Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I hate myself for not being able to do anything

Sorry for posting the question. I hate myself for not being able to do anything, and I hate being just a troublesome adult. Ten years ago, I completed a national university graduate school, but just before that, I became depressed due to power harassment, my job offer didn't last long, and...

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[Soto Sect] About Successions

Thank you, Morishiya, for your hard work. Now, there is still no peace of mind or Dharma, but Fudo has gradually been given the magic lantern to the extent that he is able to walk while thinking about the path leading up to Zuiyo (succession of laws). Therefore, before entering Yasui this...

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About the monk's grooming

Does the monk who shaves his hair take care of himself?

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I can't forgive myself

I can't write the details I can't forgive my actions about a month ago I feel guilty every day I can't move I wonder if my actions are a sin I had a lot of discussions Even if they say it's okay I'm not forgiving dominated by anxiety and fear There's even the meaning of living like this...

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A monk who lost a family member or friend to suicide

Please tell me about your state of mind back then, how you dealt with that reality, and how you maintain your mind now. I think this kind of question is extremely rude, insensitive, and insane. However, it is not an objective answer (sermon) from people who have committed suicide around them,...

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A personality that makes it difficult to take over

I have a personality that always struggles to take over since I was a child. I'm always worried about something, and when my anxiety is resolved, I feel relieved for a while. It's a repetition of what was in a corner of my heart until then but wasn't really concerned about coming to the center of...

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I lost my confidence in the wake of changes in my workplace

My place of work was a branch with 5 sales members at the beginning, and a total of 7 people, me and my colleague who joined the company as sales assistants. We originally went to the office, but since remote work began due to the COVID-19 pandemic, our support team has been working from home...

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Do you forgive cheating? Will you spend the rest of your life with him?

I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for 4 years. We lived together about a year ago and were planning to get married on our next anniversary. However, I discovered LINE where he had an affair last month. I think people who cheat are the worst, so I'm worried about whether to break up. The...

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Being scammed and self-loathing

The other day, I received an email from a certain online shopping destination saying that the fee had not been paid, and I made a phone call in a hurry, paid 36,000 yen with a prepaid card, and the next day, I found out that it was a fraud and filed a damage report with the police. I've been...

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I began to worry about the world after death

I'm in middle school Recently, I often worry about the world after death. When I looked it up on the internet, it says that if you take your life, you will go to hell, and I'm very worried. I have committed many misdeeds, such as taking my life and stealing. There are a lot of things we...

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I'm sad that I can't trust my partner during pregnancy

He and I are divorced from the same generation, and they both wanted children, so they started fertility treatment after six months of dating, saying that the sooner they were in terms of age, the sooner they were in a relationship. Actually, I wanted marriage and children after the two of them...

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The regret of not being able to be kind to people won't go away

Good evening. Today, I'm a middle-aged woman who gave up her seat to her grandfather on the bus and is having a hard time. That person didn't know when they got on, but when I noticed it, I sat down on the stairs near the exit feeling “this is unbearable.” After that, it almost felt like a...

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I'm a single mom, but I've settled my cohabitation with him

I'm a single mother with a 9 year old son. It came to an end in 3 months after I started living with the guy I had been in a relationship with for close to 5 years. He bought a house because he wanted to remarry someday, and we moved too. However, as soon as we started living together, they...

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School is hard

It's hard to go to school, especially to the classroom. The members of the class are almost the same last year and this year, but since last year, they have been avoided by a group of 7 girls. It's still fine if it's simply being avoided, but they are secretly speaking ill of me when they look...

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The flow of the world: was this decided to happen?

Hello, it's been a while since I posted a question. Recently, every time I watch shocking news such as natural disasters or wars, I'm like, “Isn't this decided?” That feeling and sense of helplessness became stronger, and I wanted to ask the monks what they thought, so I asked them...

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I'm worried about being a pervert

Up to now, I've dated about 20 women. They are all close relationships. Among them were a friend's wife, a junior's wife, and subordinates. If it flutters, it depends on how you handle it. Of course, I'll reflect on it when it's over. The anxiety that they might find out comes along. I love my...

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Are you getting through when you quit?

Tell the female boss about her colleague After consulting... It now starts calling out I wonder if I'm not feeling better than the other day What if they sell bread before the store opens on Tuesday I was watching it at a distance What is it? I wonder if they've been able to quit...

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I hate my brother and father

I am a family of 4 with my mother, father, and younger brother, but my father has a mild physical disability and can't work, and my younger brother is now in high school. I hate these two people, and first of all, I understand that my father can't work, but they are very fat, burp, fart, and...

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Do you have a lotus flower?

I'm sorry for the silly content I'm a little curious, so I'll ask you a question Once upon a time when I was in elementary school, when monks and mothers were talking at a temple It seems that they said to me, “This child has lotus flowers” I don't remember that time I forgot what I was...

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I can't understand the hobbies of the person I like

I was handed over to him four months ago due to a mismatch in hobbies, etc. My friendship with him continues for the time being. I still love him. If the reason was a mismatch in his hobbies, I thought I'd try his hobby first, and then try to understand it. (His hobby is games, and I like...

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