Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I don't want to watch the news

I don't want to watch the news. Recently I looked around and found a dead body. ○ days have passed since his death. It looks like murder. This kind of news has been circulating every day recently, and to be clear, I don't understand why they kill people so easily, but it makes me...

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Can't a person from an ordinary household become a temple wife?

The guy I'm in a relationship with is the successor to the temple, but people in the temple have married each other from generation to generation, and it is said that it is useless if they are from a normal household. ① Because it's a small temple, the number of parishioners won't increase...

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Ahead of disease treatment

I have lung cancer, and it has spread to lymph, and I have had three surgeries. There seems to be almost no five-year survival rate. Even so, I worked hard together with my family, lived up, and took the path of life. However, it has spread again, and now I am undergoing anticancer drug treatment...

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Is it bad to hold a memorial service for the 33rd anniversary?

I'm a housewife in my 50s. The 33rd death of my paternal grandmother at my parents' house and my older brother's wife is approaching. Instead of asking the family temple for the 33rd anniversary memorial service, isn't it a substitute for the 33rd anniversary memorial service in the Kyogi...

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Why do we believe in Kannon

I'm still immature, but I'm a monk of the Soto sect, and I'm studying a lot. Then I suddenly wondered why they enshrine and believe in things that don't exist (I don't know if they exist), such as Kannon, Amida Nyorai, and Daikokuten. Buddha looks at himself rather than praying to gods and...

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I'm going to tell a lie

I have an older sister who is 5 years older. A few years ago, when we were talking about whether my older sister is married at work, I lied about the fact that my older sister is married and that her husband is a good person. My sister is not married. At that time, there was frequent talk of...

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How to deal with a boyfriend while living together

I made an appointment yesterday to have a drink with my living partner However, when I got home earlier, I had already started drinking in the evening, and I got tired from working overtime every day and fell asleep, so I completely missed my promise The content below was sent on LINE after I...

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I can't verbalize what I felt

When I'm in a fight with my boyfriend, something inside of me gets caught up in what my boyfriend said, and the conversation often stops. “What did you think?” I can't answer that even when asked. When asked that, they always said “I don't know,” but when something similar happened recently, they...

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On religion...

I'm sorry for your busy schedule. My parents belong to a certain religion. Always before the Buddhist altar in the morning If something happens, I always report it to the Buddha. do you work for things that happen? I'm scolded for chanting. My grandmother and all the religious people...

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Until what age do Buddhists live

At about what age is it possible to enter the Buddhist priesthood?

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Anxious about the future and loneliness are painful

This is my first time consulting. I'm sorry if this is random. Currently, I have two problems. ① About work I've been working as a designer since this year. Thankfully, the work environment is very good, and I learn a lot every day. However, there are many applications for design...

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I don't like weak bodies that quickly get sick.

From around the time I was over 20, I often got sick quickly, and it often became a rare illness, and when I thought one illness got better, something went wrong again, and I spend my time feeling uneasy every day. I'm still sick right now. There is also a saying that sickness comes from...

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I want to start over with my boyfriend who was swamped

We were in a relationship for about 5 months, but I didn't appreciate his kindness or compassion, and I took it for granted, and by treating him selfishly due to my own stress, I made him angry when I met him about 3 days ago, and in the end, they unilaterally told me over the phone that we would...

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Strong sense of incongruity with “female/manly” clothes

My body gender when I was born and my gender identity from birth until now has always been female, and I don't mind being treated as a woman by people around me. However, when it comes to clothing, there is a strong sense of incongruity with the phrase “the more feminine, the better a man,” and...

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I want to quit my part-time job

I'm worried about whether to quit my part-time job. I became a university student in April, and I started working part-time as a lecturer at individual cram schools during summer vacation. At first, I was excited to work on it, but I began to think that I wanted to take care of things I wanted...

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Is this game a blasphemy against Shinto and Buddhism?

[Overview] In a game where characters with traditional Shinto and Buddha motifs appear, they have a serious psychological conflict with the act of attacking them and getting points. I've asked the same question before, but since misunderstandings may occur to everyone, I've prepared a reference...

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Sometimes it becomes difficult to be myself

I became an adult this year. I haven't been able to build good relationships since I was young. I felt betrayed by my partner from stories I heard from people, etc., and if I had distrust, I kept a distance from my partner instead of resolving it through discussions. Keeping a distance was...

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I'm about to get a flat head

I live with my wife. I wasn't making children, and I was planning my future life so I could save money and live as it is. However, after 3 years of marriage, they had a baby. After suffering for both of them, they are about to have an abortion. My wife is surprisingly easy (probably...

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My regrets for my grandmother won't go away

My grandmother passed away the other day due to death, and we had a funeral. My grandmother and I were far away and it wasn't easy to meet, but I was always spoiled by my kind grandmother. When I saw my grandmother pass away, I instantly regretted that I had spoiled my grandmother too much...

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About the fact that people become nothing when they die

Good evening, I had to ask a question. This is the content I saw on SNS this morning, and there were people who tweeted that they are very afraid that humans will be in a state of nothlessness forever when they die, and there are various opinions, etc. It flowed in this direction. While...

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