Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Do you have a fever only before going to school

Yesterday and today, I only had a fever before I went to school. I ended up taking a day off. However, when I take a break, I suddenly feel well and feel guilty that I was able to go to school well without a fever. I wonder if it's a false illness? There are times when I think. But now there's...

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I don't like my friends

I have made Chinese friends at my current workplace. That friend is younger than me, but he is very solid, works fast, and is excited. It's simple Japanese, and I speak to everyone with the same attitude. It's very bright and positive. It's kind. I'm so envious of her. They are relied upon...

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I'm sad not being able to have children

I can't give birth to children due to an intractable illness, but every time a child is born to a friend or relative, it's painful. My cousin has been estranged until now, but when we get married or have children, they come to my parents' house to get money and stuff. That is frustrating and sad.

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I'm complaining that he committed suicide in front of his home until the 49th day of his suicide

People who committed suicide 10 days ago were asked questions about whether they could go to heaven or attain Buddhism. This time, while drinking alcohol in front of my wife, who committed suicide, I thought almost every day, “Why did you do this. That's stupid.” My mother also committed...

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Change of feelings

How should you switch your mind when something you care about that cannot be replaced is damaged or broken? Every time something like that happens, I get caught up in it. Also, it makes me freak out that other important things might get damaged or not. Even though they were meant to heal me,...

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I want to die but I can't

I want to die, but I'm too afraid to die. It's so much harder to be alive, and it's hard to keep living like this, but I can't even die. It's hard to change even if I think it will get even a little better. I don't even know what would change and how I would like to live. I've managed to live...

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infernal

I'm afraid of hell. I've lied and abused animals a lot. I got scared and returned what I stole, but I wonder if the crime won't go away. isn't it still too late? What should I do to be reborn as a human again and not fall if it's not too late Sorry for asking the same questions.

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Monk from home

I think it's a question. Isn't it difficult being a monk from home? Isn't there a lot of people who have almost zero jobs as monks? Just a personal guess.

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I killed my hamster 2

It's papaya. I don't know the password for my previous account, so I'm sorry. http://hasunoha.jp/questions/2066 Thank you very much for your answers to the questions above. We held the memorial service as much as possible. Also, from now on, I would like to place my photos in my room and...

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I want to know “myself.” A turning point in life?

I'm a 26 year old woman. The trouble has continued for the past six months or so. Other things that had been going well until now, such as continuing illness among family members, getting into trouble continuously at work, and things that had gone well until now suddenly stopped going well. My...

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Please give a neutral answer

I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago. Last Tuesday, when we had lunch together, they asked me about the atmosphere at work, and I said, “The person I hired recently retired without telling you anything. When I told them, “It's fine to say one word by phone or email,” my boyfriend said,...

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Why is there pleasure in violence?

I'm a 33-year-old man. It is said that violence and murder are prohibited, so why did God give pleasure to violence? I used to bully me when I was in middle school. I'm reflecting on it now, but I think it was fun back then. There was a spider that had plucked the dragonfly's wings and attached...

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How to deal with perfectionism

I've only watched it for a long time, but I'm consulting for the first time. I've been a new employee for about 2 months since I changed jobs. There are some things I'm still unfamiliar with, but I'm doing my best. However, there is a problem, and that is that my younger boss, who is my mentor,...

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I don't want to think about college entrance exams

Recently, my burnout has been so bad that I haven't been able to study at all. Until a year or two ago, I thought it would be fun to study and achieve results. I used to go to the school study room every day, and I studied from morning till night. However, I've been feeling really...

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I lied about being a virgin.

I'm a 38 year old single woman. A few weeks ago, I had sex with my 12 year older boyfriend. Because I was in so much pain, I thought, “Is this my first time?” When asked, I immediately told a lie saying that was the case. My first experience was raped by an acquaintance. I became scared when...

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I'm looking for a temple.

A long time ago, I had a dream of praying at a temple mausoleum, but it's a temple I don't know at all, so I don't know where it is. I've been looking for it, but I don't know. It's a very large mausoleum, and there are doors so large that a black lacquer person could enter, and there are two or...

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I end up asking myself

I have an older brother. We haven't seen each other in over 30 years. My husband and I did both my grandmother's funeral and my father's funeral. My grandmother took care of her for 3 years, and my father took care of her for 14 years. I'm grateful to my husband. It was a huge financial...

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Seventh taboo

My father died seven times. My mother left behind has few pensions and doesn't have much savings. I want to do my father's memorial service, but I can't afford it, so I'm worried. Is it a punishment for not doing a proper memorial service? Would my father be sad?

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I don't understand the value of my existence at work.

I moved to a new job this year. I'm a high school teacher. I was transferred quickly, and I'm in charge. There are about 10 grade staff, and I am the only new member. It seems like my homeroom teacher became me due to the Elimination Act. The co-teacher is a man who has passed his 60th...

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I'm tired.

Please help. They both remarried and got married, and our eldest son is my stepchild The two daughters are children of their remarriage partner. My husband is currently separated. Marriage is my husband's gambling debts and changing jobs Repeated violence also continued for over 10...

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