Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About memorial services for ancestors

I was told by someone that since my husband's ancestors didn't have a memorial service, it's better to do a memorial service for ○10,000 yen. Since this memorial service has not been held, I think it has had an impact even on my children. We know that memorial services for our ancestors are...

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not taken care of

It was my first gathering in my hobby neighborhood, and I think it ended peacefully, at least on the surface, by taking care of my surroundings as much as possible. The secretary only said to me at the end, “Well then if you have another chance, try playing with someone somewhere,” and the...

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I want the confidence to make my daughter happy

This is the person who previously got divorced here with her 1-year-old daughter from her ex-husband's DV, and discussed whether father-son visitation should be held thereafter. From then on, when I went to psychosomatic medicine, I was diagnosed with an adjustment disorder caused by my...

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I'm leaving this world this week

I've had so many more experiences in this world. I experienced a lot of happiness and suffering, both in love and at work. I think I've learned enough already. I don't want to see or hear any more dirty parts of this world. I don't think I'll be able to meet my favorite grandmother even if I...

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About “nothing” in the Heart Sutra

Hello. Of the Heart Sutra “Colorless, Unpretentious Behavior, No Eyes, Ear, Nose and Tongue, Colourless Sound, Scent Touch” I have a question about that part, so I'm asking a question. When you say “sky” in the Heart Sutra, it's simply “nothing” It's not about saying “empty,” “It exists...

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My son's hikikomori

I was told that after I failed the qualification exam at the end of my first year at a vocational school, my mental disorder, my tendency to take time off from school, my mother's rejection of me became stronger, and I thought I was a toxic parent, I hated him for a long time, overinterfered, and...

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The stress of not having words of gratitude from my wife

The other day, I bought a detached house that was as close as possible to my wife's wishes with a loan and have been fully renovated. Even in the renovation, I incorporated my wife's preferences and opinions as much as possible regarding the floor plan and design. As for the loan, I also...

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A lover I met on the internet

I met a man on the internet in 2015 and have been in a relationship. At that time, it was a period after I quit due to mental illness due to company relationships, and they also supported me during various discussions. However, they didn't tell me my personal information from the beginning of...

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I hate the night

I hate the night. When it gets dark at night, anger at the irrationality I received from others in the past usually springs up, and worries about the future come up one after another. At such times, I'd like you to tell me how to think a little more easily.

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It's painful not being able to grow

Whether at work or in everyday life, I have made similar mistakes and repeated similar regrets. I think I'm reflecting on it each time and devising ways so that I don't fail again, but it doesn't lead to results no matter what. It's a series of times when you're anxious, and you act impatiently...

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In order not to go to hell after death.

I'm in my 40s, unemployed, single, and lonely for the rest of my life (my parents died of cancer, my father committed suicide due to debt), and I don't have a boyfriend or friends. When I was a student, I was bullied and lonely, and since I was hungry because I couldn't work or work I'm...

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I'm angry about bragging stories and images on Facebook and blogs

If that's the case, I don't think I should just watch it, but I just end up watching it. I'm angry at the blogs and FBs of my classmates, neighbors, and people close to me. Images of sushi, karasumi pasta, and cakes were posted at the counter. I usually cook my own meals and don't often eat out....

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About career paths and estranged friends

I'm worried about my career path and my estranged friends. I'm currently in my second year of high school and I quit school a year ago. I'm currently attending a cram school to go to college. I want to get a high school graduate certification and go to college, but I'm having trouble...

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People make a fool of me when I talk about Buddhism.

I began to be interested in sutras at the end of last year, and I have changed every verse of the sutras to the current language so that it is easy to understand with my smartphone and electronic dictionary by my side. I've always liked classical music, and there are places where I'm drawn to...

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I'm afraid of death that will come someday

I'm afraid of death that will come someday. Everyone will say goodbye to this world at some point. As long as humans are living creatures, they are born, live, and die someday. I understand that cycle. But I'm afraid of death that will come someday. It started when I was able to...

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I was suddenly kept at a distance from someone important to me.

There is someone I've become really good friends with at work in the past six months. I was transferred, but we continued to be good friends even after that. We kept in touch every day, met regularly, and even talked about our problems with each other. People I like this are rare, and I wanted...

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Divorced, living apart, children don't know

I'm always indebted to you. My daughter recently said she wants to live with 3 people. My daughter is still small and she doesn't remember what her husband did. My husband had problems every day due to interpersonal and work-related issues. Of course, my wife and I also had constant...

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I'm going to rely on AI

I'm a graduate student, and I'm worried that my procrastination habit is so bad that I have a habit of relying on AI to finish what I should write in my own words. If you look at past questions, you'll understand, but after suffering from depression for a long time, I was really happy that I was...

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On Buddhism and discrimination against women

Hello I want to ask monks, why is there content that discriminates against women in Buddhism? The other day, I went to the “Japanese History of Gender Differences” exhibition held at the Chiba Prefecture Folk Museum There, Buddhism includes the five disabilities theory and the view of...

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Obsession with people is painful

I met someone of the opposite sex three or four times, but I didn't want a convenient relationship, so I took the plunge and asked them about their feelings for themselves and what kind of person they are for their partner. I was told that I wanted to be in a relationship, that my partner had a...

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