Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How should I recover from my mistakes and regrets

Hello. I have now quit my job and am looking for a job. The other day, I received a message from my previous business partner saying “I want you to come to our company.” At that time, I was in the process of selecting the company of my first choice. The first company I wanted to apply for...

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I don't know how to choose a temple.

Let me ask you a question. I've been married for 16 years. For married couples in times of emergency, on a regular basis I want to enter a temple for memorial services for my ancestors, etc. I talk to my husband all the time. But how to choose a temple etc. is completely unclear I've been...

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About the goshuin you get at the temple

I've always loved Kyoto and visited temples a lot. Being in a temple calms my mind, and I feel like I can become my true self, and I learned about goshuin as something that leaves memories other than photographs etc. I'd like to have it next time, but would it be rude to ask if you could...

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Can parents be sued

I recently learned that parents are not doing their parental duties. I'm a minor, so I need my parents' consent to do anything. Now that I'm 16, my parents say to school, “I have fulfilled my parental responsibilities and I will live my life.” However, when the tests are busy, they won't do...

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Is it a woman or a man?

Is it a woman, a man, or just another creature? I was born a woman. I had no doubts about being a woman when I was young. (Or maybe they didn't think it was a woman or a man?) It was around the time the girls around me started menstruating, and breast bulges began to appear. I began to...

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An old man I was on good terms with has passed away

It recently became known that an old man I met through work and was good friends with in private has passed away. He died at the age of 93. I was a tour guide, and I became good friends with an old man who guided me on the tour, and even went out to eat in private. My grandfather also liked...

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About space existence and open contact

I often hear stories about the beginning of interaction with cosmic beings in the spiritual community right now. From a monk's point of view, what do you think of this kind of story? On some video sites, there are people who say that only the chosen ones can have that kind of interaction, etc.,...

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About stillbirths

Nice to meet you. A sad event happened the other day. My brother's third child had a miscarriage. I was due to be born in September, so I was relieved to have entered a stable period... The two older children are 10 and 8 years old and healthy. They say they will be cremated tomorrow 5/17,...

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I want to spread the essence of Buddhism

Hello. I always visit this site when I get lost. I came across a modern translation of the Heart Sutra not long ago, and I fell in love with Buddhism since then. It wasn't that I hated it until now, but I thought religion itself had nothing to do with me. Now, as I did a lot of research, I...

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The difference between Tarikiji Nembutsu and Jikiji Nembutsu

Does Shinran teach that if you chant Tariki Nembutsu, you will be saved? Nembutsu with all your heart is Tariki Nembutsu, right? If you put your heart into it even if you don't decide on your devotion, will it become Tariki Nembutsu How can the judgment of “putting your heart into it” be...

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What is the whereabouts of the deceased after that?

After all, when people die, they won't be anywhere, Watching over you from the side is a word for not feeling lonely so that those left behind don't follow you, right? Because I think it's terrible for people who have died to know this reality. If my husband sees this current situation, he...

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About offerings

After my grandmother's wake, my mother was called by a monk, “How much was the offering wrapped?” It seems that they were asked. Six years ago, at the time of my grandfather's funeral, life was difficult, so I was only able to wrap an offering for 30,000 yen. They brought that up, and...

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Can I live without getting involved with my mother-in-law or sister-in-law

Last time I discussed it on “My husband was told by my mother-in-law that I don't think she is an heir...” From then on, my husband (eldest son) and I had discussions with my second son and his wife, third son, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and a third party (a relative of my father-in-law's...

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Is it necessary to make an effort to not be loved?

Why do you have to work so hard that you won't be loved even if you make an effort. People say you should love your partner first, but if what I gave you wasn't love, what was it? don't ask for anything in return? I don't know. Even if it comes back, I don't even have a container to receive...

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What is religion

At my grandfather's funeral, I received an explanation of several layers of diagrams saying “the world after death is like this.” Not limited to Buddhism, the world after death, it often starts with “you know there is, right?” including heaven and hell, and I don't understand “why is it...

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I can't live like a human being. I can't control my greed.

Good evening. I saw this site on the internet, and while being rude, I wrote it because I wanted to ask a question. Please, could you teach me how to live? I'm just a person who can't control myself. I was raised by a father and mother who were like children since childhood, and since I...

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Change your mind.

What should I do to get rid of my heart and completely replace it?

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The day the child was born

I'm always indebted to you. I hadn't really worried about the weather until now, but after my child was born, I started to worry a little bit. This is because Butsumetsu was born on the day the eldest daughter was born, and red on the day the second daughter was born. Both of them are having...

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Hasunoha

The Hasunoha counselor is trying to help. You yourself are also trying to help me in the midst of a difficult time. They say they were encouraged by me like this. Even though they know it's against the rules, if they don't mind being removed, they will give you warm words. They worry more...

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Searches and videos that make you look for peace of mind

Hello. Let me have a serious discussion this time. This is a story from when I first picked up a cell phone. At first, I was refreshing my mind and body by downloading music on my cell phone and listening to it. However, as the times have changed, AI has also become commonplace, and I feel that...

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