Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Lamb hungry for love

Actually, I'm gay, I've known it since I was a kid, in this world where it's hard for gays to fall in love, it's even more difficult for gays to fall in love these days, but gays are in the minority and don't know where their partner is if they don't come out, I know that there are dating sites...

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There's no point in living

Thank you for your support. My husband is a 47-year-old office worker. I'm a 51 year old stay-at-home mom. I am unable to work due to a mental disability. There are people who work even if they have disabilities, but they are not in a state where they can work. I was receiving my...

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Thinking about death makes it painful

We have discussed it here before, and I was very impressed. Today's question is similar, but after all, I'm afraid of death and I'm worried. I've been thinking about it all day long, and I'm trying to come up with answers in my own way, but I haven't run out of worries. I'm afraid of my own...

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Your answers twice didn't come to anything...

It's not easy to change your way of thinking or living just because you're told to do that. I listened to the answer, thought I'd try it, and even when I did it, it didn't come to any fruition for me. There was a monk reciting nembutsu right near my house, so I went to listen to his story. I...

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Where the soul goes

Please help. A year and a half ago, my husband suddenly died in an accident while he was at work. I was pregnant at the time. We were nearing our first wedding anniversary... but we weren't able to welcome them together, and our happy marriage was destroyed in less than a year. He died...

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No matter what I do at my parents' house in Kumamoto, I don't feel like studying.

I'm in my fourth year of college. While living at a university in Hokkaido, I am studying to become a local firefighter. The other day, an earthquake occurred in my hometown Kumamoto, and even now, many people are living in fear of aftershocks, living in shelters, and secondary...

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Please tell me how to liberate

Free yourself from the Rokudō Reincarnation I want to have nirvana like Buddha. Please tell me the specific method

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My husband's debts

Recently, I found out that my husband has a debt of about 6 million. We have been married for 3 years and have 2 children. My husband is usually cooperative in raising children, and I don't think about divorce. However, I am the only one who knows about this. At least I want to talk to my...

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Please help

Depression is not curable. But if I don't go to work, I don't have any money anymore. People around me say that if you work, money will come in. If you can do that, you won't become depressed. It's really painful. I think death is the greatest salvation. I understand getting...

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I want to die because I have nothing I want to do when I'm alive, and I have no hope for the future

Nice to meet you. This is my first time asking a question. This is a personal consultation, but thank you. I'm an 18-year-old male ronin. However, I haven't studied at all since I left school in March. There was something I wanted to do, and in order to do it, I was inspired to go to a...

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Is a fertilized egg (embryo) life, and can any memorial service be held?

Due to my husband's oligospermia, I underwent microinsemination with infertility treatment and created a fertilized egg. Fortunately, I was able to give birth to two children relatively early. However, I'm concerned about embryos that didn't even become fetuses. 13 were in a state where they...

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I'm the worst grandson (daughter).

A few years ago, I suffered from depression due to stress at work, and I quit that job and stayed at home to rest for a while. At that time, I quit my job, so of course I had no income and the money I had saved was gone because I used cell phone charges, etc. At that point, what I can't help...

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I'm having a double affair...

Although they are both married, they are attracted to each other in the form of love at first sight at work, and 4 months have passed since they had a double affair. We don't want to destroy each other's families. I think he's separated from his family and me, but I'm always in pain because...

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What do you live for

There are times when you don't understand what you're living for. Maybe I was born for a successor, or what my life is, so much so that I can't sleep. The reason the story of the succession comes up is because my parents' house is a temple. In particular, over the past few years, I have come...

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About work clothes

What work clothes do monks recommend? What kind of manufacturer and what kind of store do you buy them at?

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Self-harm

Self-harm is unstoppable. I don't even have the courage to die. I've posted so many times tonight. I'm sorry. Self-harm is unstoppable, and even though it's a good age, I can't stop it even if I feel embarrassed. I feel calm when I self-harm even though I want to stop it. I also...

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About modern monks and the image of the world

I asked a question for the first time the other day. There, I felt that monks are also being trained every day according to various precepts and teachings. And I have a new question. ① What kind of teaching is it that monks gamble such as pachinko? ② What kind of teachings do monks...

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About career paths

I'm not feeling well about my career path. I wanted to get some advice, so I asked a question. I'm currently preparing to enroll in college. I went to a so-called preparatory school in high school, and even within high school, I got good grades. However, I failed my first choice in the...

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Why was I born

I'm a woman in her 20s. I'm worried about why I was born, whether my life has meaning, and whether it's worth existing. The family environment I was born in was by no means good, and my mother went crazy with gambling, used her house money to create debts, and eventually got into prison when...

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Does it resist instincts and human desires

Is it possible to resist or nothing to instincts and desires?

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