Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Why do people who are mean make them happier?

An elementary school classmate who hasn't interacted in 13 years said on LINE, “It's been a while! I received content saying “I want you to attend the wedding.” I was hesitant to go, but my mother asked me to go in order to maintain the appearance of my neighbors, so I participated. There...

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I let my pet die because of poverty.

I'm a single mother. My daughter is an only child, so I started keeping male rabbits two and a half years ago, and we have spent time as a family of 3 (feathers) with someone like a younger brother. Originally, it wasn't easy financially, but recently household finances have become increasingly...

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I'm wondering if I should quit my job and become a farmer.

Thirties, male, married, childless, office worker. I'm wondering if I should change jobs to my parents' farmhouse. I worked for the company for 13 years, but the department I was in was disbanded, and I had no choice but to change jobs. However, I am considering switching to agriculture in...

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I want to die

I've been asked questions in the past, but no matter how much advice you get, no matter how many stories you listen to, I want to die, and I can't go away.

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About graves

I'm thinking about graveyard damage about my father, but I've heard that souls don't dwell in the remains. My parents are divorced, and we haven't been together for a long time. My mother built a tomb with her in-laws, but she didn't even do an eye opening memorial service during the ossuary,...

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Can I masturbate

Is it true that masturbating will go to hell? I masturbate several times a day, Are you really going?

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I don't like my stupid honest self

Hello. I can't stand it because I don't like my stupid honest self. I'm a college student who graduated from an overseas university. I'm currently job hunting, and when I was asked when I would return to Japan in the final interview at a major company, they said they wanted to do it one...

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Attendance at the wake of a friend who took his own life

A friend I've been good friends with since elementary school took his own life. My friend and I are both suffering from depression, and I was lucky enough to meet a good teacher early, and although I was still calm with mild symptoms, my friend started going to the hospital late, and since I...

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It makes me feel uncomfortable

Right now, I'm having trouble with relationships at work. I myself think in my heart that I don't want to get involved when I see the other person's bad side, and even though we were able to talk normally until then, there are times when we can't get along as before. For example, they talk about...

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The kid...

I was given a life expectancy declaration last month. A cute girl who is only 8 years old. However, you can see that it is getting weaker day by day. I'm currently undergoing radiation therapy, and it makes me cry when I think this won't help. I know I'm going to do what I can for them now, but...

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Workplace relationships

I work at a supermarket, but I'm being harassed by a male colleague. This man originally changed his attitude depending on his partner, and he was quiet in front of the president, chasing his girlfriend who was doing the cash register all day long, even during work, and it is said that...

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I've lost my amulet to ward off evil...

This year was a big disaster, but after the new year started, I went to a shrine near my parents' house (Kamaishi City, Iwate Prefecture) and had my husband, and my parents exorcise the bad luck with my 5 grandparents. After being purified, I received cleansing alcohol and an amulet I had...

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Response to self-deprecating stories about the elderly

I think monks often interact with older people because of their work, so let me ask you a question. I work as a cleaning part at a paid nursing home, and once in a while, tenants talk to me. Most of them are greetings, and once in a while, people say thank you or that's helpful. I'm simple,...

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What does it mean to lose money

Since last year, there have been so many opportunities to lose money. My iPhone was stolen at Hong Kong Airport in October last year (it's my carelessness), the salary reduction and relegation bonus was reduced in March this year (currently being treated unfairly), and in August this year, my...

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It may have hurt a lot of people...

I had an incorrect perception in the past, and I continued to use the Heiter for disinfection for years or ten years using the wrong method of use... If I had bacteria or viruses that would infect me, I was afraid that other people would be harmed by it, and maybe I was afraid of dirt itself......

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Moving Failures and Regrets

I regret choosing a property to move to. It overlaps with the content of the previous consultation, but it will continue. Personnel personnel were transferred in early September, and I was transferred to Koga in Fukuoka from October. I only had a little over 2 weeks to spare, so I chose the...

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About the embezzlement of the former chief priest

About the embezzlement of the former chief priest and his wife I'm the chief priest, but I live a little far from the temple. Since the chief priest up until now has become elderly, and relatives were unable to take over, they came from another place as a new chief priest couple. They are...

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How do you think life weighs the same

Thank you so much as always. Let me ask you a question related to the dog that died due to my own fault this time as well. I've asked this question many times until now, I made my favorite dog sick a year ago because of my own fault, did the exact opposite of what the vet said to me out of...

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Is perfectionism that bad?

Is perfectionism such a bad thing? Isn't it a high ability depending on the situation at that time? I noticed that it was hard for anyone to notice, and the work was done carefully You'll do it, right? The line between perfectionism and not being perfect is also vague, and I don't...

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Fear of dying

Recently, I became afraid of getting old. Most Japanese people live from 70 to 80, and my grandfather and grandmother lived that long too. As a family tree, it is the longest-lived one, It will take me 50 to 60 years until I reach the end of my life. It seems like I'm not the only one who...

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