Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About living with a partner who has an intractable illness

Hello. Please tell us what you think about living with an intractable partner and caring for him. Three years ago, when I was living with my partner, he was designated an intractable disease and became disabled. Since I was overseas, I had no relatives I could rely on, and as a result of...

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Words said to me by the president of the company I used to work for

I made a few mistakes at the store I worked at a while ago. That itself was my mistake, so I can understand being warned, but when they were two, the president of that privately owned company said, “You work part-time at that age and don't have a lover, so you'll die alone in the future.” I can...

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The child's name

A fourth son was born in March. I was ignorant, but I named him Shota. I later learned that Futoshi represented the eldest son, and I regret it. I can't get along with my older son, Sanjita. Do you think people around you are strange? I'm uneasy because it's written on the internet...

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I can't go to the class reunion

I haven't been to a class meeting or reunion since I graduated. I've only been guided about 3 or 4 times in the past, but I don't have the courage to go. As a reason... ① Currently, I don't have a relationship with any of my friends from when I was a student. ② I live in my hometown, but...

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What should I do?

I live my life without self-harm as much as possible even though I'm wondering if it means to sink and live at night. I stabbed my wrist with a sewing needle yesterday, but only a little bit; I haven't told my parents; I haven't talked about how difficult it has been recently; even my dad is the...

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Monk's Marital Quarrel Situation

After all, they don't make their voices hoarse, are they just quietly introspecting with “Hum, I'm right now Nikitewol,” and are they just waiting patiently for the storm of emotions to pass? It's not going to be a very intense fight, is it? My family has been fighting all these days with my...

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I want to retire

This is my fourth year as a nurse. From April of last year, I quit the hospital where I had worked until now because I wanted to study and improve my skills, and moved to a large hospital in the city. However, I am currently suffering so much from being busier than I had imagined and...

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If I commit suicide, will I go to hell?

That's the limit. If I commit suicide, my karma will accumulate, suffer after death, and go to hell?

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On the idea that men who can work are appreciated

I am also influenced by my father, who works hard, and by being able to work, people People who are recognized and can't complete their work are not recognized as people I grew up being told, but is this way of thinking correct?

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Is it dangerous to recite the Heart Sutra?

Is it OK for ordinary amateurs to recite sutras? If an ordinary amateur recites the Heart Sutra somewhere before, a ghost will come by and it's dangerous. I heard something like that, is that true? Also, are there any sutras that have a demonic effect or sutras that have an inspirational...

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Please help

I just want to die every day. I want to live a happy life. But it makes me want to die. I don't have the courage to die. What should I do?

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I killed people in past lives

It seems that they killed people in past lives when their fortune telling was assessed. I have no memory, so I don't know who killed him or the reasons that led to it. However, a memorial service was held for the one who killed him, but what should I do in a situation where I don't even...

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I want to decide the day I die and live

I'm writing a question for the first time. About life and death. I'm 24 years old. Three years ago, I was mentally and physically in tatters due to hard work. I was diagnosed with a depressive state by my psychosomatic medicine teacher. At that time, I was asked about life and death by my...

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I have a big fight with my husband in front of my daughter

I'm sorry for the helpless story, but thank you for your support. It's easy to get angry with your husband, and when the switch is on, they taunt and yell at you so much that you can't stop them, and your partner talks back, so it becomes a big fight. My 5-year-old daughter was completely on my...

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I'm tired

Life was too hard mode Please let me die Someone please give me a colosite

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The difference in the weight of the lives of “humans, animals,” and “bugs”

I'm a depressed patient. I don't understand the weight of life. Mosquitoes and cockroaches can be killed, but why are human and animal lives important? It's not like I want to hurt anyone in particular, but bugs don't I don't understand the difference in the weight of life, which is said to...

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The Buddha I worship

Third-generation Buddhas on the land of the Ten Thousand States, There are many Bodhisattvas and celestial gods, There is also little awareness that they belong to a specific temple as a parishioner, There are no Buddha statues close to me Who is in the house What is the Buddha I...

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Sexless, am I disqualified as a husband

A couple with no children in their 30s, and their wife is younger. Shamefully, I have never had sex with my wife. 4 years are about to pass. The other day, my wife's waste was discovered, and when I dug it up, what ran into waste came from dissatisfaction with me not having sex all the time even...

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Things that don't fit in Buddhism

I tried studying Buddhism in search of a way to be saved, but I still couldn't get along. Specific examples There is no point in advocating liberation even if it is impossible for ordinary people to aim for liberation that only Buddha has achieved until now. Would it be convenient? Even though...

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names

My name is my older brother, who was a kindergarten kid, and he said it would be nice to have the same name as his girlfriend's. The kanji for that name was thought up by a city hall employee. After all, I am that kind of person. Nowadays, it's a world where people think hard about pet names,...

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