Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Visit your marriage partner's grave

It's been a little over a year since we got married. I visited my husband's grave at my parents' house three times in the past year, such as the end of the year, Obon, and Ohigan. My parents-in-law also seem to take it for granted that I go visit my husband's grave. However, my husband never...

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I want to start over with a life I deserved

The cost of my life up until now, running away to an easy way and living without thinking seriously when faced with problems, has now all fallen to me. I think my choices were always wrong. It's really painful. I want to die. I want to be comfortable. However, the sight of parents feeling sad is...

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Depression is not curable

Nice to meet you today. I'm a man in my thirties, and I was diagnosed with depression from the hospital three years ago and went to the hospital, but there's no sign of getting better. My job is an office worker, but I don't get along with my boss, and I just get stressed every day. After I...

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I would like to hear your various thoughts

My daughter reserved a cake the other day It was when I forgot about it that day and didn't go to get my memories before going to bed. I've already paid for the cake It is said that the phone did not come even when it was time to pick it up It seems like my wife heard that story from my...

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Not good at kids

Originally, I didn't like kids. Strangely enough, when I became pregnant, I think I have a baby in my stomach I couldn't help but look forward to meeting them, and I felt very happy when I felt it move in my stomach. I wonder if this means that my kids are cute! I thought so. Even...

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Bad-mouthed

If you do good things, good things will come back. To speak ill of something is to spit in the sky. It is often said, Is this true? Even if I understand that I shouldn't speak ill of you I adjusted it to my surroundings, polo It makes me feel relaxed. What should I do to stop speaking ill...

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How to relieve desperation

Thank you for your help, Hasunoha helped me a lot this year, and I am sincerely grateful. I posted it because I wanted to receive hints on how to relax my heart that is too desperate. I entered graduate school in my mid-thirties, and from there until now (part-time university...

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Is there anyone who should die?

I think I'd be a better person to die. I'm not a criminal, but I've bothered a lot of people. Even though I get paid taxes to work, I haven't been able to get any results. Not only did they not return anything to the parents and grandparents who provided a blessed environment, but they also...

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I lost my child. please help me.

I can't sort out my feelings no matter what, and I don't know how to spend my time, so I would like to ask for help and consult with you. I lost a high school child. I've been a kind and caring kid since I was little. Although they were clumsy, they were friendly and blessed with people around...

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I can no longer trust monks

It took a lot of courage to come here with a title like this, but I would like to ask the question because I really want to hear the monk's opinion. When my father was cremated 6 years ago, the chief priest of the temple who is now a parishioner recited sutras and then said, “You don't have...

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I don't know if it's okay to live happily

Until now, I have lived my life thinking about things in an egocentric manner. It didn't touch the law, and it didn't become a big deal... Until now, there have been people who have caused trouble and hurt me, but I suddenly became uneasy about whether it's okay for me to live a normal life...

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Funeral wearing a mask

The other day, My husband's mother passed away A funeral was held. At that time, They gave me sutras The monk wears a mask throughout the funeral. In the middle of the sutras only when drinking tea, Shift the mask Other than that Keep your mask on. Monks are human too,...

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Making rice lousy

I'm quite worried, and I'm really worried about food poisoning etc. in the summer etc. But when I had dinner today, my parents took the rice out of the rice cooker with a rice scoop that looked like it had sashimi on it. It seemed like it was fine when I was a parent, so I felt like it was fine....

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Is causal retaliation true?

I work part-time at a cafe. There are customers who come every day, and there are happy people who deliberately get angry and frighten them. It's an everyday thing, so I don't feel scared anymore, but since it's an everyday thing, I'm sick and upset. On the other hand, the customer acted...

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Do you want to live a long time?

I'm indebted to you. The other day, there was a health checkup at work I received the results. It was amazingly healthy (lol) There were a lot of bad points in last year's health checkup, so Other than this, I was a little relieved that it seemed like I could go to my daughter as soon as...

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What should I do?

I'm working at my current workplace due to a transfer, but I'm having trouble with my relationship with my boss. Originally, I feel that it is difficult to work because the fact that it is not a human fit comes first. There are various opportunities and opportunities to transfer from another...

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anthropophobia

Nice to meet you. My name is Chi. Thank you for your support. My problem is that I have thoughts, fears, and anxiety about not being seen as strange by people, making strange faces, or not being dealt with sloppy, etc., which interferes with living my daily life. For example, when I go to...

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It's about Christmas

Hi Do all Buddhists eat cake at Christmas? Anything else special you want to do? It's a question I've had since I was young Thank you for your support

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Could you get me a tantrum ball

Nice to meet you. When I saw the monk's answer in Hasunoha before, there was a puja of a samurai named Hibino Raifu and Ishikawa Zenji. It's a story about how Zen-ji said to Mr. Raifu, who wanted Zenji's rosary, “Then let's exchange it for your tantrum ball,” and after that, when Raifu-sama...

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About suicide

I've been thinking about the meaning of being alive since I was in middle school. I think many people think that living a long time is amazing, but recently I don't think so. There are a lot of people who become ugly people as they get older, and it makes me wonder why they are obsessed with...

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