Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I misrepresented my work history to my job offer

I wrote a lie on the resume I submitted to my job offer. Furthermore, during the interview, I lied about the reason for my retirement. The length of time I was enrolled in my previous job has been inflated. I know that making corrections and apologies before joining the company will make me...

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I feel sorry for myself.

Good morning. Previously, I was asked to discuss my work, but I was working as a nursing assistant at a private hospital, but no matter what, I didn't remember my job, so I quit my job. I really wanted to work as a nursing assistant, so I found a job as a nursing assistant at a university...

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Can I not go to the grave?

I'm three sisters. My mom is enjoying going on trips at the end of her life, as if to make up for what she has been struggling with until now. My mother has always said, “I don't want to go to this house's grave.” It has always been rooted in the fact that my father's parents, relatives, etc....

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Past Failures and How to Redeem Them

Now that I'm in my 30s, people around me have been promoted, got married, and had children, and while thinking that I wasn't there recently during a period like a report card for the first time I did in my 20s, I'm now being tormented by the regrets I made when I was young and foolish in the...

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I lied to him. I regret it. I want your forgiveness.

Thank you for reading. Please be aware that it is my fault and let me ask the question. I've been in a relationship with him for about 2 years. My boyfriend gets mad at me for going to a drinking party. That's why I sometimes lie about drinking parties. I found out about it the other day...

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I have a past where I hurt people, and I'm worried about the future

Nice to meet you, I came across this site while doing a lot of research, and I'm writing it for the first time. I hurt a friend when I was in middle school. They often said things that looked down on, such as “stupid,” “stupid,” etc., and LINE replies were careless and looked down on. There...

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I want to affirm

all? Will I be rewarded if I stay alive? They get involved with strange people, shocking things happen in relationships, and they are blamed. I don't do it because I think it's selfish, bad talk, or annoying. It's just an example, but an acquaintance said he used to shoplift when he was...

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The cost of infidelity

I have a woman I dated for 5 years in an adulterous relationship. Last year, my adulterous relationship was dissolved and I was able to return to my home, but every time I faced my actions up until now, my wife and children, I was worried that I was disqualified as a husband and father, and my...

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I'm afraid to live

Nice to meet you. Please let me discuss it. Two years ago, I went to a university in Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region of China to study abroad. I received an admission permit from the university, got a visa, and entered the country without any problems. However, I came to the stage of...

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About a 20-year-old only daughter

I got divorced when my daughter was in elementary school, and I am a single mother and have lived with my daughter until now. My daughter graduated from high school and got a job, and now she is in her second year. Since commuting by car is essential for the place of employment, when deciding...

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I apologized once

I work creatively with pictures and writing. Previously, in a closed environment where only friends were present, there was an incident where characters created by friends were treated roughly and hurt their opponents. At that time, I immediately apologized, promised to respond and prevent...

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What is the value of oneself that makes no one special.

Good evening. This is my first time posting. I'm a man in his late 30s. From when I was a student until now, I have conveyed my thoughts when the woman I was interested in shows up, but we have never been united. On the other hand, I have given up on the fact that I'm no longer wanted by...

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I want to rediscipline myself

I'm tired today, let's go to bed without washing... It looks like it's going to rain today, so let's stop going to the supermarket... I'm fine starting my diet tomorrow... I just wasted my money again... etc Run away from “what I decided to do” using a little pretext When you know that you...

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Do people who die by suicide really attain Buddhahood?

Recently, the internet has spread, and it is possible to browse various things about people who have died by suicide. The monks on this site sense the feelings of families who have died by suicide and receive an answer that those who have died by suicide will always attain Buddhism. However, on...

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What happens after a divorce?

I'm soon due to divorce my wife, whom I've been together for 12 years, in February. I have a child who will be in middle school this spring. I'm a 47 year old male. I had a subordinate I fell in love with at my company a few years ago, I wanted to get divorced, and I just bought a house,...

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Is suicide something you shouldn't do

Hi I'm a 20 year old guy who is currently in his 3rd year of college I'm still in a situation where my third year of college has just started, but for some reason, my retirement years have been confirmed, and I'm in a situation where it's difficult to graduate even if I continue to stay at the...

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Should I attend my biological father's wake farewell ceremony

I would like to use it for the first time and consult with you. I filled in the details in the account edit form. My biological father remarried his unfaithful partner and has been naturalized for about 20 years. Two people live in my former parents' house nearby, My biological father has...

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I'm afraid of marriage.

I had given up on marriage for a while, but after all, rather than living single, I was engaged in marriage hunting because I wanted to get married and make my loved ones happy. I got to know a man two years older who does the same welfare work, sympathize with his essential way of life where he...

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A fight with my boyfriend

I completely broke up with my ex and now I have a new boyfriend. We haven't even been in a month since we started dating, and we've already had many fights. I want to share and report when I go out with my friends or if I have any plans, and I think trust is born from that. However, it seems...

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What should I do to not get depressed every month?

It's been three years since I got married and wanted children. I had a miscarriage once and haven't had children since then. The kid picks mom and dad from the sky and comes down After I heard that, It makes me think about whether I'm not that attractive, what is inferior to others, and...

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