'm causing...

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About moving to Tokyo

Good evening. It's about moving to Tokyo in your 30s. It's a mother and child family, and I haven't had any money since a long time ago, but was my move to Tokyo a betrayal of my mother? I'm going to do my best to make the remittance. I don't have any good memories in my hometown, so once is...

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I'm in trouble because I fell in love with the chief priest

I fell in love with the chief priest who was always indebted to me. The chief priest and I are married, and we each have children. My marital relationship is good, and we are living a happy life. Despite that, I'm also puzzled that I fall in love with someone else. The chief priest is a...

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I'm a main player, but I'm at a loss about retiring

I'm a third-year college student this spring. For the two years since I entered university, I have prioritized athletic club activities above all else in my life. Expectations were placed on him as a main player, and his seniors really took good care of him. Also, I have had relationships with OB...

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Will people watch even when they die

Will people become nothing when they die? Aren't they watching us as Buddha? My grandmother, whom I have loved and cherished since I was a child, recently passed away. I don't have a Buddhist altar in my house (it's at a relative's house), so I put a picture of my grandmother and make an...

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Tabitachi

Back to normal readers. 📱

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Whereabouts of souls due to cause of death

I lost my beloved father due to illness. Even though they gave birth to me when I was young, they raised me properly and made me an adult. I love my dad, and we're so good friends that he's called a fatherball. I loved my family, not just my father, but my father was my number one ally. I like...

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Can we only be sad until the 49th?

My husband passed away and the ashes are about to be buried. I've heard that since the soul is close until the 49th, and then they embark on an ascetic journey, the sad thing is that until the 49th, regrets will remain and you won't be able to go to ascetic practice and become an evil...

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What experiences do I need to grow even more

Hello. My problem is that I don't know what I should move on (experience I should gain) next. As for work, I was placed in a certain position and taught my juniors I've also been able to grow myself through it, and I'm loved by them I think so. However, while juniors have grown up and...

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I can't gain enlightenment

I've abandoned my obsessions, and I've almost thrown away my friends, lover, and stuff. I'm in agony every day because even when I'm alive, I can't get a satisfactory answer even if I ask questions here. There is nothing left now other than letting go of the obsession with life...

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Are there benefits for transgenders

When I was reading a book called “The Seven Kannon Sutras,” there was something I was concerned about, so I would like to ask you a question. “Senju Sengen Kanzeon Bosatsu Hirodae, Perfect, and Immaculate Heart Dharani Sutra” says, “If any woman abhors a woman's body and wants to become a...

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Why and what was I born for

This is my first post, thank you. I am currently working as a contract employee. I've been working for over 10 years now. Regular employees have the same job description, and there is a difference in income. There are irregular promotion tests for full-time employees, and I have taken them...

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I don't know what to do

Even though I'm already in my late 20s, I haven't been able to get a proper job. What I experienced in my previous job about bullying and betrayal when I was a student made me feel a lot of fear about my family, and I couldn't move forward no matter what. Strange laziness in my head and heart...

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I'm looking up temple management for my graduation thesis

I am a third-year student at the Faculty of Business Administration and am currently working on my graduation thesis on temple management. However, I got bogged down in research. Originally, we should have interviewed a local temple, but unfortunately it hasn't been done yet. So I'm really...

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Please help

Hi I'm writing this for the first time, so if there are any mistakes in kanji, please look at them warmly. It's my first time and I don't know what to do, but even though I just lost my grandfather recently, I lived separately from my grandfather and always went to take care of him on...

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On parishioners and freedom of religion

My husband's parents' house, whom I married and lived with, is a member of the Yutsu Nembutsu sect (Dainenbutsu). Most of the 40 or so residents' associations are parishioners from the same temple, and each group (group) of the residents' association plays a role. Since there are 5 groups, the...

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