Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Are kids good at bumping or snoring?

　When there's something I don't like, the switch suddenly turns on, and the person changes. Their facial expressions and wording have changed, and they look like yakuza. This is also true for my own children, and I usually say “Haru-chan, ehehehe.” I'm doting on it, but for example, if...

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I was told by a worshiper that my baby would be born with some kind of disability

Nice to meet you. I'm a stay-at-home mom living with my parents-in-law. On a daily basis, I was swayed by my mother-in-law's interference and disputes with my parents-in-law, and I was worried, so I decided to have a worship shop take a look at it at the suggestion of an acquaintance. As a...

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I'd like to do a memorial service without a Buddhist altar

This is my first time asking a question. I was widowed from my biological father when I was young, and now both mother and child are together I'm staying with my grandparents. At my current house, it's a Buddhist altar for my maternal ancestors It takes the form of offering incense...

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I don't know what to believe

I don't belong to any religion or denomination in particular, but for the first time, I go to shrines, my relatives' graves are at temples, and Christmas feels somehow special, so I buy cakes. It seems that people from overseas are surprised by this kind of situation, but even from a monk's...

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I want to abandon greed and expectations

I don't like continuing to live a life swayed by greed and expectations. I want to throw it away and become a person who doesn't want anything and doesn't expect anything. However, greed springs up without permission, and it is impossible not to have expectations or be intentional. How can we...

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Should I start an independent business

　I'm indebted to you. I am a dentist working at a dental clinic specializing in orthodontics. I've been working for 5 years and I'm not sure whether to start an independent business. When I first started working, I wanted to go back to my hometown, and I was conscious that I would...

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I want to stop being social

A few years have passed since I became addicted to idol training social games. Also, in a certain game, my recommended idol appeared in the so-called gacha, but no matter how much money I had accumulated, I couldn't scout that idol from the gacha. Honestly, it's so painful that I want to...

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What is a job

I've been in sales for about 8 years. At first, I did my favorite beauty job as a contract employee, took a promotion exam considering the salary aspect, and started working at household goods 3 years ago. I've been in charge of leadership since last year. Seeing people smile in customer...

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How far can a monk spend luxury and money for himself?

If there are any typographical errors, etc., please forgive us. This time, I wanted to hear the opinions of various monks about what I felt the other day, so I posted it. It's hard to ask, but I have the courage to ask. I would be happy if there was a monk I could go out with. The other...

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I did something I shouldn't have done

Nice to meet you, my name is Minato. Yesterday, I did something I shouldn't have done. I'm sorry for not being able to write in detail. If I had checked it properly, this wouldn't have happened. I couldn't sleep at night when I thought about why I had done this. When I thought about...

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Life choices. I don't know what to do myself.

I'm a 28 year old female. At the beginning of this month, I was touched by my boyfriend who I had been in a relationship with for 2 years. We were also conscious of getting married, and we've been talking about living together starting in spring. There were constant fights over that incident...

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Is it better to be loved than to love?

Good evening. I'm being approached by someone right now. That person graduated from a certain national university, and he is one year older than me and has a proper job. Have we known each other for about a month? They say they can't help but want to get married. Probably because of...

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I can't decide for myself

I've always been very bad at making my own decisions. I can't make my own decisions to the extent that I think I always want to live according to someone else's decisions. If you can't decide for someone, you don't know what to do and you become very anxious. Until I was in high school,...

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It's hard being alive

I wish I hadn't been born. It's painful. Even though I'm at this age, I haven't continued to work, can't get married, my debts just increase, and my life is like an idiot. I think the reason is that I quit my job right away. Even if I join a good company, I want to run away right away....

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I wanted to try to be popular

I wanted to be popular (laughs) I'm a 33-year-old woman. I'm getting married soon. (Naturalization only, no ceremony) I'm looking forward to getting married to the guy I've been in a relationship with for 9 years, including long distance, and I'm not particularly anxious, What I feel...

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Breaking away from things you can't help but think about

At last, I've been waiting for the results to see if I have cancer myself. As you told me in the previous question, I'm trying not to think so I don't think about it. When I notice it, I almost feel crushed by anxiety. Are there any tips for not thinking about it? Housework and other things...

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Look at a monk's site

When I saw a monk's site, I thought they might have this kind of idea. “People who helped cats that were about to be eaten by snakes have been praised. How do snakes that have been robbed of their food feel, and can humans decide the lives and deaths of other creatures?” I saw this idea...

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I can't show myself

Nice to meet you. My name is Tommy and I go to a university in Tokyo. I'm in first grade. I was bullied in the past in elementary and middle school, and even after it was resolved, I couldn't understand people around me and got carried away, and since I started going to high school, I began...

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True opinion and right thought of the Eight Shodō

I have a question about the right opinion and proper thinking of the Eight Shodo, and I think correctly when I see it correctly. What is correct? What would be the right thing to do? How do I get it right? Could you give me a familiar example?

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I want to be able to read the air.

I can't read the air quite a bit. Please feel free to say anything. It is said, Even though it's just a pre-construction, You can say anything. I seriously misunderstood that. After speaking, As a scene around you, ah, that was no good? I finally notice it due to reactions from those...

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