Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I envy my friends around me.

My friend got married. That friend seems to have a job where there is a possibility of regional transfer, and he has been assigned to a department in the Tokyo metropolitan area for a long time. It seems that they are currently also doing fertility treatments. If there is a possibility of a...

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Autumn worries

I feel that I've done something terrible to someone else, and I suffer from a strong sense of self-loathing and guilt. I began to think, “Wouldn't it be easier if I died?” and “I want to go back to heaven where my kind grandfather passed away is.” I have a feeling that I want to atone for my...

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Tips for when you're in a supportive position at work

Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am now in a position to direct the work that is at work. It is the person in charge of issuing instructions to “Please do this” on a fixed day and checking whether it is done properly. There are times when it is difficult to...

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Dissatisfaction with my father

My father lost his parents a few years ago, became depressed, and quit his job. After that, I changed my job to a nursing job at the request of the person himself, but when I got home, I went to bed without eating dinner prepared by my mother. Recently, I started coming home late at night...

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Husband, it's really impossible.

I'm indebted to you. This time, I was exhausted by my husband yesterday, and I want to post it because I want to discuss it. When it comes to what I said, it's about attitudes that lack compassion, imagination, or humility. The event that triggered it was yesterday at my younger child's...

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I don't know the value of my life.

Recently, I've started to want to die a lot. Until before, everyday school life was fun, and I never wanted to die even if things didn't go well. Recently, however, I have doubts about living well. I think I'm blessed with my family, and there are many people I can call my friends....

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Is it aging?

I'll soon be in my 10th year as a working person, and recently I'm not interested in things. I've been fond of anime and games since I was little, and when I was a student, I was so obsessed with it that I forgot to sleep and eat. I also loved daydreaming and drawing illustrations from empty...

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arduous

I can't talk to my classmates, I don't get used to them. It's a story I should do something about myself, but boys are scared and they don't talk, and I don't want to talk about it because there are only stories and bad stories I'm not good at, so I'm in the same class as 2 of my high school...

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What is faith? I'm mad at my father who depends on my dead grandmother

Hello. There was nothing I could do, and after worrying, I would like to discuss it with you. Today, I went to the first anniversary of my grandmother's death. My grandmother is my father's mother. My father's father (my grandfather) passed away when my father was in elementary school, and...

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Living spirits

My parents separated a year ago. My father's long-time DV is the cause. Feeling in danger, I broke up with my father. I've had nightmares every night for the past few months. It's a dream about being strangled or killed by my father. I got sick, and I tend to take time off from work. Is it a...

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Feelings of loneliness or feelings of being too anxious　

　　Originally, I wasn't the social type. I feel like I've gotten divorced and further moved away from my surroundings. I feel more alone now than before. In particular, when I'm alone at night or when I wake up in the morning, I suddenly feel nervous. Looking back now, I think it was...

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Should I start over or start over?

I've been married for 20 years, and I've been subjected to violence all the time. I was strangled in front of my kids in early spring of this year. So much so that the girl who couldn't see it stopped her. I wanted to do something over, so I changed my attitude, but the verbal violence didn't...

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My relationship with my real mother

I'm in trouble because I don't get along with my real mother. My family, including my mother, younger brother, and relatives, didn't get along well with me, and my mother in particular hit me when it came to something, and I was stressed. Until now, I've put up with it because it's bad to fight...

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Why can we make an effort when we might die tomorrow?

“I will live without regrets even if I die tomorrow” With that way of thinking “Work hard to reach your goals” I think that behavior would inevitably contradict each other. If I have a goal I can't achieve in 1 day, I think my regrets will remain if I die in the process, and I have a self...

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I want to calm my anger

Recently, when I get frustrated, I get really upset. Even if you think it's because you're tired, when you feel like you're being hit in eight with others, you feel sorry after getting angry. So sometimes I fall into self-loathing. What kind of way of thinking should I have in order to better...

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What should I do to have confidence in myself

I haven't had confidence in myself since I was little, and even when praised by people around me, I have doubts and can't take it honestly. Therefore, I often become timid at work or in love, and I feel that I am losing money in my life. If I had more confidence in myself, I would be able to...

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Thinking about the future is daunting

After 2 years of marriage, I got married from Shikoku to Tokai, and I got sick and ended up in the hospital. It's an intractable disease that cannot be completely cured, but luckily now I'm in good physical condition, my physical strength has recovered, and I'm thinking of going outside and...

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Being fat

I've had a chubby figure since I was young. I'm still fat now, but due to my personality, I've lived my life until now by smiling and pretending to be positive no matter how slandered my appearance was. But every time, in fact, my heart is really hurt. I'm just pretending to be fine. Recently,...

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What does it mean to decide which denomination you believe in

Nice to meet you. I'm worried because I can't decide which denomination I believe in. I've actually met and listened to wisdom bags and monks before, but I'm not really convinced. This is a copy of the wisdom bag, but I would appreciate it if you could guide me. I'm a high school student living...

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Why do people who are mean make them happier?

An elementary school classmate who hasn't interacted in 13 years said on LINE, “It's been a while! I received content saying “I want you to attend the wedding.” I was hesitant to go, but my mother asked me to go in order to maintain the appearance of my neighbors, so I participated. There...

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