Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm tired. please help me.

A parent's child-rearing is a failure, right? From my parents when I was a kid “You can't do anything anyway, so stop, give up” “Why can't we do this?” Even though they've never praised me by saying things like After becoming independent “Once you've done everything you can, you'll have a...

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A way to face your own feelings about people you don't like.

It is an organization where people of all ages gather, and I am an executive this term. One of the management officers is someone I'm really bad at. That person put something on “Why would you choose such words?” “Why don't you think about how the other person feels when you take that...

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Does giving birth kill a person?

I didn't understand the category, so sorry if it was a different category. I think the basis of Buddhism is that people always die of old age, but then, does giving birth to a child mean killing a child? I think people will be burdened with death from the moment they are born. Is making them...

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About killing animals

A few times a year, I watch news where animals such as bears and wild boars appear in villages and towns. There are many cases where they are dangerous when encountered, and there are many cases where they attack humans, cause serious injury, or in the worst case, die. Also, I see very sad news...

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What is the sky in the Heart Sutra

What is the sky? There was also a book that said we don't exist. Certainly, I don't think there will be any changes yesterday today. If it's been 10 years, I can understand the changes, and maybe they aren't in this world. But it changes every day, as if it were called impermanent. They look...

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What should I do to accept my father's death?

I'm indebted to you. My father had an accident the other day and passed away. My mom and I can't have a conversation with my father, whom I love. My two older brothers are making arrangements and preparations for various things. My dad's brother and my uncle are helping me too. I was...

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I'm worried that I've lent money to my boyfriend

My boyfriend, who is 14 years older and divorced, confided that “my friend has 200,000 debts,” and even though I wasn't asked to, I lent him 200,000 yen. It was said that there were other debts, so I said, “Repayment to me is fine at the end, so end the other debts.” After that, he was...

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My self without a future

With my abilities, I don't seem to be able to live the way I want I wanted to be born someone other than myself. I just wanted to get results over others for the effort I made But I'm incompetent, so it's impossible even if I make an effort I want to die already

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Sumo industry scandals

Every time I read news about recent assault incidents in the sumo industry, I wonder what part of this is the Shinto ritual. I turned down female governors who tried to go up to the ring for awards in the past on the grounds that “women get dirty when they go up to the ring.” However, they have...

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Suicide Paradise

I feel it all the time. What is called distorted justice that people have. Why don't we relentlessly die from an unspecified number of people even now? or that guy because it's not a big deal. They say don't study even though it's stupid, it's useless even if you do it, and when you go out and...

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Will I go to hell after death?

In order to go to the Pure Land of Paradise I've heard that you have to keep the commandments. Now about the commandments and what I did Does not kill First of all, what kind of creature is this not supposed to be killed, right? It kills mosquitoes, cockroaches, etc. They also eat meat and...

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Anxiety about the civil service exam (job hunting)

I go to a vocational school where I want to become a police officer. Apart from what I've discussed about my studies before, there are times when I feel uneasy. It's about sex (LGBT). I think the physical gender and gender identity are probably women, but when I looked it up, I wonder if...

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Why is staying alive considered the correct answer

Why is “staying alive” the correct answer? I feel that the structure of society is also moving on the premise that “treatment is natural” when you become ill. I don't have any particular regrets in my life; rather, I challenge what I want to do precisely because I think “it doesn't matter...

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Questions to the monk

Not only will I be the caretaker of my husband's parents' house, but I've been thinking for a long time that I and my son don't like getting involved with that temple, and I've been discussing the problems associated with that here. Among them... ① I'm too strong because I only prioritize my...

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About the bad monk

Up until now, I've asked a lot of questions about monks. Thank you all for your kind responses 🙇🏻🙇🏻🙇🏻 I have another question, but recently there was a monk who was arrested for inciting driving. I thought monks were wonderful people who explained their teachings, but there are bad monks among...

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What is death

Please tell me in detail about whether humans become nothing when living things die I'm honestly afraid of dying

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I want to go after the guy who got widowed earlier

I know this is a question that is difficult to answer. However, I thought it would be best to ask this question. First, my boyfriend and I agreed with each other 2 months ago and then executed it. (As an agreement, we are writing suicide notes to each other. (As for the reason in mind,...

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What should people without greed do...

I'm a man in his 20s. I'm still young, but I don't have much greed. When I look around my generation, I want a girlfriend! I want a car! I want money! Everyone seems to be living with some kind of desire, and I'm really envious. So the question is, how do things called cravings spring up?...

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It makes me want to take them to the temple

This is my first time discussing something like this, so it's hard to know how to explain it. I'm in a temple now (maybe a shrine?) There's something I'd like to take you to. I go to the temple myself, but there are times when I feel that I want to take someone inside me to the temple. I think...

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It's painful enough to die

A few months ago, I eloped with my affair partner. I was single, and he had a wife and children. The other day, when the job was decided and food, food, and shelter had stabilized, it became known that he had been in touch with his former wife. The former wife seems to be saying that her...

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