Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

A lover I met on the internet

I met a man on the internet in 2015 and have been in a relationship. At that time, it was a period after I quit due to mental illness due to company relationships, and they also supported me during various discussions. However, they didn't tell me my personal information from the beginning of...

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I hate the night

I hate the night. When it gets dark at night, anger at the irrationality I received from others in the past usually springs up, and worries about the future come up one after another. At such times, I'd like you to tell me how to think a little more easily.

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It's painful not being able to grow

Whether at work or in everyday life, I have made similar mistakes and repeated similar regrets. I think I'm reflecting on it each time and devising ways so that I don't fail again, but it doesn't lead to results no matter what. It's a series of times when you're anxious, and you act impatiently...

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In order not to go to hell after death.

I'm in my 40s, unemployed, single, and lonely for the rest of my life (my parents died of cancer, my father committed suicide due to debt), and I don't have a boyfriend or friends. When I was a student, I was bullied and lonely, and since I was hungry because I couldn't work or work I'm...

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I'm angry about bragging stories and images on Facebook and blogs

If that's the case, I don't think I should just watch it, but I just end up watching it. I'm angry at the blogs and FBs of my classmates, neighbors, and people close to me. Images of sushi, karasumi pasta, and cakes were posted at the counter. I usually cook my own meals and don't often eat out....

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About career paths and estranged friends

I'm worried about my career path and my estranged friends. I'm currently in my second year of high school and I quit school a year ago. I'm currently attending a cram school to go to college. I want to get a high school graduate certification and go to college, but I'm having trouble...

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People make a fool of me when I talk about Buddhism.

I began to be interested in sutras at the end of last year, and I have changed every verse of the sutras to the current language so that it is easy to understand with my smartphone and electronic dictionary by my side. I've always liked classical music, and there are places where I'm drawn to...

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I'm afraid of death that will come someday

I'm afraid of death that will come someday. Everyone will say goodbye to this world at some point. As long as humans are living creatures, they are born, live, and die someday. I understand that cycle. But I'm afraid of death that will come someday. It started when I was able to...

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I was suddenly kept at a distance from someone important to me.

There is someone I've become really good friends with at work in the past six months. I was transferred, but we continued to be good friends even after that. We kept in touch every day, met regularly, and even talked about our problems with each other. People I like this are rare, and I wanted...

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Divorced, living apart, children don't know

I'm always indebted to you. My daughter recently said she wants to live with 3 people. My daughter is still small and she doesn't remember what her husband did. My husband had problems every day due to interpersonal and work-related issues. Of course, my wife and I also had constant...

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I'm going to rely on AI

I'm a graduate student, and I'm worried that my procrastination habit is so bad that I have a habit of relying on AI to finish what I should write in my own words. If you look at past questions, you'll understand, but after suffering from depression for a long time, I was really happy that I was...

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On Buddhism and discrimination against women

Hello I want to ask monks, why is there content that discriminates against women in Buddhism? The other day, I went to the “Japanese History of Gender Differences” exhibition held at the Chiba Prefecture Folk Museum There, Buddhism includes the five disabilities theory and the view of...

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Obsession with people is painful

I met someone of the opposite sex three or four times, but I didn't want a convenient relationship, so I took the plunge and asked them about their feelings for themselves and what kind of person they are for their partner. I was told that I wanted to be in a relationship, that my partner had a...

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About my relationship with my real mother

My real mother (70 years old, living in Kansai) is a full-time housewife, and she raised me (39) with great care. My dream was to work internationally, so they made me study abroad and go on to graduate school. Thanks to that, I was able to get a job at an international organization, and now I...

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About visiting my father's grave that had been isolated

My father, who had been isolated for over 10 years, died of illness this year. (The reason for the isolation is my father's infidelity) One month before my father passed away, I received an email saying “I want to see you at first sight for the last time”... I couldn't forgive my selfish...

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What is the meaning of “destiny”

Please tell me the meaning of “do your best to wait for destiny” I'm looking for my missing beloved cat right now. The motto is “do your best to wait for destiny,” and I have been searching for it with encouragement from a broken heart. However, as an amateur, I did quite a few different...

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I'm going to volunteer...

This is my first post in a month. Before I ask a question, let me write a bunch of essays. If there are any typographical errors, etc., please forgive us. I mentioned that I would do an interview in the previous question, but the interview didn't work. It makes me feel indescribable to those...

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I think it's correct

People who can properly say thank you and sorry are better. I feel like there are a lot of people talking about it these days. As a precondition for talking about this, of course I think that these values are true. However, from time to time, I saw people who only threw that way of thinking...

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I want to die

I want to die. I don't understand it anymore. Saying I don't understand is a story about stopping thinking, so I have to do something myself, but I can't do it anymore. I'm very sorry for the inconvenience. It's no good to throw away all comics, DVDs, etc., stop playing games at all, stop...

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The number of things required at work is increasing steadily, and it's tough.

There is little time to be given for the amount of work that must be done and the quality required, and it is painful. I lose more and more confidence in myself in every day when there are lots of reprimands and dislikes. Am I to blame?

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