Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About the permanent memorial service of the Jodo Shinshu

I know that the Jodo Shinshu sect doesn't hold memorial services because they don't need them, but are permanent memorial services the same? If you look it up, there is no permanent memorial service in the Jodo Shinshu sect! However, if you look further, you can also see many temples that offer...

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I want to believe more in Buddhism

I'm currently studying in an Islamic country. People around me were enthusiastic, so I started thinking about religion too. So I was asked about God by a local person and asked, “Which god do you use when you ask God for something or make a wish?” I was told. To be clear, I didn't really...

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I want to be positive, but I'm tired of thinking positively!

Hello. Let me ask you a question. I tend to feel depressed, so I've been reading websites and books that guide positive thinking, but recently I've started to feel tired when I read them. I'm in a state where I'm tired of the silent “feeling of pressure.” It just makes me feel like I want...

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The true meaning of a nenka smile

The other day, I received a beautiful brightly colored hydrangea from an acquaintance, so when I felt various things while arranging them in a vase, I noticed that I had a sad, complicated smile on my face that made me feel lonely. (There was a strange switch on.) That's OK, but I remember for...

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Anger at my ex-husband

I dared to write it as my ex-husband, but I plan to file for divorce in about 10 days. The reason is my husband's repeated debts. He insists that he suffered from a mental illness due to being blamed foul-mouthed by me for his debts, that he had no love for his children, and that he was once...

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Marriage with a 13 year age difference

Looking at the internet, etc., it seems that there are many people who regret getting married by age difference. I too will soon get married to my 47-year-old boyfriend who is 13 years older. Shortly before I started dating him, I had been in a relationship with a boyfriend of the same age...

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What is true love

Last time, I had a discussion about my former husband that I liked and got divorced from. I was hoping that one day I could discuss what true love means with that former husband, and I was thinking deeply about true love. I've often heard that love turns into hate, but I recently learned that...

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I have no control

It's painful not being able to convey my thoughts well. I want to switch my mind, but it's not going very well. What should I do? I had a fight with my husband over a trivial matter. It was a really small thing that turned on my switch and made me cry and scream so loud. After that, after...

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it's already like this...

I lost my son. Then I think about “death.” After all, the feeling of “I want to die” won't go away. Even when I'm positive, I suddenly think “I want to die.” Maybe that's because it's harder to live with anxiety about my future rather than saying that I want to meet my deceased son. It makes...

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The way to say a girlfriend who lives together is tough

The way she says they live together is tough. They talk harshly about housework such as cleaning and laundry. . When it comes to cleaning, she says it's dirty even though it's totally beautiful for me, and she talks about herself in a strong tone why she doesn't clean faster. . So even if...

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About the first pilgrimage at a shrine

I'm sorry it's not Buddhism. I went on my first visit this morning. It's a small shrine, but there was a line. I think it's a little over 30 seconds by singing three times, then two beats, and reciting the name of the address... and 1 bow... I think it's a little over 30 seconds, but I was...

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I don't want to cause trouble to people or myself

I became a college student I had been looking forward to, and most things didn't go well, and I hated myself not being able to even work part-time. I had abdominal pain and nausea before I went to work, and after being unable to eat the bribe due to nausea, I stopped working part-time. I was so...

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Can we be good friends

I asked a question the other day, and although I've retired, I've been playing in a club activity for the first time in a while. It was so much fun, and I felt a little refreshed. Even now, I feel that club activities were like my lover, and I realized that there is still a possibility that I...

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Words to say to children taking the exam

A child takes the junior high school entrance exam. Due to circumstances, I can only apply to 1 school of my choice. It's a one-shot game, so I'm starting to feel uneasy in my own way. Now that it's a little over a month until the actual performance, what kind of words are you saying to the...

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Is it OK for a man to torment his wife this much when it comes to infidelity

Thank you m () m I read a shocking blog yesterday Men are creatures that instinctively want to cheat I hear it a lot until all the men in the world tormented their wives this much is it something that makes you want to have an affair?? Are there proper rational men? I've been a...

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I want to die

After I graduated from high school, I went on to a vocational school, but my studies didn't suit me and I took a leave of absence, so I plan to drop out of school. I want to work, and I think I have to work, but even when I started a part-time job, I quit in 1 day, and I live a life almost no...

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stuttering disorder. I want to kill myself.

My name is Shoji and I'm in my second year of high school. I was born with a disability called stuttering disorder. Even when it comes to disability, until now, there were words that were a little difficult to say, and I was almost able to speak in the same way as an able-bodied...

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Good people, bad people

hello. There are only a few days left in this year. It's getting colder, but isn't everyone feeling well? As for the question, there is a saying in Buddha's words about being with good people and not getting along with bad people, but I'm thinking about how to interpret these good people and...

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About pet memorial services

This time, the horse I have supported since the horse racing era and taken in after retirement has been called to heaven at age 26. It was a natural death from old age. It's called horse ear nembutsu, and it recites the Heart Sutra and the mantra of Bato Kannon. Recently, it is said that there...

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Reason won't make the desire to die go away

It is no exaggeration to say that all realistic solutions have been tried. I fought with my life. I'm testing and thinking about solutions to life's problems more completely than people who happened to be lucky, people who just ride rails, people who have been blessed with parents, and idiots...

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