Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Isn't the way of faith self-reliant

I've always believed in Amitabha and thought I'd be taken to the Pure Land. I don't understand the difficult teachings of the Jodo Shinshu sect. I asked AI myself and listened to monk stories on YouTube. I know Amitabha Buddha's original wish, the teachings of Shinran. I have simply believed...

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Why are these people my parents...

When I confide my pain about my parents, they always come back saying “even though they raised me,” “your parents are disloyal,” and “you are spoiled,” and it's lonely that no one understands it. What's more, they don't believe what my parents did at all. I grew up being abused by my parents....

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I'm always jealous and come to retirement

I'm a housewife in my mid-forties, and I had many years of trouble, so I talked to them. I've been very popular with men since I was young. From when I was in high school, when I got involved even a little with my classmates, school/cram teachers, clerks, people going out to town, and men, I...

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I want to talk to the monk

How can I ask the monk to ask for advice before? So, I got an answer in my worry post that it would be better to call the temple and ask if they could talk to them, and then get an appointment. That's fine, but... - Recently, I've been going directly to the temple to see the monk, even if it's...

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About people who are obsessive and harass you

I've been doing the same thing over and over for years, and I'm worried, but even if I keep my distance from wandering around in front of my house after work (not in the neighborhood) and saying strange things in front of other people at work, when I'm alone, they stick out my tongue and make a...

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I'm filled with the feeling that I've failed in my life

Nice to meet you, I would like to discuss your concerns. I'm a 49 year old female. I have a husband, but I don't have children. I've felt that life is difficult since I was a child, but recently I've come to feel it noticeably. I aimed for a creative job because I wanted to make a...

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My wish came true and I received a degree, but the humanity of the master and monk...

https://hasunoha.jp/questions/77618 This is a continuation of the question above. There was also the fact that the person who introduced me worked enthusiastically, so I received a score at a temple about 100 km away. I went to the trouble several times before receiving it, and after being...

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I want to become a monk of the Jodo Shinshu Otani school!!

I am interested in Shugendo, and while continuing my Yamabushi practice, I have had a desire for years to become a monk of the Shingon sect. I intend to continue my own faith while working as a member of society. Meanwhile, I heard the story of a Jodo Shinshu Otani school monk I met at a...

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How to overcome remorse and self-blame

I would like some advice on how to think about regret and self-blame. Currently, I regret naming my daughter. As a result of considering the origin and number of strokes, I made the kanji sound like a kanji from a year ago and not modern. (I've written a few more details in my profile) I was...

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I changed jobs, got sick, and worried about the future

Even though it's only been a few months since I changed jobs, my mental and physical condition is getting worse, absenteeism has increased, and it's very stressful and painful to be in a situation where I have to decide whether to continue or retire. I've managed to live my life with the help of...

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I have no work experience

I'm currently 28 years old, and I haven't worked since I graduated from a correspondence high school. I've never lived alone, I have no common sense or manners, 10 years have passed, and I'm still unemployed and have no place to stay. I don't even want to do an interview, and it makes me think...

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I feel like I have to make friends

Hello. Not having any friends is very complicated. This is because I think it is the presence or absence of friends of the same sex that you feel necessary without romantic feelings affects your value. I have a partner who has been around for 5 years. We are able to be natural with each...

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Should I move on or let go

I have a lover that I've been dating for 3 years. When I'm with him, I feel as natural as my family. There's a sense of security that they accept whatever kind of person you are, and it's fun to be with them. In fact, even when we kept our distance once, I missed my time with him, and we...

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I can't accept the number of people she's dating

We are alafos to each other. (I have a divorced child, and she has no unmarried children.) It became a story about her and her past lovers, but it seems that they have dated about 30 people until now, and they said that the number of people they have experienced is about 35 people. (It is said...

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Parent trouble in club activities

The kids got into trouble with each other in club activities. This has already been resolved, but the other parent didn't seem to calm down, and when we talked today, they said a lot of criticism and dissatisfaction about my club activities, criticism of my daughter, etc. There is quite a...

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I feel sorry for myself when I was little

When I was little, when I spilled tea, my father often got angry and hit me when I had a fight with my sister. It was natural for me to cry when I was little, but I immediately got angry and hit. When I asked my mother why she didn't stop when she became an adult, she said in words that she...

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I can't sleep.

I think strength and weakness are the two extremes. Perhaps that's why they are often requested to give lectures, and they also receive medication and medical and welfare support. It may just be a coincidence, but the number of requests for lectures has increased dramatically so far. The...

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Attending a wake funeral

I'm always indebted to you. I have questions about attending funeral vigils, and I would like you to let me know. I think everything is a feeling, but in my case, the one that isn't that deep is my wife's wake They attended. That person had a husband and parents. I didn't know my parents, but...

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About suicide

I feel that people who think they have no purpose or meaning in life are the same as dying, but is suicide wrong as a means to die longer than living as a person? Is there any point in suicide?

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I want it because I can see it

Everything I wanted was traded at a high price a few years later. There is also the fact that the thing that stuck at that time was actually a rare item. Even if I narrowed it down within the last 10 years, everything that caught my eye and wanted had changed to something valuable that is...

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