Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I don't know how far I should tolerate my husband

It's been 2 years since I got married, and I think I promoted naturalization with my husband because of my age in order to have children. The reason I don't know how much I should tolerate my husband is because our feelings of being together are fluctuating. I was told about my debts before...

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sexually harassing old man

I was quickly sexually harassed at the company I worked for in my first year as a new graduate. I was invited to eat alone by someone in a superior position. I declined, but even so, they were scared and went away, and an approach ban was issued due to various things. It's been a job I've...

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I don't feel motivated

People will die one day. Everything, not limited to people, will come to an end someday. When I think about it, nothing lasts forever in this world, and it makes me think that there isn't much meaning in what a small being like me did. Probably because of that, no matter what I do, I don't...

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sense of emptiness

There are many things that I think will come true if I read this site carefully, and one more question has arisen, so I would like to ask you a question. Can monks suddenly find their daily work empty? It may be a bit of a complicated question, but if you ever feel like that, I'm curious about...

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In the midst of a difficult life.

Hello. I'm a junior high school graduate in my 20s and I'm unemployed with no qualifications. I live with my mother in public housing. My mother and I are mentally disabled and both receive disability pensions. My grandmother passed away 3 years ago. My grandmother has been bullied the...

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Religion and dangerous goods are similar. Where are you going, religion?

　I'm always indebted to you. The other day, here, “At the temple, to me I had a discussion about “The Scary Wife Who Just Says This and That.” The continuation of it It's going to be like this, but recently, I've been thinking about it. “Religion and dangerous goods are similar” Observing...

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I want you to tell me how to get to the Pure Land of Paradise.

I want you to tell me how to get to the Pure Land of Paradise. Please give me a specific method.

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From 3 years ago

I ended up making a phone call to the toll-free cram school call center. I'm still traumatized by being bullied at the cram school. Even though it's a topic that should be solved at a cram school How do I stop calling?

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I'm having trouble replying to friends who are too negative

I would like to ask you a question for the first time. I have a few friends who are former colleagues and occasionally eat meals even after they quit their jobs. Among them, I have a friend who was very cheerful and friendly when we actually met, but the exchange of emails and phone calls...

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Why was Nembutsu chosen

I have a question about Shomyo Nembutsu, so I'd like to hear your thoughts. Honen Shonin and Shinran Shonin were taught that nenbutsu is the only way for ordinary people to be saved. It seems that Onikata, and Honen Shonin in particular, was known as a school monk who read ten thousand volumes...

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How to get rid of anger at my mother-in-law...

I married my husband 4 years ago, and since the marriage was decided, my dislike for my mother-in-law has grown steadily and I have been suffering. The very first one was when my dad died. I lost my beloved father when I was a teenager. I was so depressed when I died so fast. At that time, I...

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Should we lose our genes and individuals?

Genes determine health, appearance, and various abilities. It almost affects life, and whether life is fun or not is determined by genetics. Well, I'm about to finish my early 20s. People around me will get married, and in a few years they will have children and become dads. I was...

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What is “tolerance”

I have a short temper. I immediately notice others' faults and failures, and I feel a bit irritated by them. Also, on the other hand, I'm concerned about other people's eyes, and when people say I don't like it, it drags on forever. I know that disgust makes the other person uncomfortable,...

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It's tough to work hard

I've been lazy since I was a kid. Even now, when compared to people around me, the speed and quality of work are completely poor, and I often fall into self-loathing. The less I work, the more the burden on others increases. I don't want to bother you, so I don't think it's good to be lazy. I...

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I want to get rid of the foliage plants in my house...

I'm indebted to you Now in my house when my kids were little From the little leaf I brought home huge?? It has grown into (11 years have passed) Plants are compressing the veranda I'm in trouble (I'm Giant Mother Leaf It's going to increase so much!) 2 in a large pot and 1 in a...

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I want to acquire the calm characteristic of monks

I'm a coffin keeper. I am doing a precious job of being close to the grief of the bereaved families and making final preparations for the deceased. It sounds good when written like this, but in reality, I'm bad at communicating and I'm so bad at it that I don't really know how to snuggle...

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Why are people who have done bad things more appreciated

At a small company, the fact that I received moral harassment from one person and continued to be denied was not understood by anyone in the company, and as that situation continued, I couldn't control it and my tone only got stronger. I look good on people who are superior to me, so I've become...

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About sexual desire

I was wondering if it's okay to ask a question here I want to go into the customs. Is it a crime to go into a custom?

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About Amazon's monk service

It seems that monk flights to arrange monks have recently started on Amazon, but monk flights may be a convenient service for people who don't know monks or people who are not close to temples. However, “I don't care because I think of Buddhism as a business!” It is certain that there are also...

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I can't say no, and it's hard because I have a weak heart.

I've always been unable to say no, and I have a weak heart. They give up on invitations to eat from people they don't like, and they give up and take on tasks that nobody wants to do. I don't really understand it myself, but when I'm being questioned about Yes No, I feel as if I'm being...

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