Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to change your mind

There was someone I had been close to for about 6 years. Since the beginning of this year, fights have increased, and the cause was that they always said they couldn't get back in touch because they were busy with work. Even so, we got in touch with each other again and went out to eat as...

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prejudicing

They tend to be biased against people because of how they look “Wow, this person is so messy!” I have selfishly judged things like “you seem to have a tough personality” or “I don't want to get involved.” Everyone always treats me kindly when I actually talk I always feel sorry. How can...

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I want to be forcibly indecrated and die every day.

　On Thursday, July 2015, I was forcibly indecrated by my male boss at the company I worked for a week. On my way home from work, I was strangled, forcibly kissed saying “I won't be able to work,” my tongue was inserted, my chest was licked, my male genitals were put in my mouth, and I...

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Giving up

What is the teaching of Buddhism that you must suppress your own emotions, do your best for others, and when you can't respond well, you will give up on everything? I look forward to working with you.

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I'm having trouble choosing my qualifications.

I'm worried about my future choices. I work part-time for people with disabilities, and since I'm financially stable, I decided to obtain a qualification. I've always admired lawyers, so I was studying by buying teaching materials to try the bar exam preliminary exam, but the other day, when I...

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on Facebook...

Is it OK to make more friends? There's something I'm getting more and more worried about. I now have 240 friends on Facebook. Sometimes, there are people who sort it out and cut... once you cut it, you cut it, and a sense of guilt remains after that. However, while hoping to meet new people,...

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I wish I could die like this

I asked a similar question a year and a half ago. It's embarrassing to think that nothing has changed. I'm currently in college and have a mental illness. It's called bipolar disorder. I stopped going to the hospital when I asked the question last time, but for some reason I went there again. I...

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I believe it will be the last and greatest act of filial piety.

I inherited the inheritance of my father who passed away last time for about half price (?) But I asked the question that they were worried because they didn't know the correct way to use it. It's almost 10 days since then, but for now, I was able to withdraw tens of thousands of yen and use it...

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My favorite aunt has changed

I'm worried about my neighbors who have been on good terms with my family since I was a kid, or rather, I can't do anything, but it's painful because I have no place to express my feelings. I would appreciate it if you could just read it. That person (let's say Mr. A) was being treated at...

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I'm afraid of hell.

I found out about it on the internet the other day. Is it true that even if you destroy something that people cherish, it will end up in endless hell? I remember inadvertently dropping and breaking a glass figurine that my family had cherished in my house before. But I did reflect on...

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I have regrets about my mother's last

My mother, who had been fighting liver cancer, spread to lymph and my physical condition suddenly changed after painful lung symptoms appeared, and my husband and I rushed to the hospital. We had no children and worked together, and we stayed in a nursing home about 1 hour from our home so that...

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What if you ask me about my occupation? An answer that isn't heavy.

I'm always indebted to you. There was a lot of noise here too, Now, thanks to you, I am able to work dripping with sweat It's ready. Everyone at Kiganji Temple who broke off a bad relationship and met someone new Mr. is also very nice to me. I'm really thankful and happy. ✳ ︎ Now...

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What should I do

There is a memorial service, but I have a mental disorder. So now I'm going to employment support and I don't have any money. My mom says it's okay because she knows I have a mental disorder, but I'm really uneasy. What should I do with the money? Is it OK to leave even if I can't put it out?

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Is it strange that you don't like the word “⚪ ︎ ⚪ ︎ view”?

Recently, I've been thinking about making my life better. I get hints by watching TV shows, internet videos, and books. It's interesting to know what people think, but it's kind of uncomfortable. I feel like the more I know, the farther away I get from answering. Sometimes I write down my...

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I don't understand the meaning of being born or being alive

I'm a man in his late 40's. It's a really embarrassing story, but I don't understand the meaning of being born or being alive. The other day, I lost my wife, whom I had been with for 25 years, due to an incurable illness. I have an eldest son who is currently in his fourth year at...

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Is it good to ask the Buddha

I heard that you should not ask Amida or Buddha at the temple. There are times when we pray for longevity and happiness at shrines, etc., but isn't it bad to ask the Buddha that way?

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I don't know what's good or bad to do... maybe I'm done already...

　I'm always indebted to you. Sorry for the creepy title. It was the first time in this year that I got a fuss from someone else... I get along well with the ladies in the neighborhood, If you find it in the common hallway on the 2nd floor of the apartment, “Good morning, Auntie!” I was...

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Is there a way to relieve anxiety when you're tired?

When I get home after work, there are times when I feel tired and uneasy. I tell myself, “It can't be helped because I feel anxious when I'm tired,” but it still hurts my heart. What's more, when something bad happens, I just remember it. I'm trying to resolve it by closing my eyes and...

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What is the meaning of living?

Thank you for taking the time to check the details of your consultation. A 32-year-old woman is married, has no children, and lives with her husband. I don't know when it started, but when I suddenly realized it, I began to want to die. I don't think there is a clear reason why I began to...

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Let me ask you a question about the work of a monk.

I'm in middle school, and I'm looking into occupations I'm interested in. The occupation I chose was a monk who is also familiar with appreciating Buddha statues as a hobby. This is the content of the question ・Job description ・What should I do to get that job ・Things I keep in mind...

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