Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I want to know how to be happy

Until now, I have been deeply hurt by my childhood abuse from my foster father and my relationship with my father over the years. I'm in such an extreme state mentally that I think “it won't be solved until you or your partner dies,” and even though I just want to be happy normally, I don't even...

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Self-management

There is a person I met at a marriage hunting party while my gynecology department got caught in the medical examination and was undergoing a re-examination, so why don't you start a relationship after the re-examination results came out thinking about the future? I told them, but they said they...

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Way of life

Please tell me what are the minimum requirements necessary for living (It doesn't matter if it's a personal thought) Personally, I think it's study and work

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I doubt the feeling of losing

It seems like the person I've liked until now has a fixed partner. She's also my friend. When I realized the relationship between the two, I felt like I had lost. I had doubts about myself thinking “I lost.” Certainly, I couldn't shoot him, so speaking of losing, I lost, Isn't...

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What is mind control?

On this site, you can receive opinions from monks of various denominations in response to the same consultation, so it's very helpful. However, since there are various monks, I feel that there are things that “fit or don't fit” from their sentences, style, and content. There are cases where...

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Temple succession issues

Nice to meet you. I'm indebted to you. You cannot take over the temple at your parents' house unless you are a male chief priest in a child temple. So, at first, I started saying that my older sister, who is the eldest daughter, will marry a monk and take over the temple, As my younger...

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Which one should I change my last name to when I get married

Nice to meet you, as the title says. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for six months and have now been living together, and now it's been 3 years. They are older people they can rely on, and they often get along, so we were both aware of marriage from an early stage. I just...

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Relationship with the Deputy Chief Priest

Hello, I would like to discuss your concerns. The other day, the deputy chief priest (26) confessed that he wanted me to go out with me. The eldest son is the chief priest of the temple there, and the second son, he, is the deputy chief priest. Also, the third son is a bank employee, and the...

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Is the Pure Land in this world or the next

Is the Pure Land of Paradise simply a world after death, or is it like a state of mind that can be reached even when alive? Generally speaking, it seems that the Jodo sect Chinzei school explains that it is the world after death, and the Nishiyama school, the Jodo Shinshu sect, the Ji sect,...

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He has a habit of getting along and is also an insane person

Until now, I had acted from my own point of view or my own assumptions without being aware of the situation, and I had hardly thought about future prospects or people's feelings. I didn't have any thoughts to think about the future or people's feelings. In addition to being easily irritated, they...

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Continuing from last time

I had a consultation about a week ago. After that, the results and settlement were made. I told him that I wanted his underwear etc. to be returned, and as expected, I wrote a letter today with the intention of taking action, and posted it in the mailbox saying “If you can't return it by the...

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Whether it's a monk or a general company, about career paths

I'm a 21 year old college student. My father is a Nichiren sect monk, and I am the eldest son. To put it bluntly, I'm in trouble with my career path. Since you've already earned a monk, the most efficient way to become a monk is to go to college and get a good fortune. Also, many of the monks...

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Aren't only people who insist on being humble are bossy?

The other day, painful news was reported that a new employee was cursed by the lecturer saying “until when are you doing tengu” and “wake up,” and that they have taken a life with a future at the training. There are things I think about in response to this report, and I think about it in...

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Having an excellent extramarital child for each couple

First of all, I apologize first that consultations that deviate from such public values come into contact with the eyes of other people. “Is it ego for each couple to create excellent extramarital children?” I have a fiancé. She is a beautiful woman who is a model, influencer, and...

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Are you worried too much about neighborhood issues?

Are you overthinking it? I bought the building 2 years ago, and the garden is adjacent and only the low fence is at the same construction and sales company At first, the kid's ball that came to play next to me overcame the fence, and there were a few times when the child went into the garden...

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About the commandment of staying at home

I believe in Buddhism while staying at home, and I am working hard on my life (practice) by being aware of each item of the “Ten Good Commandments” over and over again every day. From a certain person, “There is no way that those who live in the house can keep the precepts.” I received your...

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Relationship with him like avoidant attachment disorder

Hello. I have an older boyfriend who I've been dating for about six months. As soon as we started dating, it became a marriage story, and I introduced it to people around me and my parents like that. However, his temper is very unstable, and when I looked it up, I thought the state of...

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I want to get rid of my addiction to a counselor on the internet

I'm sorry that I've asked the same question over and over again. Also, please. Every time I get an answer, I calm down a bit, but after a few days, confusion occurs. Even though I was searching the internet in search of “happiness,” I found it embedded in spiritual blogs and sites and...

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How to deal with an unreasonable boss

Nice to meet you. I'm a 27 year old office worker. I posted it because I wanted to ask about how to deal with an unreasonable boss at work and how to have feelings. I have a boss at work who is in a position to manage the team. However, those people hardly listen to the opinions of their...

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About the succession issues between my temple and other temples

I am currently single in my forties, and I am the chief priest at a rural rural temple. I followed in the footsteps of my parents, stopped working in my 20s, finished my training at the head temple, and after getting a monk's license, I entered the world of temples without knowing...

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