Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I judged it not by what's inside, but by its appearance

My heart hurts, so I want you to listen to the story Today I met a kid I met on a matching app. I was on the phone the whole time deciding on the store, and the conversation was so frank that I felt as if we were in a relationship But when I met her, she had a cleft palate. I was surprised,...

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Denial of other denominations?

that's 00! In Nichiren's words, there are words such as shingon exiled country, zen tenma, nembutsu mugan, and ritsukoku bandit, but I wonder what it would be like to criticize other teachings. I've heard that Nichiren did Kokuzo Gumonjiho and arrived at the teachings of Hokke Ichijo... Isn't...

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How to talk

I've hated talking so much in my life up until now. I can't say many compliments When I talk to people, I'm being too honest Things that make the other person uncomfortable It's been over and over again, and it's even faster and less fluent I've been told by my parents since I was in...

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I don't have room for my feelings, and I can't be positive

I'm always indebted to you. Over the past few years, days of nothing but sighing have continued. We have discussed it in the past, but the relationship with the isolated eldest son couple (the wife's former husband's child) and the daughter-in-law's parents has deteriorated, and the relationship...

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My wife told me to get divorced

We have been married for about 10 years and have children aged 7 and 3. The relationship began to deteriorate from around October last year, and although they made up in places, it felt like they were able to surpass the situation... I was told that I want them to get divorced already after...

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It's troublesome to live

Hello. I'm a 16 year old high school girl. I feel that life is a hassle these days. I don't want to live, but I don't feel like I want to die. When I go to school, I'm late or absent the next day. When I get home, the fatigue I put up with at school comes and I fall asleep right away. There's...

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I can't live the life I drew when I was little

I'm currently job hunting. The gap between the ideals I had in mind when I was little and now is so big that I feel a dent in myself. I feel sorry for who I was when I was little. When I was little, I wanted to get an international job! I had that thought. I don't know what I want to do, I...

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What does it mean to not be influenced by feelings

I began to be interested in Zen, read books about Zen, etc., and often visit this site. As I came into contact with Buddhism in this way, I began to want to learn a way of life where I wouldn't be swayed by my own distractions or the like. However, when I gradually shake off those...

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Attitudes for when you feel frustrated, recovery keywords

This is my first time asking a question. Thank you for your support. Over the past few years, I've been bothered by the words and actions of my juniors at the company. Even though she's a junior, she's also in her late 30s and a nice adult.  She is a person who feels overly self-conscious,...

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I want to control my anger against my mother-in-law

I got married to a temple, and my mental state worsened due to taunting and severe harassment in such a way that my mother-in-law denied my personality. I feel like I've finally gotten better, but there are times when I feel that I'm still afraid or frightened of people when getting involved...

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How to accept nonsexuality

I'm probably nonsexual I have never felt sexual attraction towards people even before I became sexual phobia due to past sexual victimization. What is sexual attraction in the first place? It makes me think. I'm talking about girls the same age as when they were students feeling attracted to...

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Elementary 6 girls are not suitable for junior high school entrance exams

I know that even if you can study to a certain extent, there are people who are unsuitable for junior high school entrance exams. I have continued to be enrolled in the top class, starting with going to major preparatory schools from the fourth elementary school in general. Elementary 4 and...

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Fortune telling results

My friend said she wanted to go the other day and went for my fortune telling. The result at that time was “run away from him softly and you can't cure him because you're not an expert.” I was told. What the fortune teller said was almost true, so I can't believe it at all!! I can't even feel...

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I can't accept death

I found a difficult illness in my dog. It has been determined that there isn't long to come. I don't look like anything, I have an appetite, and I'm doing well. I'm still young, so I can't accept that even though I'm doing this well... There are only regrets, such as whether my behavior was...

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If I'm poor, can I be allowed to steal?

I saw on the news that the Japanese film “Shoplifting Family” received high praise at the Cannes Film Festival. It seems to be a story about a family that makes a living from pensions and shoplifting, but I really don't like it because it seems to glorify shoplifting. Shoplifters are thieves,...

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What should I do to live in a declining region

I graduated from college a few years ago. At first, I intended to get a job at an urban company, but since I'm an only child, I lost to my family's pleas (there are various other reasons), and I was forced to return to my hometown. If I think about it now, I think even if I abandoned my parents...

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Are humans born to leave offspring?

Why are life forms on Earth born and kept alive in the first place? In Buddhism, which does not preach gods or spirits, there is an empty thought, but is a collective body of consciousness where everything is integrated a so-called god in other religions? The Buddha is said to be unrecorded,...

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I can't start a new life because of my wife.

My affair broke up 2 months ago, just with my affair partner I also wanted to remarry, so I initiated divorce mediation, My wife does not agree to the divorce. It's an embarrassing story, but the fact that I've been inflating company expenses since last year My wife warned me to stop...

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Pressure from father-in-law

When my daughter was born, my father-in-law, who came to see my daughter at the maternity hospital, told me many times, “If it were a boy, I wouldn't say anything.” I say “you're a boy” to my daughter, and even now that my daughter is 2 years old, she still says “boys were good.” I can't forgive...

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The time left with my mother

My mother has cancer. Although I'm still not doing well, I'm living a normal life. Is there anything I can do while I'm doing well? The days go by even though I think about it. I feel sorry for myself for not being able to do anything and not being able to fully believe in miracles, and I'm...

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