Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

The attitude of wanting to do anything

　I heard the phrase “the other power petition” in a sermon at a memorial service the other day. At the same time that I thought it was a very appreciated way of thinking, there were also things that didn't make sense. Perhaps because of modern people, the idea that “the results obtained by...

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On denying people who have committed suicide

I don't like people who commit suicide. I hate it. I committed suicide because my heart was weak, and even if I committed suicide, I would just go to hell and suffer, and so on. And at the same time, I also know that this way of thinking is inappropriate. This is because this way of thinking...

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Who uses souls?

Previously, I've heard that the Meditation of Peace in the Dharma seat is not appropriate because it is a dark world. To people who started crying while watching TV, the announcer always said, “I pray for your soul.” I feel a sense of incongruity every time. I've lost a relative, so it feels...

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Relationship with mother

Thank you very much as always. While having various worries I am a key person for my elderly real mother. They are entering the facility Me since about 10 years ago They treat them as thieves. It's also because the sisters imprinted on the fact that their mother, who became depressed due to...

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The ossuary of a stillborn child

I have a child who was stillborn 2 years ago due to surrogacy. I didn't feel like burying my ashes right away, so I bought a Buddhist altar and kept it close at hand. My husband's grandmother passed away the other day. Names are engraved on tombstones in the order in which they died, so...

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guilt

Nice to meet you and thank you for your support. I've been living for over 30 years until now, and when I stop and look back, I feel like I've made a mistake with everything I've done. I think there was an act that hurt people, didn't have kindness, judged people by wearing colored glasses,...

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About denominations and graves

My father-in-law bought a grave a few years ago. It was close to my parents' house and had a very good view. My father-in-law is the youngest child, so we split up. The family is from the Tendai sect, but it seems that the tomb they bought is from the Nichiren sect. They say that the funeral...

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What is a human being?

Humans are a mass of greed A serious person Good people lose Greedy people seem to be happy I also have worries if these guys aren't judged I also want to live my life with greed I think What is the affliction of this world? Happiness when you let go of...

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How do you quickly give up on things you shouldn't want?

　I have been helped by many sincere responses from everyone, and I feel that little by little, I am now able to understand and practice ways to eliminate emotional suffering. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry that I'm being too spoiled by everyone's kindness, but I'd like to talk to you...

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What does it mean to take care of yourself?

I was told to take care of myself. What exactly should I do to take care of myself? If you work by listening to what your boss says that it's better not to do anything that makes your position worse, and that it's also important to break things off, Being blamed for “working for...

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Also, how hard should I try?

Good evening. I became a member of society in April of this year, and I am currently in my 3rd month at the company. I was officially assigned from June, and a little over a week has passed since I entered the site. From 3 weeks before I was assigned, I often left breakfast because I felt...

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About death

I have a question about death. For me now, death seems to be the source of hard work now, when even tomorrow is immeasurable, precisely because it is a destination where we will always end up. Whereas when I was in elementary school, I always thought I didn't want to die, but when I was in...

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About relationships at prep schools

I'm indebted to you. I'm currently 22 years old, and I'm attending prep school to go to college. I think the prep school I go to is rather small. There are only 3 classrooms, and those classrooms are small. The other day, when I was studying on my own in the study room, the private...

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Mother-in-law trying to take the baby

I gave birth to a baby this year. In the early stages of pregnancy, I was hospitalized once due to an impending miscarriage. After that, my mother-in-law repeatedly invited me to come to Yoshizane's house in the neighboring prefecture. I was invited over and over again because I was...

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Failure on the 49th

Yesterday, I successfully finished my grandfather's 49th memorial service and ossuary ceremony. It was also my first memorial service, I'm worried that I've failed a number of times. (1) The funeral director told me to bring my seat plate and urn on the day, and I didn't bring my portrait,...

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Sutras

I don't belong to any religion right now, but the teachings of Buddhism seem most natural to me. Is it OK to have an ancestral memorial service, a theme with daily wishes for peace, a day to give the Namu Myōhō Renge Kyō, or a day to read the sutras of the Heart Sutra? For example, if you are a...

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I'm sure I'm a pig

fat, pig, daikon leg, huge body, daifuku, These are some of the words that have been said until now. I was bullied a lot because of my appearance. They giggle, and they can look at their feet with curious eyes. It's so spicy, but I still can't stop eating it. Rather, it heals you by eating...

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I'd like to ask my relatives to arbitrate.

About 4 months ago, I had 2 consultations with my parents about repairing my relationship. After that, it was a continuation of the consultation. Even after that, I sent out letters, but there was no reply. Even myself, I consulted here and received answers, so I read and thought about it over...

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Will I be able to have a good relationship with him?

I came to Nagasaki from Goto in Nagasaki prefecture when I was in middle 1. When I was in Goto, I had a temple and 2 Christian churches close to my house, and now it's a strange feeling, but I often went to both. Since I came to Nagasaki City, I wasn't allowed to go back to Goto at all, and...

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I'm worried about my son's family, but I'm also worried about my own body

Good morning. It's been a while. I know the answers to today's questions, but I'm going to ask them with a sense of emptiness. My son's family's grandson, who lives a little far away, entered elementary school this year. My husband and wife work together, so I think it's hard because they're...

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