Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

My husband attempted suicide

My husband attempted suicide at home just the other day. The cause is stress at work. Also, when I saw my SNS, I felt “I'm not trusted.” I think you were hurt and angry when you saw my past posts. I just wrote my thoughts on X. I had almost no followers, and only one friend I knew, who I could...

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I caused damage to the company at work

I'm a new graduate who joined the company in April of this year. I made a mistake that caused damage to the company due to my carelessness. I immediately reported it to my boss, and I was only asked about the situation that day, but at a later date, I happened to catch the fact that the products...

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I'm too addicted to shogi and it's painful

I'm in high school now, so I have to study for winter vacation assignments and early new year examinations. However, during this busy student period, I became obsessed with the horrible online game “Shogi Wars.” If you notice it, you'll be immersed in shogi matches, impression matches,...

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My birthday

Congratulations on the new year. We look forward to working with you again this year. Today, January 2nd, is my birthday. New Year's 3rd is rare, but for some reason I think about it every year. I was happy when people said happy birthday until I was little, but for some reason I'm not happy when...

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The Difference Between Giving Up Your Obsession and Killing Yourself

I just got married this year, and I'm immediately faced with a misunderstanding of values. My husband is the type who doesn't want to have weddings or receptions because he doesn't like attention being drawn to himself, even if he has enough money. Also, they say they don't want birthdays and...

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I was a train driver and had a personal injury accident

I was a train driver, and I ran into the train I was driving and ran into suicide. Even now, when suicides are written on SNS, they lose their cool due to fear and anger at that time, and they reply, “People around you will also be mentally shocked, so I definitely want you to stop it,” and they...

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About ascetic practices

Excuse me for the question. I am a disciple of the Honganji school of the Shinshu sect, and one of my recent hobbies is going to experience what is called ascetic practices of other denominations (Shagyo, zazen, etc.). There are times when Shinshu's teachings say that you don't need to practice...

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When I saw someone thinking about suicide on SNS

Previously, there was a person who decided the day to die on SNS. I didn't profess that day. I had nothing to do with that person, and I just happened to see the post. However, I have talked to the police because I thought I had to do something, and if I could stop it, I had to stop...

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Do I always have to own a grave?

If I don't have money to buy graves, shouldn't I leave my bones at home?

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What is Zen salvation

　Hello, nice to meet you I'm afraid of dying. That's why I've been hearing about the Jodo Shinshu all this time in search of something salvating. However, I don't get much confidence. By accident, I met someone who attained enlightenment through zazen meditation, and I learned that if you...

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Please tell me how to apologize to someone who has been rejected

There was someone important to me. We were lucky enough to be in a relationship, and we had a happy time for a while. However, when I drink alcohol, my personality changes, and I go wild. This isn't usually the case, but when you're stressed... I have a strong desire for exclusivity, and...

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About the love affair between teacher and student (OK to talk about it)

A love affair between a teacher and a student. If anyone comments, I'll write in detail. ※Because I'm bad at speaking and not good at honorifics If that's OK, please comment. P.S. I tried to register before, but it wasn't easy to register as a member, so I was finally able to do it...

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Is self-harm unforgivable?

I had my first arm cut on New Year's Day as a sixth grader. I felt like a sandstorm was flowing through my head and my field of vision was dark, and I was hurt because I couldn't think about it properly. On the verge of getting hurt, I first thought “I want to die,” and then made up excuses...

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It's unreasonable to get around my husband

I'm always indebted to you. I've discussed my concerns about my husband's job (elementary school teacher) before. I'm still having trouble with Monster Parents. There were a lot of divisions this year, and in addition to being busy with work, parents got in just because their children did bad...

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Should I postpone my marriage?

Thank you for always being there. She is a woman who has been in a relationship and her boyfriend, who has been in a relationship for 5 years, told me to wait 3 years before getting married. After that, it was shortened one year later, and I was scheduled to enroll in December this year, and I...

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I'm in trouble because my husband is a spoiled boy

There's nothing I can do about my husband getting bogged down at work every morning. I've always been bad at mornings, but “I don't want to go to work,” “I don't want to think about work,” “I woke up once when I slept today and wanted to go to the bathroom,” and “I still want to sleep.” I'm in a...

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Break up or not break up

I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for a year and a half. I'm in my late 30s and he's 8 years older. He is very kind, and he dotes on me and takes great care of me even with this. However, I feel uneasy about my future with him, and I'm uneasy about my future with him until I have an...

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Is this an empty sickness?

Before I knew it, I was brushing my teeth in the middle of the day. I'm not aware of it. I'm in a daze and can't get into zazen. My eyes are floating, and my feet are wobbly. What should I do if I just knead it? I now know that living with the senses is the right answer. I understand that...

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On the extremes of living

I often hear that thinking about dying is an extreme idea, but what is the basis for saying that thinking about living isn't extreme?

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I have no hope for the future and I have shortness of breath

Nice to meet you. Thank you for taking the time to look through it. Not long ago, I had no hope for the future, and I always felt shortness of breath, so I asked you if you could objectively think about how to grasp my situation and live my life. I became a member of society this spring, and...

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