Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is suicide something you shouldn't do

Hi I'm a 20 year old guy who is currently in his 3rd year of college I'm still in a situation where my third year of college has just started, but for some reason, my retirement years have been confirmed, and I'm in a situation where it's difficult to graduate even if I continue to stay at the...

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Should I attend my biological father's wake farewell ceremony

I would like to use it for the first time and consult with you. I filled in the details in the account edit form. My biological father remarried his unfaithful partner and has been naturalized for about 20 years. Two people live in my former parents' house nearby, My biological father has...

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I misrepresented my work history to my job offer

I wrote a lie on the resume I submitted to my job offer. Furthermore, during the interview, I lied about the reason for my retirement. The length of time I was enrolled in my previous job has been inflated. I know that making corrections and apologies before joining the company will make me...

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I'm afraid of marriage.

I had given up on marriage for a while, but after all, rather than living single, I was engaged in marriage hunting because I wanted to get married and make my loved ones happy. I got to know a man two years older who does the same welfare work, sympathize with his essential way of life where he...

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A fight with my boyfriend

I completely broke up with my ex and now I have a new boyfriend. We haven't even been in a month since we started dating, and we've already had many fights. I want to share and report when I go out with my friends or if I have any plans, and I think trust is born from that. However, it seems...

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What should I do to not get depressed every month?

It's been three years since I got married and wanted children. I had a miscarriage once and haven't had children since then. The kid picks mom and dad from the sky and comes down After I heard that, It makes me think about whether I'm not that attractive, what is inferior to others, and...

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How to keep an eye on

My daughter, who has just become a member of society, got sick, took a leave of absence and is recuperating at home. My daughter started living alone in a region with no relatives or friends, drove a car with a license, did her best to keep up with her work, and was exhausted mentally and...

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I failed to commit suicide.

From then on, I decided to commit suicide. However, this time, too, it failed. I faintly remember being dragged out and put on an ambulance. There are no scars left on the body. There were no sequelae. I was discharged quickly from the hospital. The plan was to aim for death due to weakness...

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From Teba Tadahin. About the idea that “Buddha is a man.”

I'm always indebted to you. There is a Nichiren sect temple near the hospital I go to It's there. I was curious, I took the plunge. Teraba-san and the chief priest were all friendly, The hall was also neatly maintained. Let me read the Kankyo Sutra that was there I received it,...

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Please tell me how to deal with people who preach

There are people in my family who always preach I'm having trouble dealing with that person. That person is an event such as New Year's or when I get together with my family, etc. I'm extra tired because of the people I often meet. Also, they are people who drink quite a bit of alcohol, When...

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ossuary

We got divorced last year after 30 years of marriage. Separated for 5 years At last, a settlement has been reached. As a temple family, I have made many efforts in my own way, Years of violence by the chief priest, forced drinking of alcohol, sex, etc. It came to an end after going through a...

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Worries that come from a child's bad years

I have a son who is now one and a half years old. The cutest child in the world for my husband and I. Everyone in the family is probably the same, and I was particularly surprised at how much my husband was doting on me. (Of course I'm doting on it too) That son has been in a bad state since...

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I was proud to be able to draw...

I've lived until now, and I've loved drawing since I was in elementary school. I was severely bullied by boys when I was in elementary school, and even though I wasn't dealt with by girls because it was dark How about being able to relieve loneliness by drawing pictures, train a lot of...

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It becomes an adjustment disorder due to power harassment in the workplace.

I retired from my medical job where I worked for over 10 years. The reason is that I myself have reached my mental and physical limits due to poor work environments, power harassment in the workplace over many years, and sexual harassment from patients, and I have developed adjustment...

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About memorial services for ancestors

I was told by someone that since my husband's ancestors didn't have a memorial service, it's better to do a memorial service for ○10,000 yen. Since this memorial service has not been held, I think it has had an impact even on my children. We know that memorial services for our ancestors are...

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not taken care of

It was my first gathering in my hobby neighborhood, and I think it ended peacefully, at least on the surface, by taking care of my surroundings as much as possible. The secretary only said to me at the end, “Well then if you have another chance, try playing with someone somewhere,” and the...

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I want the confidence to make my daughter happy

This is the person who previously got divorced here with her 1-year-old daughter from her ex-husband's DV, and discussed whether father-son visitation should be held thereafter. From then on, when I went to psychosomatic medicine, I was diagnosed with an adjustment disorder caused by my...

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I'm leaving this world this week

I've had so many more experiences in this world. I experienced a lot of happiness and suffering, both in love and at work. I think I've learned enough already. I don't want to see or hear any more dirty parts of this world. I don't think I'll be able to meet my favorite grandmother even if I...

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About “nothing” in the Heart Sutra

Hello. Of the Heart Sutra “Colorless, Unpretentious Behavior, No Eyes, Ear, Nose and Tongue, Colourless Sound, Scent Touch” I have a question about that part, so I'm asking a question. When you say “sky” in the Heart Sutra, it's simply “nothing” It's not about saying “empty,” “It exists...

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My son's hikikomori

I was told that after I failed the qualification exam at the end of my first year at a vocational school, my mental disorder, my tendency to take time off from school, my mother's rejection of me became stronger, and I thought I was a toxic parent, I hated him for a long time, overinterfered, and...

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