Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About graves and memorial services

The other day, the tomb was at a temple of the Shingon sect in Kagawa prefecture, and the Buddhist altar had bones and a Buddhist altar at the house of the second son in Hyogo prefecture, and he taught me how to make a memorial service. As for the question this time, ① When my mother was alive,...

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Consciousness of past crimes of adultery

Will I be forgiven? I had an affair with a married man about 3 years ago. At the time, I wasn't thinking anything about if it was for this person. He often cried in front of me while talking about “I don't have a place in my house.” From there, my job didn't go well, and I became more and more...

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I have to laugh

Today is my second birthday since my friend passed away. From Facebook etc. Today is ◯◯'s birthday! I get a message saying. I can't stop crying every time I look at it. However, I have a part-time job serving customers, so I have to laugh. There are no people, so I can't even take a day off. I...

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Is it possible to change the image of working to a positive one

I'm a college student looking for a job. However, if I haven't worked my part-time job until now, I don't have much motivation to work, and I feel that there is no place where I can work. I'm not inexperienced in part-time work, but it hasn't lasted long because I was worried about the eyes of...

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I made a mistake in posting on the bulletin board.

Nice to meet you. I regret that until about six months ago, I had written slanderous statements by celebrities every once in a while on a certain bulletin board. What a foolish thing I've done as a person... As expected, they haven't directly arranged taunts on entertainers' SNS and made...

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Is it a delusion or reality

I heard that there was a personal injury accident just the other day. Then, at an unexpected moment, I can't concentrate on my studies because I only thought about strange things, such as whether I killed him, or pushed him from behind, or killed him indirectly. I'm scared because I don't know if...

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Can a bad relationship be turned into a good relationship?

Hello. It's a very simple question, but is it possible to turn a good relationship into a bad relationship with effort? I got married and gave birth last year, and since then, various things have happened, including the death of a person, my heart has worn out, and I'm in a state where I can't...

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About omissions

here (https://hasunoha.jp/questions/76892）で質問させていただいた内容について質問失礼致します. I received “none” in the title of your answer, but what does this mean? I also saw an unlisted entry on Wikipedia myself, but I'm ashamed to not really understand it. What is the meaning of omission in the above...

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The Affair on My Husband's Heart

A couple in their 30s have a 3-year-old child. My husband keeps in touch with his former female colleague every day. My partner is the same age and single. There was a time when my husband suddenly became strong against me and my kids, and I thought it was strange and ended up looking at my...

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I don't think it's worth living

I don't think I'm worth living. My parents spent money on me, and they sent me to a reasonably good university, but I couldn't get used to it well and it hurt my body. I graduated, but I failed in job hunting. I haven't been able to get along well with people since I was little. I was...

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I want to know the meaning of Hatsubon in an easy-to-understand manner

I'm indebted to you. My first Obon festival since my husband passed away. I still haven't been able to reverse or sort out my feelings... I still can't put my hands together in front of a Buddhist altar... I still can't talk to a portrait. It's a custom of decorating lanterns, etc... I'm...

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How would you live if you had opposing dualities?

Excuse me for the question. Also, I wanted to hear from someone different from my own. While I usually seek what is called normal happiness, such as being able to live my usual daily life and life with stable thinking, Internally, I also want to do something unique because it...

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if someone you don't know kills you

Should I forgive someone I don't know if they kill me? Or should we forgive that person if they almost get killed and become disabled? People's grievances are amplified the longer they are in a group. The risk of crime also increases. Japan is no exception. When did someone hold a grudge...

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From negative thinking to positive thinking

I've asked the question about 2 times. I'm so happy with such a great answer. I'm thinking of moving forward and living. However, it reverts back to negative thinking. My weakness is that I always think negatively. Until now, my thoughts were so positive that I even said it myself. Very...

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Mother is disqualified

I yell at my 3 year old daughter every day It's regular, but there are times when I get pretty angry at my daughter. They don't eat food and only eat snacks, hit the baby's younger brother, behave badly and try to do something with their legs When I do something I definitely want them to stop...

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The fear of making a fatal mistake won't go away

I made a ridiculous mistake that shouldn't have been in the lab. I never did it on purpose, and it was caused by a minor lack of confirmation. When I noticed it, I panicked and thought I'd hide it, but after being tormented by a strong sense of guilt, I thought I wouldn't be able to hide this in...

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How to give a commandment

Recently, monks are an occupation rather than Buddhism (I feel that it's kind of rude when it comes to occupations. I'm sorry.) I became interested. There was a monk at my parents' house to visit the moon, but since they weren't enthusiastic parishioners, they never went to temples. I myself...

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Women are prohibited

Women are prohibited at local festivals, and women aren't even allowed to participate. There were times when I just happened to pass nearby and got hit. There are many restrictions on women all over the country. As is the case with sumo wrestling, there are places in the Buddhist world where...

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How to choose a Buddhist altar

It's early, and tomorrow is the first anniversary of my grandmother's death, Shozuki. By the 49th memorial service (ossuary at the same time) I'm planning to buy a new Buddhist altar. Since children do not inherit Buddhist altars, It ends with my generation... Before that, the stucco wall of...

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My heart is painful

Nice to meet you I'm in pain It's It makes me think “I want to die soon.” Something very difficult happened, It's not that something bad happened, Rather ・With my favorite family We were able to spend time together, eat together, talk together, laugh together ・There are friends...

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